Oh boy! I hope Erin is ready for the counter offensive.It is simply
amazing to me to witness the incredibly defensive responses that inevitably
follow opinions like hers. Never mind that those opinions are almost invariably
accompanied by caveats. Such as, they **are** only opinions. Or, that they
reflect the experiences of only one person and are not meant to be anything more
than a cautionary tale of personal experience. Etc., etc.Instead,
many leap to the conclusion that this person is prescribing the single best path
to follow, or avoid, for **everyone** of whatever "community" they are
portrayed as representing.I used the word "portrayed"
advisedly because I suspect this phenomenon is at least partly (perhaps largely)
due to an attempt by attention-craving "journalists" to couch almost
everything as some sort of confrontational "controversy", for much less
than noble ulterior reasons.So, here's my cautionary advice to
individuals in the community of all humanity.Try to find **your
own** point of balance. It will almost certainly be a bit different than anyone
else but also as certainly, it will have many elements in common with
everyone.Let the reactions to this "controversy" begin!
We can't all be CFO's or CEO's or own our own successful
business.An amazing thing, is that the thing that most of us can
have, having a family and being with family is actually more fulfilling than
some of the more rare and difficult things of life.
Not everyone is able to have children and that is very difficult for those that
want them. Unfortunately some treat their children as though they don't
want them. It is truly tragic for a woman to pass the opportunity to have
children and then see her regret it later. For those women I feel a bit of
compassion. And for those who would be a terrific spouse but have no offers of
marriage, I also feel badly to see them basically unfulfilled on one of their
strongest yearnings and desires. This makes me appreciate the women
in my life (a full-time working mother because she had to but never was
satisfied that employment was her ideal), a stay-at-home daughter who loves her
child as much as any I have ever seen, and my wife who works part time but takes
care of me 24/7/365 and likes to do things together. Each is happy and I am so
blessed by them.Women have a great way of balancing life's
challenges and multi-tasking. They have true capacity to be an influence for
good in many lives, not just their own. I honor them.
Invincible, women are truly invincible. You need to have boundary's, the
line that that should not be crossed, but the conclusion to the commitment
sneaks up on you. A workaholic.
I can feel the regret in her words. If someone had said that to her, or to many
other successful women in the workplace, they would have been roundly criticized
as trying to keep women from fulfilling their potential. She can say it, and I
appreciate the courage it takes for her to do so.Fulfilling some
forms of potential comes at the price of other forms of potential. I appreciate
those who choose the one they want, and cringe at the criticisms that invariably
comes from those who believe success in the workplace trumps success in the
home.The home is the most important workplace!