Great article, we raised 3 children and I agree that they are born with their
own different personalities and that they definitely cannot be
"molded"--maybe directed a little by working with them very patiently.
Chaim Potok wrote a book titled: "I am the Clay." He speaks to the Old
Testament ideal of the potter (God) and the potter's clay (us). As parents
we may, for a while, begin to turn the wheel and shape the clay, but we are
unwise to think of ourselves as the potter. We are but fellow travelers along a
road that is often bewildering and strange. But through it, we are shaped and
re-shaped by each other and by God. We may have much of what we are
stamped upon us before we arrive. We may be prisoners of genetics, time and
chance, but we can decide how to respond to our circumstances.Perhaps the only thing we can give our children is an example of submission to
God, and determination to remain true as we tread the broken glass, unmet
expectations and difficulties that drive us to our knees and into each others
arms.Perhaps the only real thing we can give our children is the
ability to find joy in the journey.Perhaps all we can really teach
is how to love and beloved.