We all have gone through some difficult times. It is how we respond to those
trials that define our lives. This man has ruined his good name, and he CHOSE
to deceive and try to destroy the lives of others. I hope and pray he has not
succeeded in doing so. With the help of good families, friends, and a loving
Savior I know his victims can overcome this experience. My father
died when I was young. I was sexually abused by an adult neighbor after that,
and those traumas did affect me. But I wouldn't use it as an excuse to go
out and HURT someone... I have compassion for children. My own 6, and the
other 53 I have been a foster parent to in my home. There are no excuses to
harm a child.. They are the greatest gift we have. Anyone...and I do mean
anyone who harms them should not be given a second chance to do so. It mentions
in this article that they have children. Bless his wife. She needs to raise
her children ALONE. It is safer for her children to be without this man.
The idea that the death of one's father is grounds for going off the deep
end is a bit tenuous. I don't mean to be facetious, but doesn't
everyone's father die sooner or later? If sooner, then does that give carte
blanche to those "left-behind" sons to no longer take responsibility for
their actions? I must be missing something here....
Wow. I knew this guy pretty well in junior high and highschool. He was nice,
friendly, outgoing, popular. He was probably the biggest guy in our graduating
class and mostly muscle (I thought he was part polynesian). I always wondered
why he didn't play football. Instead he was really into choir, broadcast
journalism and I think did a lot with drama. Looking back, he was a little
effeminate, but he was so huge and muscular you wouldn't think of him that
way. It's crazy to think where life has taken him. Just goes to show that
even a good person can transform himself into something horrible by making
small, daily choices that point you the wrong direction. One day a respected
community memeber and father, a couple years later a convicted felon. I wish he
would have sought help early, for his sake and his family and victims.
Yes, Pragmatic he did have the "opportunity" to recover. He, as well as
the rest of mankind, were given an eternal principle of agency. He used his
agency in an eternally unacceptable way. As a result, others have been acted
upon, and will have to choose how they will act in the future. There is ALWAYS
an opportunity to change. If they WANT to..Monster! Absolutely!Lindy-Lou, Amen.
For a parent who has a child that was abused while at Church, predators who
stalk and then attack innocent children should meet the highest fate of anyone
in the court system. In the federal prison at Fort Leavenworth inmates treat
the child abusers the best they can in the long term. Chesters are known and
the other prisoners await for those guys to give them the unofficial treatment
they deserve for the rest of their stay. They are marked men and should be
dealt with accordingly. What happened today in the school in Connecticut was
bad but the children that live the rest of their life with this kind of
treatment in their mind is horrendous. This type of individual and
the people of trust in schools and churches need to be dealt with to know that
this type of behavior will lead to serious consequences and not let them off the
hook with a plea bargain. Plea bargains are good for the victims in some ways,
but the one on trial gets away with an evil that is not discussed in court. It
seems there should be a better way to deal with these types.
@Lindy-LouInteresting view on the definitions. I'm definitely
going to be thinking about that for a while. I appreciate my thoughts being
DN wouldn't allow me to comment on this article, even though my comment was
thoughtful about the horrific acts committed by this criminal. There's a
lot of censoring here.
Sasha, I agree with everything you said and still disagree with MapleDon's
first point. I don't let my kids play video games. I make them work hard.
Maybe the teenage boys in this situation were not taught well. Either way, they
are still victims and still somewhat innocent.
Everyone has the ability to control his or her actions. EVERYONE! No matter
how many problems this guy has, there is no excuse for his responding to them in
this way. Even if he was molested, he has the power to choose a
different course. He is clearly dangerous and needs to seek help within the
prison system where he cannot damage anyone else. His actions were not
spontaneous or involuntary, they were very deliberate and took place over a long
period. He had plenty of time to think about what he was doing.Sorry for his family, but he needs to be in prison.
Without taking away from the seriousness of the crime I fully agree with
MapleDon's point 1. I think we give too much of what does not help and
expect too little of our teenage boys. When the times were harder and we were
not so prosperous we economically could not afford to let teenagers drift. They
had to take responsibility early. They married at 15 and raised families taking
care of them better, considering their circumstances, than their 25-30 year old
counterparts today who half the time cannot even stay married after 5 years or
less. We need to raise our boys with the same resilience, work ethic, sense of
responsibility and strength of character that allowed young men of the past to
do what they did. You cannot do that with video games. You can if you teach
values by precept and example, and give them real responsibilities.
Soapbox time: I keep wondering about the CONSTANT misuse of the word
"mistake" ~ both in and out of my chosen faith, which happens to be LDS.
