My wife has been both a working mom and a stay-at-home mom. Both have their
challenges, and neither leaves mom with much free time. I'm sure other
peoples' experiences are different, but that's what we've
experienced in our home.I took on my wife's responsibilities
for a few days when we had three young children at home. It was eye-opening. I
had no idea how much she did just to keep up the house. I recommend that every
working parent with a stay-at-home spouse go through this exercise. It helped
me gain a much greater appreciation for what my wife does and how hard she
works. It has greatly helped us understand each other's needs and
Most Mom's whether LDS or something else are blogging to make money, and
then have to find the time. Stay-at-home mothers don't have a lot of time
on their hands. They are doing the work of housekeeper, maid, chef, babysitter,
transporting their children, and seeing that they are making their home the best
they can. Many blogger Mom's do it at night when everyone is asleep. Many
work so hard at it, that they make more money than the breadwinner. Also I know
some blogging Mom's who also have a full time job and do this for extra
money. Whoever said that being a stay-at-home mom gives you lots of free time is
No offense but it is just ignorant to think that a mom that works FT and parents
works any less harder than a stay at home mom. Let me give you some advice, if
you have no idea what it is like to work FT and be a parent then pipe up.
1- Someone in Centerville needs sweetener with that vinegar. Be nice and
enjoy life. Just because people don't share all points of theology,
doesn't mean that they are trying to denigrate. You can disagree amicably,
or define differences w/out a debate.I meant no insult, just a
factual comment on the Mormon teaching that I grew up with. Some deep Bible
study will help one understand my comment that there is nothing close to 2Nephi
2:25 in the Bible. I taught everything from seminary, Relief Society Education
to my BYU ward Sunday School class for 35 years. I know the differences. Some
are subtle, some stark. 2- I think the "too much time"
comments can be true, but they are not universally accurate. I have several
neices who blog, many who essentially do that on Facebook. Most of the FBers
are working moms; all of the bloggers are. We are amazed at the discipline and
time involved, all in the wee hours. Their reasons vary, but the common thread
is to leave a journal legacy for their children and ancestors. Now that is
I'm not saying anything negative about stay-at-home moms. I was raised by 2
working parents ... pretending a stay-at-home mom works as hard being a mother
as a mom who works FT AND is a mother is flawed. But nothing against them.
It's just reality like others posted ... more free time! Especially when
kids are of age to be in school the majority of the day. Momma's at home
blogging, cleaning, cooking, etc.
LValfre's theory can be summed up w/ 4 words... Lots of free time.
I love how the born-again community will often denounce and refute the restored
gospel and then in the next sentence affirm it. After chiding an LDS poster for
using an LDS scrpture that says "men are that they might have joy" the
post goes on to affirm "Ultimate happiness and true joy will only be found
in God's Eternal Kingdom for those who accept our Lord Jesus Christ's
sacrifice". Do they not understand that both posters are essentially
saying the same thing? Do you really think that there is an LDS belief that
ultimate joy is possible without accepting that Jesus is Lord and Savior? Maybe
someone needs the discussions again.
I guess if don't work you have a lot of time on your hands
I love the comment from Chicago denigrating stay-at-home moms. Note: usually to
be a stay at home parent it takes another member of the parenting team working
and earning a living to support the family. Dare I say that if Chicago had more
stay-at-home moms (and the committed fathers providing for their families)
Chicago wouldn't have near the gang, crime, drop-out, (new term) "gun
violence" problem that they do now becuase they have chosen to disregard the
value of a strong two parent family unit.
Thank you, BigSamoan, for reminding me of essential and peculiar LDS theology of
"man's happiness". I haven't heard that taught for the past
27 years that I have been an avid born-again, Biblical follower of Jesus!It isn't a Biblical goal or teaching: Rather the Bible teaches
that man's goal is to glorify God. If happiness is granted, so be it. Ultimate happiness and true joy will only be found in God's Eternal
Kingdom for those who accept our Lord Jesus Christ's sacrifice. Sometimes it takes a fresh look from member's sharing and exuberance to
recall former teachings. Since all my family are LDS, we have love of family in
common and spend our shared time enjoying each other's families and
activities, not in discussing theological differences.You have given
me an inspirational idea for a "former Mormon" blog, so that the
theology can be shared and discussed by those who request it. For years I have
had packets with former members' testimonies. Now I see a way to reply
without offense, maintaining the "happiness" of our friendships.
I for one, sigh!!! Love positive news! Everyone should use this example to put
forth their positive "foot" for the greater good of humanity. Bravo!
girls, keep up the good work.
@LValfre -A stay-at-home mother is not unemployed. She works as
hard or harder than a woman who chooses to leave her children in the care of
others to go seek a career outside of her home. The fact that they can do that
AND find time to blog speaks more to their ability to multi-task and get things
accomplished than to their amount of free time. Respect mothers!
B/c so many are unemployed stay-at-home moms! Who else has time to blog?
It's wonderful how the Lord is using women in the church to be an influence
for good and righteousness to the world. Anytime someone's life is touched
for the better I'm sure the Lord is pleased. After all, isn't joy the
object of our existence? "Adam fell that men might be, and men are, that
they might have joy." 2Ne. 2:25.