What a terrible thing for anyone to go through and I pray for these women and
children.Domestic Assault is when a man hits his wife or his
children. Domestic Violence can legally be defined as a spouse breaking
something like a dinner plate when their partner is present. It could be 10 feet
away and not even be directed at the other person and be defined as such. Also,
if children overhear an argument where something gets broken, even if no-one is
shoved or hit, that is also legally Domestic Violence. It sounds like this is
referring more to Domestic Assault and not Domestic Violence.
Domestic abuse is a horrible thing, but lets not forget that multiple studies
report that 40% of domestic abuse victims are men.
I do not tolerate domestic violence! If a man throws a temper tantrum because
he doesn't get his way and results to violent actions (as scare tactic) and
then assaults, he deserve to get beat down! I know you don't repay
violence for violence, but when women or children, or both are getting their
butts beat down, you have no other options but to defend them by any and all
I am so tired of the articles like this--not for it's recognition of
violence but for its horrible, outdated view of the facts. It perpetuates the
false and out-dated stereotype that most DV is male-on-female. That's
simply just not the case anymore. As the shame in male DV reporting subsides,
the most recent and most credible sources--such as the latest report from the US
CDC on intimate partner violence--inform us that there's actually MORE
female-on-male than male-on-female domestic violence. But this
article makes absolutely no mention of that fact. Instead, it exacerbates the
problem by ignoring over half of it and repeating a false stereotype. Moreover, there are embarrassingly few resources for male victims. Certainly
no male shelters. In fact, the poor mother in this article would be rejected
from many battered women's shelters. Why? Because she has a (gasp!)
15-year old son. Fact: many such shelters allow battered women and their
daughters up to age 18 but invoke a much lower age limit for sons. Domestic violence is problematic. But articles like this don't help;
they just perpetuate a myth.
The real fact is that domestic violence in cases where partners exchange blows
is split about 50%. But nobody cares about men.
This is an idea that is never mentioned. Foster homes are available for a
number of children who are victims of circumstance. Since a major expense of
domestic violence shelters are rooms, beds, and meals, why cannot the state
accept applications for empty nester couples to provide a temporary safe haven
to which women (and their children) can go? My wife and I would never turn
someone away who had fled an abusive home and needs food and shelter while they
sort things out. The state abuse programs can still be available, but at least
the first few days (or days 2-7) can be at a DV foster home. Details can be
worked out, but it's certainly worth looking into.
These men who claim women comprise a significant share of the perpetrators of
domestic violence are in denial. Everything I find from the CDC and the
Department of Justice on the subject says the opposite. Women are by far the
majority of victims--at the hands of their husbands/partners/ex's.
It's cause for great shame. I submit that we men are naturally disposed to
resort to force to get our own way. Like other forms of selfishness, it's
natural, but must be controlled and opposed at every step for us to live
Well, domestic violence is an evil. What are we doing about it?In
the Bible, in the Old Testament God chewed out the children of Israel, etc. He
said they were not kind to strangers, they did not do justice to the widow. Of
course, in those times, they had wars and men were killed so there were
conventional widows. But now, a woman who has had to flee her home may be
counted as a widow for whom we bear a responsibility.What will we
do?My sister, who was a victim of domestic violence, had the habit
of cooking a lot of turkeys every Thanksgiving for a women's shelter.
There is a lot that we can do.