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Published: Friday, Jan. 18 2013 11:20 a.m. MST

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mattrick78
Cedar City, UT

My kids can't have a personal email address until they are 18 (if living in the house). No smartphones. No Facebook.

Children deserve a childhood.

Instereo
Eureka, UT

It's not just kids that have problems with people they encounter online. Adults can meet crazy people as well and suffer because of it. It's also not just women that can be taken advantage of. Granted adults should have more skills to deal with issues but after a divorce and/or an abusive relationship they can make some rather childish decisions online. The online world an area that everyone should be cautious with.

Foxtrot
Mountain View, CA

@mattrick78

I am unsure if ignoring the problem makes it go away. It would seem to me that providing guidance to your kids how to wisely use the internet might be a good alternative choice.

BTW, just because your house doesn't allow Facebook or an email doesn't mean that they won't have access to it other places and now you have created an environment where your kids sneak behind your back?

TaipeiModerate
New Haven, CT

@ Mattrick

The internet is now part of the way youths socialize. Your parenting style may be effective at preventing an enc ounter with a predator. But, coupled with other isolationist and extreme parenting tactics may leave your child unable to function socially woth peers. Be prepared to respond to questions about why dates are unsuccessful and other kids bully them.

mattrick78
Cedar City, UT

Foxtrot: They don't have access to it in other places because they are too busy to go "hang out" at other places. My kids stay busy.

TaipeiModerate: Yes, youth today socialize via the Internet but it isn't necessarily the only way to socialize. There is dance, instrument lessons and recitals, as well as school, church, and extended family activities.

Foxtrot
Mountain View, CA

@mattrik78

okay, if believing that makes you feel better about it. Good luck.

Pac_Man
Pittsburgh, PA

"But, coupled with other isolationist and extreme parenting tactics may leave your child unable to function socially woth peers. Be prepared to respond to questions about why dates are unsuccessful and other kids bully them."

There are tens of millions of people in this country who have successfully dated and were not bullied due to the inability to socialize who grew up in the age before the Internet.

Pac_Man
Pittsburgh, PA

"It would seem to me that providing guidance to your kids how to wisely use the internet might be a good alternative choice."

Just because someone is not using Facebook or an iPhone doesn't means they are not using the Internet wisely nor does it imply that someone is ignoring the problem. Frankly I think social media is mind numbing.

Summer
Salt Lake City, UT

mattrick78 is correct. The best way to socialize is NOT with the internet. It is with face-to-face activities, family activities, church activities, and school activities, etc.

There is nothing wrong with tight monitoring of your teen's internet activities. Eliminate it, if you must.

Yes, the teens can get it outside of the home. That is why you need to tightly monitor their potential internet usage at friends' homes, the library, etc. All the while, teaching them and making sure they come to their own choices about safe internet use. Show and demonstrate to your teens what horrible things can happen with bad internet usage. Scare them into fear of chatting with those they don't know, etc, so that they fear doing such things.

My teen daughter has been into trouble on the internet - fortunately nothing damaging now, but it could have been worse. Tight control is the only answer now, while teaching her and helping her to make more responsible choices.

But tight monitoring use of the internet, or temporary banning of the internet while teens are making mistakes is a good idea.

Albert Maslar CPA (Retired)
Absecon, NJ

There is enough trouble facing kids growing up too fast without them going looking for it in the deep and dark recesses of the internet that provides safe haven molesters, exciting for the naive young people constantly looking for new thrills. Like the song says, "looking for love in all the wrong places" when the home and family should be the center of love.

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