I will admit that it does become frustrating when you are taught a doctrine in a
seminary class or sunday school and then the prophet gives answers like, "I
don't know that we teach it" or gives other answers that confirm doubt
of the doctrine. It makes life difficult, but it is perfectly fine to question.
Even our prophets are unsure of God's doctrine. Example, why
do our prophets and apostles debate doctrine?
JoeBlow posted:=However, to believe that the answers given on Church
approved "sources" are=unbiased and complete, would be naive.Every investigator of the LDS Church should definitely give serious
thought tothe possibility that "the answers given on Church approved
'sources'" might justpossibly be biased and incomplete. But
if that investigator asks God if Godendorses those Church approved
sources, God's answer most definitely will not bebiased or
incomplete.=I am always intrigued how little the missionaries that
knock on my door about=some of the less "faith-promoting" history
of the LDS church.Were B's questions even about the
"history of the LDS church"?Kevin S
To avoid a question leads to suspicion that there must be something to hide.
Seeking answers to legitimate questions is the essence of reason -- man's
primary tool of knowledge -- the faculty that assists one in understanding
reality. Emotions are not tools of cognition, but rather the result
of one's value judgments. What one feels reveals nothing about the facts --
it merely makes one feel good or bad about his/her estimate of the facts.
Mom's hysteria is telling. Don't kill the messenger.
A distinction needs to be made between:Questioning just for sake of
questioning everything,and asking a question to gain further
enlightenment and knowledge (these type of questions need an answer).
Joe Blow's testimony, or lack of it, seems to depend more on a biased
interpretation of the LDS Church than on the spiritual blessings that come from
actively seeking the truth. We have enough current problems with human behavior
to use those of the past to discredit why ancestors did certain things. When we
run into a historical issue that bothers us, why not ask: have we changed all
that much? And how can I improve (not excuse) my own behavior?
Dennis, in her heart she probably does know the answers and wishes she
wehn we ask questions it is because we are looking for the hope of the right
answer. prayer brings that comfort we seek about the gospel. kneeling in private
personal prayer, studying the scriptures, ask earnest questions but be ready for
the answers. do not tell our heavenly father what you expect ask him what he
expects and needs you to do. the answers will come. i can understand the
mother's fear. i have been there with a child. she needs to pray for
guidance in answering correctly.
You Mom probably doesn't know the answers.
The fact is a healthy, intelligent human questions everything they are told.
Otherwise we are just robots, and can easily be controlled, and abused, by
others. The scary fact is that questioning your faith can strengthen it, or
weaken it. But going through life afraid of what we do not know, do not
understand, makes us weak as people, unable to justify our beliefs when
confronted. Questioning things is, essentially, growing up.
15 Feb 1965 I left the home I spent the fist 18 years of my life, in Dallas,
Texas, and reported to Ft. Polk, LA, to begin Basic Training, for the Army of
The United States of America. Having been born in Dallas, I was shocked when I
wen into a classroom one day and found the topic of the class was, "What it
means to be an American." The instructor said the reason for the class was
that during the second Korean Conflict there were more "Turncoats,"
(American soldiers that were captured by the North Koreans, and were later
brainwashed into siding with the North Koreans.) This was believed that too
many Americans took America for granted and knew nothing about what America
stands for. This is still very true today.Just as every American needs a
personal testimony of what it means to be an American, every member of any group
needs the same strong personal testimony of the beliefs that their group was
founded on. This includes The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints.
Some questions are not easy to get satisfactory answer. It is good not to keep
going over the same ground until it becomes more of a problem. One can just
wait until the answer comes from Father in Heaven. We can exercise faith in the
things we know and wait for answers that are less important. Can you imagine
worrying a lot about where the 10 Lost tribes are. We can reflect on the
prayers we have had answered and on our blessings we receive on a daily basis.
It is good to dwell on good things not on less important things.
One reason the mother is reacting like she is is that her own knowledge and
ability to answer those question may be weak. In that case, her testimony is
based more on faith and less on knowledge. She may be afraid that those
questions that she doesn't want to face would threaten her own testimony.
