This article made me think back to "The Battle Hymn of the Tiger
Mother". Her kids really did become virtuosos, but at a pretty steep price.
We Americans may be "behind" in many areas compared to parents in other
countries, but I think kids who are well-rounded are more likely to be happy and
less stressed in life.
I totally agree with this statement, First, most kids eventually gravitate to
what they love and to what their real, inherent skills and gifts lead them to.
It’s great if parents can expose them to enough things that they can find
what they love, but it’s the kids, not the parents, who have to find their
passions." I think this is true with friends. We can try all we want to get
our kids together with the kids we think they should play with when in fact they
are capable of finding their own good friends! Let's give our kids lots of
love and opportunity and they will grow into the people they are meant to be.
I have seen the same thing with my family. We have a large family as well and I
have learned that well rounded builds them into adults who are aware of the
sacrifice and commitment made by those who do excel. The last 3 of 13 children
are not being allowed to quit piano tho...as all the older siblings tell them
that they wish they hadn't quit!
Interesting thing on Music and other things. I hear High school mucis teachers
say music makes kids smarter and some parents mothers will say you can't do
anything else until practice is up to date your learning the hymns. John Tesh
type things.Hear a few parents expect nothing but A;s on there
report. Expect the kids to be all state athletes. While those things are nice
I don't think they are necessary. Some kids may be great at music, at
sports, at school, Can fix anything others can't. Balance I think is
finding talent and utilizing it. Not everyone will be a musician or athlete or
straight a student. You can excell in your talents and be good people though.
Don't tell those music teachers, higv, but a study released several years
ago revealed that there is actually no causal linkage between musical ability
and academic ability. According to the study, the two simply coincide in many
cases, but one doesn't precipitate the other.If your child
takes music lessons and is able to play like a pro someday, that'll be a
bonus (albeit a very precious one!). The real value, however, is the qualities
like discipline, consistency, perseverence and concentration that he'll
develop in the process. In the Eyres' case, look at all the time
they've spent together making music as a family.I'm a
music teacher, by the way.
Whew! This article makes me feel better. Used to joke that I kept having
children hoping for a musical virtuoso, but we had to have one marry into the
family, and that works, too! The long years of nagging mother and dragging
children to music lessons paid off somehow. I am sure they appreciate music
more. (I hope). If we had to do it over again, I wouldn't change much,
except maybe try to be less grouchy about it.
Music is one of the most beautiful gifts we have in our stress harrowed world. I
expose my children to many instruments and see what they gravitate to. One is
guitar, one fiddles with piano, the other has finally picked up the native
american flute. I also expose them to many types of music as well. Each one of
my kids listens to a different style of music than the other for studying or
during outdoor activities. Each so far, has a genuine appreciation for music.
For example, one has ADHD and loves symphony music and Kitaro/David Arkenstone
types. Music blesses our family in many ways. it has helped to foster closeness.
Whether it is practicing an instrument for horrible rock band night or belting
out vocals in the wrong tones or simply listening, our family has truly been
blessed by music in our journey to well roundedness