I have encouraged all of my children to avoid pairing off in high school. All
of them did or have so far except for my eldest. My son met his future wife at
the pool when they were 12. She doesn't remember that but they became best
friends starting in middle school. I knew when I first met her when they were
13 that there was something about this girl that was special to my son. We
laughed because it seemed like they spent more time with each other than anybody
they happened to be dating at the time. When they started dating in high school
no one was surprised. Thankfully she waited for him and they are expecting their
first child next week after 2 1/2 years of marriage. I understand the concerns
of people who talk about pairing off and are judging this couple, but having
experienced something similar as a parent I can see that there are some people
who meet the one for them early on. It is a worry. It is important in these
cases to be vigilant as parents and to teach our children to keep high moral
standards. It can be done
I was in a similar situation. I was a convert; the love of my life invited me
to investigate after a year. I had a spiritual prompting that the Church is
true and I was baptized soon after, though I did not want to serve a mission
because we were committed to marrying each other. I later received a powerful
Patriarchal Blessing, then a testimony from that Patriarch in Priesthood weeks
later. I decided to serve a mission, since she wasn't ready to get married.
It was VERY hard to leave her! I had a difficult mission but it was worth it.
She promised to wait but she was dating two months later, and visited me in my
mission president's office a few months later to tell me she was marrying
someone else! She introduced me to him-great guy.Even though it
didn't work out, I was glad she introduced me to the Church. I met my
wonderful wife on my mission. Going steady brought me into the Church and
taught me The Gospel; sometimes it does work out. Follow the Spirit!
Somebody's missing the point here: this couple played it right, what could
be a better example? I had a friend who was concerned about general advice given
by the brethren; the girl he was dating worked in the church office building.
When he spoke to some of the brethren about his concern, their reply was:
"We have no worry about the two of you." So how about relaxing a bit?As to those of you who consider it a boring, non-worthy news story, why
not let the rest of us enjoy? I'll suffer through the miserable stories you
want if you'll let me have a bit of pleasure in mine.
This comment feed made me laugh when those of you questioned why it was listed
in the Top News...it is because it was a popular article and viewed by more
people than the other articles. Get a clue people!! It is a nice human interest
story. As for the person concerned about Deseret News only publishing "real
news" where have you been?? There is a reason a newspaper is divided into
different sections. If you only want "real news" you better just stay
in the news section!! Warning...don't leave that section.... Heaven forbid
Deseret News should expand themselves to include a story that would bring a
smile to the face of people. And for the person who was critical of this girl
"waiting" you must not have read the article carefully enough to see
what interesting education she was receiving during that time. Also, what makes
you think "waiting" was all she was doing? As for love goes...I
"fell in love" at 15 years of age and have been happily married for well
over 30 years. So, it is best if don't question how someone else feels.
There, I feel better!
byufootballrocks; there is an appropriate time and place for expounding doctrine
and encouraging sound guiding principles. This article is not about teen dating
protocols and certainly was not intended to be a piece in support of "steady
dating." Using the contextual footnote of this couple's long
relationship as an opportunity to grab a bully pulpit (with piety) neither
furthers your cause (warning of the dangers of steady dating) nor takes away the
luster of a fun, feel good piece. It just makes you appear stodgy and
self-righteous. If anything, it could make people question your motives or
ambitions. Part of the art of giving good counsel, is having the wisdom to know
when and where it should be dispensed. I am so happy for these
great kids who are doing really good things.
It is nice to have a human interest story once in a while. Kinda breaks up all
the bad news.I appreciate stories like these.Good luck to these two
To: Just an Observer....I'm shaking my head at your negative and slighed
comment. Why can't you just be happy for someone else? I always welcome
good, positive and uplifting news and this certainly filled the bill. I hope
your feelings and attitude will be uplifted soon.
To all who have deemed this article unworthy of being news, I would remind you
that this was not published in the breaking news section, it was published in
the Faith section. If you want to read about the most recent shooting, or the
current economic and social issues facing our state or nation, then go read the
News, Money, or Opinion section. For the rest of us that enjoy reading about
encouraging, uplifting, happy, and celebratory experiences, we will continue
reading the Faith section and enjoy doing so.
That is Great! Now put ring on it...
I've always assumed that the top stories are the result of how many people
click on them. I could be wrong, but I think I'm right. Thus, it is a top
news story because more people found the headline intriguing. Those commenting
negatively apparently found it intriguing enough to read it to.A nice,
positive human interest story. That is why I clicked.
Wow. Lot of bitter, short-sighted people here.I, for one, proposed
to my wife in a very public setting....at a church dance in front of 300 people
with the participation of all 300 people. It was a blast. My only regret was I
didn't videotape it.My advice to this soon-to-be-couple is
ignore those here with small minds and smaller hearts.Marry. Be
kind to each other. Be happy.
