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Published: Tuesday, Jan. 15 2013 4:10 p.m. MST

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andyjaggy
American Fork, UT

My wife and I had our first child and we did NOT want to do the cry it out. Every doctor we talked to told us to just let her cry. After 9 months of not sleeping we finally gave in and let her cry for the night. We didn't like it, and we hope we don't have to do it again, but we can't deny that it worked. Within two nights she was sleeping through the night, and so were we.

I hated doing it, most parents probably do, but adults that haven't slept more than 4 hours a night for months make lousy parents.

B ob
Richmond, CA

Bottle feeding is as cuddly as breastfeeding, perhaps even closer. When you bottle feed you hold the baby as close as breastfeeding AND can look the baby in the eye while signing or talking.

John C. C.
Payson, UT

I know it is stressful when children cry at night, but it is part of a parent's duty to take care of the child. We can deal with a lack of sleep. We are the adults, after all.

I decided to do the night diaper changes for my wife, at first feeling a little sorry for myself. Now I'm glad I did. I don't remember the lack of sleep, but I do treasure the memories of holding them for a while after they were clean, dry, and content for a little night reverie just between us. Mom had them during the days while I was at work, but I could bond at night.

The critical thing for parents is that they consider their children to be so precious that they want to hold them, talk to them, play with them, and enjoy their lives together. They should be so anxious to communicate with them that they hang on every movement and facial expression for a clue of recognition and response.

You don't wait to afford children. They are your treasure.

jlglex
Provo, UT

Modern day trends in families and parenting are not productive. Back to the basics is the way to go.

Mary Robbins
Tempe, USA, AZ

Babies and children who are constantly over-tired have an astronomically greater likelihood of hindered brain development than children who are allowed to cry a few nights in a row for an hour or less so that they can get on a natural sleep schedule. When baby gets more sleep, so does mom. When mom gets more sleep it dramatically decreases her chance of having postpartum depression.

Also, children start to be able to organize their sleep patterns around 4 months. My daughter at about 4-5 months would fuss, and she would rub her red little eyes and yawn, but never go down earlier than 10 or 10:30. Out of desperation I read the book "Healthy Sleep Habits, Happy Child" by Marc Wiessbluth, MD. It helped my daughter to get back on a healthy sleep pattern. I highly recommend that book to anyone. It's more about being sensitive to your child's natural sleep schedule for their age than "crying it out" (although that method may be necessary, as in my case since my daughter's sleep pattern was way off for her age). 1-2 night wakings to eat (not play) are normal until 9 months.

Mary Robbins
Tempe, USA, AZ

Also, another short comment. Why do we always think that Hunter-gatherer societies have it right? It's like this thing we do, nowadays. "Hunter-gatherers had it right." What empirical evidence do we have that they turn out to be healthier, more well adjusted adults than in any other society? I studied anthropology for my undergrad, and trust me, those societies can do as many wacky things to their children as we do. They're just different. (Although they probably don't haul their kids to Walmart at 11 o'clock at night.)

raybies
Layton, UT

There are too many variables to this equation to be making ridiculous claims that if your child had to cry it out for a couple nights they'll be depressed when they get to be adults.

This is just a guilt-trip article to make parents feel paranoid that they're not doing the best job they can do.

Further, Correlation does not mean Causation.

Even if a statistical correlation can be shown to exist between the outcomes of different parenting models, it does not necessarily mean that those parenting models cause the problems they are monitoring... In fact those parenting models may very well be symptomatic of other stresses or problems which are unrelated to the kid, but impact them.

Again. Too many variables.

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