If that is the case, the daughter should find someone else who can answer those
questions and then go back and "teach" her mom, "Hey Mom! Guess what
I learned today!" Her Mom could then take those things and ponder them in
Certainly, there are sites that have a strong bias against the LDS church.However, to believe that the answers given on Church approved
"sources" are unbiased and complete, would be naive.I am
always intrigued how little the missionaries that knock on my door about some of
the less "faith-promoting" history of the LDS church.
No question about the gospel should be off-limits, so long as we look to the
right sources for answers. That being said, those who are losing their
testimonies often don't recognize that they are.
She should be asking questions. The first time I taught Gospel Essentials I
wrote on the chalkboard, "Gaining knowledge will build testimonies, which
will lead to eternal life". Then I explained it to the class. Since then,
I've thrown out a few reminders. If her mother dos'nt want to
participate, I hope there's somebody in her ward that will. I became
inactive because I did'nt have a testimony, only used others. I spent 4
years slowly building a testimony before accelarating about a year ago, and came
back to church a few months later. My wife was baptized this past Tuesday, only
after spending six months finding her testimony. I hope the young lady keeps
I joined at 18 and my family were not members and so after graduation I moved to
Utah where I had friends who brought me into the church. I asked lots and lots
of questions and I probably dmves theme nuts. I agree with anglelas answer
completely. Make it a matter of sincere prayer and the lord and the holy ghost
will help you. Maybe your mother is just overeacting for some unknown reason.
As others have said just tell her hoe you feel. Good luck and God bless.
Final comment: I don't want to come off as judgmental for why someone is
asking questions about the Gospel so apologies if I appeared to be judging. I
hope the best for this young woman in her search for truth and that she and her
mother will find positive ways to share what they are learning about life and
Great advice! Elder Holland's recent teaching applies here: "do not
start your quest for faith by saying how much you do not have, leading as it
were with your “unbelief.” That is like trying to stuff a turkey
through the beak! Let me be clear on this point: I am not asking you to pretend
to faith you do not have. I am asking you to be true to the faith you do have.
Sometimes we act as if an honest declaration of doubt is a higher manifestation
of moral courage than is an honest declaration of faith. It is not! So let us
all remember: Be as candid about your questions as you need to be; life is full
of them on one subject or another. But if you and your family want to be healed,
don’t let those questions stand in the way of faith working its
miracle." Like advised, perhaps if you led with your testimony more often
with your mother, you would have a better, more helpful setting within which to
discuss and explore your questions. And, under the influenced of the spirit,
you both will be edified.
from article--"and that you’re seeking to deepen your understanding of
the gospel rather than to poke holes in it."The very first thing
is to be very honest with YOURSELF, of you real intent. Is it to deepen
your understanding? Or to poke holes in it.
So be patient with your mother, try to see her motivation rather than her
execution, and pray that she’ll do the same for you. Great
advice! If we (me) could all do that one sentence with everyone we experience
conflict, frustration, etc with, the world would be a better place.
"She has expressed worry and frustration and even disappointment in my
“behavior."This is the sad thing about those who are very
religious. Just because YOU believe does not make it true (or false) Why cant
your kid question without being made to feel bad?Heck, why cant your
kid weigh all the info and come to their own conclusion, even if that means
"leaving the church"?The social pressure, especially in
Utah, can be overbearing on people, kids included.One must ask if
this kind of pressure contributes to the high suicide rates in Utah.
Angela,I think your questions were spot on to help this person
understand where where questions are coming from and how she is asking. John
Adams said that God "has given us reason to find out the truth, and the real
design and true end of our existence." If the object of our questioning is
to search for truth, then we will arrive at the truth. I've
observed people on both extremes who either have their minds made up and have
stopped searching for truth (this applies to many fields including both Science
and Religion) and others who continually ask questions without hearing or
wanting to understand the answers. Real searching implies that we learn - we
form our own conclusions and observations while being open to discovery. Whether
in a profession or as parents, as we grow older, others rely on our knowledge
and wisdom for guidance. What is our purpose in questioning? At what point will
this young woman be a well of wisdom for her children or others in her life?Finally, if her mother isn't comfortable in answering her
questions, are there others she trusts that she can talk to?