I agree with most of what you are saying Fred44 but probably at Bennion I would
bet many teachers have 40 plus students and the counselors are trying to serve
closer to 500 students. This is more the norm at secondary schools in Utah at
This is a sad and unfortunate situation. But I wish people would take just a
minute and step back and look at what we are asking from our schools today. Not
only do we expect them to force every child to learn whether they want to or
not, whether their parents are involved in helping them do homework, whether
they even attend school regularly. Now we want schools to provide for their
physical needs by providing breakfast and lunch, we are now expecting the school
to be their to solve all the emotional problems that children may have. We are
now talking about making teachers carry weapons and provide protection against a
person wishing to do harm to students. While we keep adding and adding
responsibility we keep cutting and cutting. Teachers have 30+ students per
class, counselors have 300+ students per counselor. When do parents have a
responsibility? When does the rest of society have a responsibility. Schools
cannot solve all the problems in society, especially with the continued
reduction in funding.Schools can't be everything to everyone
and we need to quit expecting that from him.
I am sorry this family has to go through the ordeal they do. And, if errors were
made at the school with their son, then wanting to get legal help is
appropriate. From what I have read here,though, it sounds like the school was
trying to do everything it could to help David. Perhaps the reason the family
was not notified about the counseling David was receiving at school was because
they were part of the issues that were making David unhappy? Perhaps they were
what David was receiving counseling about? Maybe they were adding to the
problems and not the solution?We live in a culture of bullying.
Sadly, it is never going to stop. We are becoming a society of victims.
Let's empower ourselves with strategies and solutions and not let what
every bully says or does affect us so badly. Stand up. Say no. Look for
solutions. They are out there and DO exist. Look at the web site
www.bullies2buddies.com It is very powerful.
I, too, was confused by the various statements immediately following this
tragedy. I wondered who was trying to put a spin on the facts and why.The hardest thing about detecting the pain of gentle people is that they are
reluctant to speak up. When they do complain, professionals should be assertive
in pursing the protective procedures required by law, as the victims may not
have the power themselves.I am not convnced that achool
administrators always fairly consider the needs of students and parents when
those needs are awkward to deal with.May those who investigate care
more about the truth than about any potentially uncomfortable findings.