There was a time when most young women could coast and take it easy. They could
concentrate on hair, makeup and fashion because they were counting on getting
married to a successful guy. There are fewer and fewer young men who have the
drive that it takes to be successful in a world economy. You have to be at the
top of your game all of the time as there are thousands of people somewhere in
the world willing to do your job for less. It is not a bad thing that young
women have realized that they need to make sure they can provide for their own
future. All of those young men sitting around playing video games are not going
to take care of anyone. Instead of criticizing girls for doing what it now
takes to succeed, criticize the young men for being slackers.
I wonder how much the sour economy has to do with this increase of pressure on
especially teenaged girls. In order to get a job anymore, or scholarships to a
good school, they'll have to literally be the best at everything.Hopefully parents will be successful in teaching them (by word and example)
not to bite off more than they can chew.
Lots of funny stuff in today's world. For some reason, many very sharp
young ladies have a very poor self image. Somehow they're apparently not
getting the positive feedback they need, and/or they're associating with
people who want to drag them down to the lower levels, since misery definitely
does love company. They SHOULD expect a lot of themselves, but they should also
have someone around to tell them that they're great regardless.
I appreciate your story. I would, however, like to note that boys are in just as
much pressure as their female counterparts. Boys suffer from depression, eating
disorders, suicide and every other kind of pressure as girls. Sadly, most boys
will never talk about it because the risk of not looking macho or cool. I have
coached young men for more than 20 years and have seen the inner turmoil these
people are dealing with and it's just as sad and dangerous as what the
girls go through. I wish there would be articles about the struggles young men
have in dealing with life's pressures. I hope all teens can get help if
needed and know they are all beautiful and important.
For a long time, we made the mistake of focusing too much on young men, which
left young women out in the cold, so to speak. So now, with the usual wisdom
I've come to expect from the entertainment and media worlds, we are making
the same mistake, only now, we are focusing too much on young women, leaving
young men out in the cold ....... so to speak.The real answer to the
this problem is to give young PEOPLE the focus on personal traits and their
development, rather than picking one or the other gender. Life is very much the
interaction between young people, men and women. We cannot solve societies
problem by focusing on one gender. If we instead focus on the interactions
between young PEOPLE, we can have a big effect on their personal problems as
they develop. After all, doesn't each gender focus intently on how the
other sees them? Teach young men to help young women, young women to help young
men, and you have a good start. Teach either gender to focus on themselves, and
you may create more problems than you solve. The secret is: love they
"neighbor" as thyself.
Kosimov: Great comment. Focusing on young PEOPLE is the key. Thanks.
Way too much pressure to conform, fit in and be perfect is present these days.
The person that young people neglect far too much is themselves. We're
losing introspection, the ability to think for and be happy with our own person.
Ok, let's stop the victim mentality going on here. Just stop. I'm a
single parent (male) and I don't stress out. If the dishes don't get
done, the backyard gets ignored so what? I don't make crafts all day and
work 80 a week. Just stop it and stop blaming everyone else. You
rarely see a man beating himself up after a hard days work for not having done
something on top of it. Just saying, learn to give yourself a break whatever
gender you are and it's not society's fault.