I am a high school teacher. Recently, one of my very sweet, very intelligent
female students struck up an online relationship with a 'older boy'
(he claimed to be 19) from overseas. I learned about this by accident, as she
spoke of it to another classmate. She was making plans to meet him on an
upcoming school trip to Europe! She had been communicating with him for months
and considered him her 'boyfriend'. I urged her immediately to let
her parents know of her plans, and reported her plans to the school. The fact
is, for young people who communicate online daily, being in a relationship with
someone they never meet in person is not so far-fetched. Those who perpetrate
dishonesty through these means are able to completely dupe a young and
inexperienced person. The girl I am speaking of DID tell her parents. When they
rightly demanded that he meet with them via Skype, his true personality emerged,
and it was not pleasant. I am pleased to report that the
'relationship' has been dissolved. What happened to Manti Te'o
happens more frequently than anyone would imagine. It is not a joke, but a
dangerous, painful situation for many.
I will forever be grateful to Manti for the role model that he provided for my
son who will soon graduate from the same high school. Although my son has been
a boy of few words, there were signs over the past few years that he really
looked up to Manti. Some of these were: the Newspaper article/picture of Manti
with his Eagle Scout award that my son put on his bedroom wall, the Christmas
wish this year for a Sports Illustrated with Manti on the cover (which I could
only get by bidding on ebay $40), or the smile on his face when he briefly met
Manti at a friend's house and was told by Manti to work hard at whatever
you desire to achieve.
According to the Notre Dame news, Manti's Bishop (Carrier), after hearing
that his girlfriend was not dead, T'eo was afraid to let it be known,
because he was told that she faked death to escape something involving a drug
cartel, and perhaps Manti was afraid to say she was alive, thinking it might
place her life in danger.If there's any truth to this report,
why is no one mentioning it?
I think Manti lied. He lied to a very large audience. It appears he lied to
feather his own nest---even if that isn't true. I'm HUGELY
disappointed and also sad that he has to learn this lesson in the headlines of
every major publication. HOWEVER---I sure wish people would hold politicians to
the same standard of honesty!!!
Watching the story,' Catfish' should clear some things up. I have been
so naive that people really have online relationships. Dr.Phil last night,
opened the worlds eyes to how this happened. I feel bad for both parties. So
This young man deserves better than what he got. And please, if the media
hadn't found an audience, do you think any of these untruths would have
legs? It's those who repeat, and add more who help the most. The media all
are angry with after the fact are simply doing what seems to be wanted. Here's something, though, for Manti and anyone else who needs it. I
learned this poem when I was in grade school, giving a talk Dad and I wrote
together, and the point was not lost on my father's poetry-loving daughter.
It's by Edgar A. Guest, and the name of the poem is "Myself". The
beginning goes, I have to live with myself, and soI want to be
fit for myself to know.I want to be able, as the days go byAlways to
look myself straight in the eye.Look up the rest of it, if you would
like something to remember. I still turn to that poem. If this young man knows
the truth, and is fit for himself to know, that is the only person in the world
Can you imagine how bad this would be if Bama lost the BCS title game??
This whole thing was fishy from the beginning. It was a nice change of pace in
the "news" from all the Tebow and/or Kardashian hype & hoopla. E!spn has an article about the U of Michigan having seminars from their
student-athletes from getting catfished. Bottom line... this whole
thing has reached its saturation point.
I suspect "Sandra Moser" might be a make-believe "friend"...
We wonder why we have bullying issues in our schools, but take a look at the
actual bullying going on in the media and by stand up comics. Jokes at the
expense of others is bullying especially when errors of the victim are
I do feel kinda bad for the kid. But you will surely admit that it was a very
strange story. When I saw the scroll on ESPN--"Manti Te'o dead
girlfriend never exists"--I thought ESPN's scroll was broken.
He kind of used the media when he was the inspiration and hero, and that can be
a double edged sword when things go sour.
Many thanks to Ms. Moser for setting the record straight by someone who
personally knows Manti Te'o. She is exactly right to call out members of
the media for their despicable behavior on this issue and for their feeble
attempts to "make news" rathetr than report it, which is their job. Ms.
Moser makes one mistake, in my opinioin, when she refers to "Fox News anchor
Shepard Smith, ESPN TV personality Stephen A. Smith" as journalists. They
are nothing more than entertainers who will do and say anything to get attention
and feed their insecure egos. I thought Jeremy Shaap's interview and
report was the most credible, primarily because he did not try to sensationalize
anything that was said and because Mr. Shaap has a long pedigree in credibility
inherited from his father, Dick Shaap, and especially from his own work as a
journalist.Thanks again to Ms. Moser for explaining to the narrow
minded world that the culture in which Manti Te'o was raised may, in fact,
be sometimes naive to the dark and devious ways of the world but their
intentions are seldom, if ever meant to deceive.
I can easily justify the kid using a "long distance" relationship to
shield himself from unwanted girlfriends. Much easier for a guy to get a girl to
move on if you have a "girlfriend". His focus was on football, he
didn't want a local girlfriend to take is focus anywhere else. He
wasn't looking for anything more than what he got from an internet
relationship. Why complicate you last couple of years of college with the
problems that come with someone that expects attention when you should be
studying and lifting? The fact that it ended up being something it wasn't
isn't his fault. Not judging him from where I am at, wish him better luck
in the future. Just a suggestion for the future: if you have a long distance
relationship try skyping once in awhile.
The time has come (quite some time ago) to let this go. Yes, it was an odd
story, but it's not worth weeks and weeks of analysis. I believe the guy
was duped and I feel sorry for him. Even if you think he "knew," so
what? He's been embarrassed and now enough is enough.
This article should be the last word. We use media to destroy people's
lives. Enough is Enough!
Like....please let him get on with his life. We don't want to hear about it
anymore!Attention Media: Be as constant in the probing on Benghazi,
Fast and Furious, the national debt, economy collapsing, etc. etc. Our nation is
at risk, for pete's sake.
I welcome people who actually know those involved coming forward to give their
insights in this bizarre case. That is far better than the many who
don't know anything about them who constantly barrage us with their
suppositions and innuendo and demonstrate how ignorant of the facts they are
when they do so.
By his own admission, Te'o lied to the media for a while after he
"discovered" the hoax. People need to learn that the media is cruel to
anyone who doesn't exhibit honesty all the time, and to some who do.
I'm still wondering why Te'o ever mentioned the "girlfriend"
to the media in the first place, since he had never met her.
Please, let's hear no more about this circus. We've heard far too much
already. Just reading the headline is information overload.