Click on your dictionary and you will see that a "mistake" is an
INVOLUNTARY act. Like taking the wrong exit off the freeway. Like forgetting
what time that appointment was. Like calling Carol "Barbara." If you
peek at your neighbor's algebra paper during a test, that's a BAD
CHOICE. If you shoplift, that's a BAD CHOICE. If you cheat on your spouse,
that's a BAD CHOICE. If you lure young people to your porn filth,
that's a BAD CHOICE. NONE of those acts are MISTAKES, darn you folks! I
cringe every time I hear a Church leader say "You must repent of your
mistakes" or, "She then repented for her mistakes." NO! NO! NO! We
don't repent for missing appointments, we repent for being involved with
cheating, lying, porn, etc. The YW department of the Church is the only entity
that gets it right: The orange value is "CHOICE and accountability" not
"MISTAKES and accountability." There. I'll get down off my soapbox
MapleDon, I agree with your #3, not sure about #2. I have problems with #1. Do
you think it is easier to tempt, persuade, direct, lead... a 12 year old than it
is to influence a 20 year old? I do. I can talk my kids into a lot of things
that are wrong, because they are still young and innocent. They are still
victims even if they do something stupid or immature, because they are not yet
fully mature. That doesn't mean they take responsibility for their
actions, but the weight of responsibility we place on them has to be age
I'm always a little suspicious of people who, with tear-filled eyes admit
to their horrible crimes and then ask for a lighter sentence. If he felt as
sorry as he says he is then he would acknowledge that he has done some horrible
things and that he doesn't deserve to live in society with other people. He
would acknowledge that for the protection of society, spending the rest of his
life in prison is the best place for him and people like him.
Conscious decisions to pursue sexual predation are not simply
"mistakes." If there are scientific evidences that rehabilitation is
effective, please present them to the court.
This is clearly a sad story and an interesting reflection of a degraded society.
There are a few items from this case that I found worthy of further
questioning.1. The term "robbing someone's innocence"
is used frequently as an effort to clarify the "perpetrator" and
"victim" in a case. The rape of a girl walking to school clearly
delineates the "victim" and the "perp". However, a girl looking
for sex and finding it with a man makes the classification of "victim"
or "innocence" not as effective. Likewise, in this case, several boys
were looking for sex and continued to act on that urge, sexting with the hope of
eventually having sex. Had they been photographed without their consent, it
would be easy to refer to them as "victims" and "innocent",
which is further diluted by the fact that they were never physically abused.
"Disappointed" would be a more appropriate term.2. The law
seems to weigh more heavily on transmission of sexually explicit material of a
minor, rather than on actual sexual abuse of a minor. That seems backwards. 3. Sexual predators don't have a history of successful
rehabilitation. For the protection of society, they need confinement.
Here?In Zion?!Nah - All's well in Zion!
This is indeed a great cautionary story for parents and children alike. Parents
must work hard at monitoring what their children do online. Stop providing them
such easy access to devices without having a watchful eye. On the other hand I
have to mention my disgust as I read this article and the attempt to minimize
this mans actions, and the audacity and enabling of his own mother family to try
to blame away what he had done on the death of his father, and his previous
emotional difficulties. Love and support your family, please do not try to
excuse away their behavior. Behaviors, the actions that we do are a choice.
Those choices are based upon our reactions to life, but still are a choice. I
had close family member pass away recently, that in no way gives me permission
or an excuse to go out and ruin the life of somebody else.
Oh, and plus he's blaming his crimes on his father's death? Well,
that's rich. How sickening! And when I say he's a "monster," I
Biggest take away: Do not trust any relatives or friends with your children. It
happens way too often and is not worth the risk! Protect your children!
Very sad story. Maybe two lessons to be learned:1) The internet is a
cesspool, stop being addicted to Facebook (this includes probably every woman in
Utah) 2) Take a look around and see if you can "not" bully someone
today. I see it everywhere. Is it human nature to try and place yourself above
someone else so you feel secure? Yes, people that hurt other people
need to be separated from society.
He seems like a "monster" to me, and prison is where he will do best.
There's mercy--"Give me a second chance"-- and then there's
justice, for all those kids who are now as scarred as he is, or other kids who
he may prey upon in the future.Mercy cannot rob justice.Yes, he suffered. But does it make it right for him to make others suffer? He
was at this for two years, and no point in that time did he think, "Hey,
this isn't right. What am I doing? I should get help"?Yes,
that's extremely difficult to do. But if he had stopped himself and sought
help, then his plea for "Give me a second chance" would seem more
sincere.The fact that he was caught and forced into stopping
suggests he would have continued damaging children. He's not ready for a
second chance, and neither are our children.
At what point do you have to take responsibility for your actions? So life hands
you some bad deals. Get over yourself! We all have scars!Hopefully,
while serving the prison sentance he so richly deserves (yes, he says he's
sorry, but so do most murderers), he gets the counseling he obviously needs.
His "second chance" is in jail, rather than dead.
"It were better for him that a millstone were hanged about his neck, and he
cast into the sea, than that he should offend one of these little ones." -
Thank goodness he has a supportive wife and mother. They say some sexual
predators cannot be rehabilitated. In this case there seems to be a lack
of acknowledgement of the crimes. He will get the psychological therapy he
needs in prison but he also will be prohibited from Abusing more boys. Who knows the cause. Who knows the cure. I feel very bad for him and for
Thought provoking article. I will be asking myself the presumptuous question
possed by the accused..."does everyone deserve a second chance"??Not sure I like either side of that question in the case of child abuse.
Failing that second chance is extremely expensive for the next victim.
very sad on many many levels. bless the victims, the victims family and the
predators family. I feel sorry for all of them; as well as the predator. The
fact that he was molested and bullied as a young man and never had the
opportunity to recover is tragic for all..