My condolences to the family and friends of the couple. For those who are
shocked that there were no previous reports of domestic violence, know that most
people do not report DVe--just as most kids do not report when they are being
abused. It is sadly the norm. Did she tell a friend? Her bisho? Anybody?
Maybe not. We still have a blame the victim type mentality... "why
didn't she leave" rather than blaming the abuser. It can take 6, 7, or
more times for a woman to leave her abuser--and she is most vulnerable when she
leaves. Today is the anniversary of the death of Aasiya Zubair, a well-educated
woman from Buffalo NY whose husband killer her and then beheaded her. She was
just 1 of 3 women who likely died that day... as we know that every day three
women are killed by their partners in this country. We know that one in four
women will be a victim of domestic violence in her lifetime. Prayers for her
Both of these people came from good, close families. Such a total shock.Sending prayers for their families, and especially the poor children.
Good grief! The only people who are "more violent" when weapons are
present are those already prone to violence. No one I know who owns a gun has
ever used them to harm another person. And I know hundreds of gun owners.
I've never looked in my safe, saw a gun and thought, "hey, I think
since there is a gun here, I'll go kill someone". Bad argument.
My heart goes out to the children. Heartbreaking decision by their father that
will impact their lives forever. old switcharoo- we should focus
on the fact that these kids just lost their both their parents in one terrible
day. Leave the gun debate for another forum and time.
There is a well known phenomena in sociology called the "weapons effect"
that shows people are actually more violent when there are weapons present or
even pictures of weapons.More guns in our society will always mean
more acts of violence because it is a primal human behavior that we barely
suppress with decades of social training and actual safety. It's just naive
to believe that more guns = less violence.
According to Price Police Captain Bill Barnes, there had been no history of
"domestic discord" in the home, making the incident all the more
surprising."From the outside, it certainly came out of the
blue," he said. "It's a shock to everybody that knew them.
It's very horrific!"============Has there been
a history of mental illness (depression, and SSRI anti-depressant
medications?)Sad.It's all too familar.
This is sad news to hear. The trauma these poor children are going through
knowing their dad killed their mother and then himself. I don't care how
bad things can get, this is not the way out. My family and I have been living
through a tremendous amount of challenges for the last 20+ months with health
issues (the latest of me going blind), plus the full-time care of our oldest
grandson who has special needs. It is a blessing though, he could have taken
the whole family, but thankfully he didn't. Just sad all the way.