There is enough trouble facing kids growing up too fast without them going
looking for it in the deep and dark recesses of the internet that provides safe
haven molesters, exciting for the naive young people constantly looking for new
thrills. Like the song says, "looking for love in all the wrong places"
when the home and family should be the center of love.
mattrick78 is correct. The best way to socialize is NOT with the internet. It is
with face-to-face activities, family activities, church activities, and school
activities, etc. There is nothing wrong with tight monitoring of
your teen's internet activities. Eliminate it, if you must.Yes,
the teens can get it outside of the home. That is why you need to tightly
monitor their potential internet usage at friends' homes, the library, etc.
All the while, teaching them and making sure they come to their own choices
about safe internet use. Show and demonstrate to your teens what horrible things
can happen with bad internet usage. Scare them into fear of chatting with those
they don't know, etc, so that they fear doing such things. My
teen daughter has been into trouble on the internet - fortunately nothing
damaging now, but it could have been worse. Tight control is the only answer
now, while teaching her and helping her to make more responsible choices.But tight monitoring use of the internet, or temporary banning of the
internet while teens are making mistakes is a good idea.
"It would seem to me that providing guidance to your kids how to wisely use
the internet might be a good alternative choice."Just because
someone is not using Facebook or an iPhone doesn't means they are not using
the Internet wisely nor does it imply that someone is ignoring the problem.
Frankly I think social media is mind numbing.
"But, coupled with other isolationist and extreme parenting tactics may
leave your child unable to function socially woth peers. Be prepared to respond
to questions about why dates are unsuccessful and other kids bully them."There are tens of millions of people in this country who have
successfully dated and were not bullied due to the inability to socialize who
grew up in the age before the Internet.
@mattrik78okay, if believing that makes you feel better about it.
Foxtrot: They don't have access to it in other places because they are too
busy to go "hang out" at other places. My kids stay busy. TaipeiModerate: Yes, youth today socialize via the Internet but it isn't
necessarily the only way to socialize. There is dance, instrument lessons and
recitals, as well as school, church, and extended family activities.
@ MattrickThe internet is now part of the way youths socialize. Your
parenting style may be effective at preventing an enc ounter with a predator.
But, coupled with other isolationist and extreme parenting tactics may leave
your child unable to function socially woth peers. Be prepared to respond to
questions about why dates are unsuccessful and other kids bully them.
@mattrick78I am unsure if ignoring the problem makes it go away. It
would seem to me that providing guidance to your kids how to wisely use the
internet might be a good alternative choice. BTW, just because your
house doesn't allow Facebook or an email doesn't mean that they
won't have access to it other places and now you have created an
environment where your kids sneak behind your back?
It's not just kids that have problems with people they encounter online.
Adults can meet crazy people as well and suffer because of it. It's also
not just women that can be taken advantage of. Granted adults should have more
skills to deal with issues but after a divorce and/or an abusive relationship
they can make some rather childish decisions online. The online world an area
that everyone should be cautious with.
My kids can't have a personal email address until they are 18 (if living in
the house). No smartphones. No Facebook.Children deserve a