Cute story, good luck to the couple. I hope this unusual homecoming celebration
will sustain their dream marriage happily thereafter; and not the match
OK, for all those that asked why this had to be listed as Top News, I get the
Deseret News e-mail most every day, and THIS story was the only story I read in
the e-mail from that day. So blame me, and people like me, because I'm the
customer they were trying to please.Thanks for publishing that,
Deseret News, I enjoyed it.
This is going to be one awkward video in two years when they've both
married someone else.
Nice human interest story, thanks. It appears that some DN readers have had a
bad day and want the same for others.
She should have been working on her education. YW should never "wait."
They should make the RM's run to catch with them!
"I didn't put any restrictions on Brittany..." he said.Huh?Somebody thinks he's in love but doesn't really know
what love is.
Cute little story. But, I, too, do not understand how this constitutes news that
shows up in the feed as one of the most important news stories. How is that? It
is a story that easily fits into the Church's magazines. But, in a
newspaper? One that is supposed to actually give us news? I am disappointed in
the Deseret News for the decision to run this cute little vignette of life. Come
on people. Newspapers are to disseminate news, real news. Not little stories
about people jumping out of boxes after having been gone for two years.
Re: Josey Wales and those who choose to judge the messenger:I
wasn't "pointing out the bad." You only get 200 words here. Please
don't gainsay what I chose to focus on. I mean no ill will toward this
couple and wish them well. What I was pointing out is that stories
such as this can be misjudged by our youth who sometimes are misled to believe
that they are in the minority among LDS youth when they choose to follow the
Prophet in dating matters. It's a wonderful thing that they
are getting married and that he served his mission.Nevertheless our
youth are being counseled to put off serious relationships and pairing off until
they are in college and preferably when the young man is back from his mission.
To emphasize this story in my view creates confusion. It's right there from
the First Presidency in "For the Strength of Youth." President Packer
said it, President Hinckley more than once; it's the emphasis in our Church
magazines, and on lds.org. I don't know how our leaders could be
clearer.Our youth have every reason to feel good about waiting to
Lighten up people. It was fun reading about Josh in the box.the people leaving
negative remarks reads to much off the bad that goes on to laugh at people who
love life and each other
I don't see anything wrong with that... Those who gave negative comment, to
be judgmental! That attitude isn't good for us being an "LDS".
Rather, be happy for this couple. I can see through this video that they will
going to have a healthy family (eternally). This video will serve as
a very good example to every young couples out there who will going to be far
away with each other for 2 years serving in Full-Time Mission. This video will
encouraged them how they will endure with their relationships...Gosh, there are still a lot of negative thinkers out there even you have the
Gospel in your life already...For Josh and Britt, I am happy for
you... You're such an encouraging couple...
I for one, felt this was a most uplifting and fun article. I am so happy for
them and there is no reason why anyone, unless unhappy with their own situation
would begrudge this happy young couple. A couple that is not sexually
active, just faithful children of God of whom is very pleased with their
choices. Good for them - I hope they will have a very healthy, happy and
rewarding life together.
Awesome, good for them! Why do some people want to hate on a happy ending
story? byufootballrocks wants to point out all the bad, instead of liking the
good. Sadly, that is the problem with many members of this faith. Very
judgmental and they want everyone to know that they are good and those around
them are sinners. very sad.
Loved it, to me, this is the kind of news I always want to hear. I'm 65, I
know the ups and downs life can bring. These kinds of memories will help carry
them through the tougher times...
I try to be a good person. Not against apple pie or moms. Don't mean to
stir controversy. However the publication of this article was not good. This couple's engagement sounds wonderful. However it is the clear
exception rather than the rule. For that reason it should not be celebrated
publicly this way. The First Presidency recently and over the last
several years counsels our youth strongly: "Avoid steady dating" in high
school. For every single happy ending for those who disregard this
counsel, there have been numerous tragedies. President Hinckley said of teenage
romancers: "The longer a couple are together, the more likely they are to
get in trouble." Meaning transgression. When you pair off like this the only
options are either to marry or ultimately start having problems. Only the blind
would disagree with our Prophets and Apostles' counsel. Each
says "I'm the exception." It's a deception. We can easily fall
for "airplane syndrome." Airline transportation has proven safer than
automobiles. When one crashes that incident gets all the attention. The few
couples (a huge minority) who disregard the counsel and successfully thread the
needle this way ought not be applauded.
Boooorrrrriiiiinnnnggggggg!!! Why is this news?
This is dumb. Why promote this kind of thing in the DesNews?
Hmmm. Nice little puff piece, but does it qualify as news that needs to be on
the Top Stories list? And yes, I'm LDS. Happy to share the Gospel, happy
to counter same-gender "equal rights" talk, etc. Just... don't use
a slow news days as an excuse to put this in the Top Stories.
Mormon's rock! That was legit. Good work Elder!