I'm just reading this now, 3 months later, but I must ask, does no one
follow Miss Manners anymore? A lady never accepts expensive jewelry from
a gentleman who is not her relative. The exception to this rule would be the
acceptance of the engagement ring indicating her agreement to becoming his
relative by marrying him. Certainly this rule could be interpreted that
conversely a gentleman should likewise refuse a gift of jewelry from a woman who
is not his relative. But the idea of a gentleman prodding his new love interest
to purchase such a gift!!?? GASP! This writer would have to assume that
either the young lady misinterpreted his remarks or in the case that she did
not, that the young man was not raised properly in this regard. Either way,
claiming that she can not afford it should not be the reason given for not
purchasing the watch. Citing that it would be inappropriate would be the
correct reason. If you can not figure it out why it would be
innappropiate, see Miss Manners for the reasoning behind this rule.
Be honest. Tell him the watch is beautiful, admire the intricate work, design
and astonishing level of detail. Sigh and say, "Right now, I can't
afford it. Nor would it be prudent to even consider giving you a gift of this
magnitude this early in the relationship." Talk about value of
things verses the value of living within your means. If he shows he is hung up
on having worldly things at any cost (including the debt associated with it)
evaluate your compatibility. Chronic obsession with having the next new thing
is usually a sign he needs to feel better about himself. Soul sickness is
common, but marrying it is unwise - even if you love him.The
enormous pressure and guilt associated with asking for gifts well out of budget
no matter where you are in the relationship should give you pause. If he may
apologizes or makes a joke of it. Evaluate his reactions. This is a shadow of
how he will communicate in the future. The gut reaction of most of
the comments runs toward "dump him." Generally, that's probably
good advice. But discussing and evaluating are ways to gain a second and third
Tell your semi boy friend, in a letter, stuffed inside the watch box that you
give to him, that as hard as it was for you on your very tight budget, you
managed to borrow enough money from family to get his watch for him.You feel that since he told you want he wanted for Christmas, it is only
fitting that you tell him what you want for New Years Day gift. Don 't
over due it by choosing the color, but let him know that you definately would
like the BMW Sports Roadster.
J-TX,[All my kids wear watches - ages 15 through 22. They are good with
technology, but not slaves to it.]Watches are technology, just
low-technology. They're still prone to breaking, malfunctioning, corrupt
data(not keeping time), and running out of power.So, they're
still slaves to technology; we all are.
just tell the guy, "Next" !
Mukkake;All my kids wear watches - ages 15 through 22. They are
good with technology, but not slaves to it.I'd say, if he asks
for a watch, she should ask for a ring. Then watch him run.......
What kind of person, under 50 years old, still wants a watch? Think of all the
iPads you could buy with that money.
Time to watch him go...
morpunkt - that's so funny. Most people seem to think his
request means he'll be a bad boyfriend... so sad. Ps. Like Ask
Angela on facebook to see more comments!
Get him a phoney Rolex. By the time the thin gold wears off, so will your
I hope he was just admiring the watch the way folks do a lot of things this time
of year--when so much attention is on "stuff". But I have to wonder, why
with you when you're not even serious about each other? Could he feel
entitled to your money, time, attention? Does he assumwe things like your being
available for dates or have time to talk on the phone? Just sayin'...he may
be sending messages and it's time to "watch" him leave.
Get a BIG glass jar and fill it with M & M's. Tie a big red bow on and
write a cute note that says something like "Merry Christmas & A Movie
with ME! Hopefully he didn't realize what he was
"saying". But sometimes it's better to find out early in a
relationship what kind of person they are...move on if he's self-centered.
He should have been asking what kind of things you like...not dropping hints on
what HE would like to have..Merry Christmas!
Dump him. He'll be high maintenance the rest of your lives. Anyone
selfish, self-centered, and arrogant enough to hint or ask for an expensive
present from an acquaintance will not be a good long-term choice.
That was some excellent advice. I certainly hope he wasn't being a cad, if
he is you should drop him like a hot potato.