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What we know about children is that when we praise them for achieving a goal (are perfectionistic) rather than for a good effort, they tend to become anxious learners who are afraid of failure. When we praise them for a good effort, they are comfortable with failure, preserve their curiosity, and work harder and with less conflict. The message we want to give is that we admire them for trying and that no one can succeed 100 percent. For a parenting book that embodies this philosophy with strategies for every age and stage, see Smart Love: The Comprehensive Guide to Understanding, Regulating, and Enjoying Your Child
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