DenMomCorvallis, MTSame in Montana - four or five kids is seen as
crazy! And sadly, sometimes the moms with a lot of kids seem that way. Around
here, you have two maybe three but parents give their whole life and all your
attention to them which seems like a good thing. It's hard to be at every
soccer game when you have six kids.This is something I wonder about.
Is it that healthy for parents to treat children as if the world revolves around
them? It does not. Is it possible that this is where people are getting the idea
that the world owes them? Perhaps if they learned to share and work together in
a family instead of always having parents run them all over the place as if the
parents were their servants the kids might grow up to be more unselfish? I
can see why parents treat their child as so 'privileged' when they
only have one or two. Parents are still at the kids are toys stage. Have five
and the children learn to interact in helpful ways with others because its
necessary for a sane household.
I think I jumped into the Hot tub time machine and ended up back in 1950!
Same in Montana - four or five kids is seen as crazy! And sadly, sometimes the
moms with a lot of kids seem that way. Around here, you have two maybe three but
parents give their whole life and all your attention to them which seems like a
good thing. It's hard to be at every soccer game when you have six kids.
Johnny: having lived in seattle area, that's already the case. having 5
kids was mind-boggling to most people I met.
Sadly, the day will come or maybe it already has, where the people we meet are
shocked and amazed that someone chose to have more than one or two children. I
have lived in China now for almost 2 years and some of my expat neighbors have 2
or more children. The look from the "locals" is amazement and envy. Many
of the older generation remember when more than one child was normal - it is not
now.What happens when the USA has a self-imposed one child policy? From my
experience here in China the results will be more devastating than anyone can
imagine. Hopefully we will see a change in focus among the "entitlement
generation" that will cause a reversal in this trend. I personally doubt
that it will happen as the future looks bleaker each day for the next
generation. The search for happiness isn't found from what I have or where
I can go but from how can I give. The family is a means of happiness that
exceeds the costs and inconveniences. I hope that the "entitlement
generation" might learn that lesson before it is too late.