Parents beware: A cautionary tale of a sexual predator


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  • Southernmiss kaysville, UT
    Jan. 12, 2013 10:54 a.m.

    We all have gone through some difficult times. It is how we respond to those trials that define our lives. This man has ruined his good name, and he CHOSE to deceive and try to destroy the lives of others. I hope and pray he has not succeeded in doing so. With the help of good families, friends, and a loving Savior I know his victims can overcome this experience.

    My father died when I was young. I was sexually abused by an adult neighbor after that, and those traumas did affect me. But I wouldn't use it as an excuse to go out and HURT someone... I have compassion for children. My own 6, and the other 53 I have been a foster parent to in my home. There are no excuses to harm a child.. They are the greatest gift we have. Anyone...and I do mean anyone who harms them should not be given a second chance to do so. It mentions in this article that they have children. Bless his wife. She needs to raise her children ALONE. It is safer for her children to be without this man.

  • aceroinox Farmington, UT
    Dec. 17, 2012 1:27 a.m.

    The idea that the death of one's father is grounds for going off the deep end is a bit tenuous. I don't mean to be facetious, but doesn't everyone's father die sooner or later? If sooner, then does that give carte blanche to those "left-behind" sons to no longer take responsibility for their actions? I must be missing something here....

  • sisucas San Bernardino, CA
    Dec. 15, 2012 12:23 p.m.

    Wow. I knew this guy pretty well in junior high and highschool. He was nice, friendly, outgoing, popular. He was probably the biggest guy in our graduating class and mostly muscle (I thought he was part polynesian). I always wondered why he didn't play football. Instead he was really into choir, broadcast journalism and I think did a lot with drama. Looking back, he was a little effeminate, but he was so huge and muscular you wouldn't think of him that way. It's crazy to think where life has taken him. Just goes to show that even a good person can transform himself into something horrible by making small, daily choices that point you the wrong direction. One day a respected community memeber and father, a couple years later a convicted felon. I wish he would have sought help early, for his sake and his family and victims.

  • Christmas Carole LAS CRUCES, NM
    Dec. 15, 2012 11:27 a.m.

    Yes, Pragmatic he did have the "opportunity" to recover. He, as well as the rest of mankind, were given an eternal principle of agency. He used his agency in an eternally unacceptable way. As a result, others have been acted upon, and will have to choose how they will act in the future. There is ALWAYS an opportunity to change. If they WANT to..

    Monster! Absolutely!

    Lindy-Lou, Amen.

  • JWB Kaysville, UT
    Dec. 14, 2012 5:43 p.m.

    For a parent who has a child that was abused while at Church, predators who stalk and then attack innocent children should meet the highest fate of anyone in the court system. In the federal prison at Fort Leavenworth inmates treat the child abusers the best they can in the long term. Chesters are known and the other prisoners await for those guys to give them the unofficial treatment they deserve for the rest of their stay. They are marked men and should be dealt with accordingly. What happened today in the school in Connecticut was bad but the children that live the rest of their life with this kind of treatment in their mind is horrendous.

    This type of individual and the people of trust in schools and churches need to be dealt with to know that this type of behavior will lead to serious consequences and not let them off the hook with a plea bargain. Plea bargains are good for the victims in some ways, but the one on trial gets away with an evil that is not discussed in court. It seems there should be a better way to deal with these types.

  • Mom of 8 Hyrum, UT
    Dec. 14, 2012 3:51 p.m.


    Interesting view on the definitions. I'm definitely going to be thinking about that for a while. I appreciate my thoughts being provoked!

  • Itsme2 SLC, UT
    Dec. 14, 2012 3:44 p.m.

    DN wouldn't allow me to comment on this article, even though my comment was thoughtful about the horrific acts committed by this criminal. There's a lot of censoring here.

  • Just a voice Layton, UT
    Dec. 14, 2012 2:23 p.m.

    Sasha, I agree with everything you said and still disagree with MapleDon's first point. I don't let my kids play video games. I make them work hard. Maybe the teenage boys in this situation were not taught well. Either way, they are still victims and still somewhat innocent.

  • Cats Somewhere in Time, UT
    Dec. 14, 2012 2:02 p.m.

    Everyone has the ability to control his or her actions. EVERYONE! No matter how many problems this guy has, there is no excuse for his responding to them in this way.

    Even if he was molested, he has the power to choose a different course. He is clearly dangerous and needs to seek help within the prison system where he cannot damage anyone else. His actions were not spontaneous or involuntary, they were very deliberate and took place over a long period. He had plenty of time to think about what he was doing.

    Sorry for his family, but he needs to be in prison.

  • Sasha Pachev Provo, UT
    Dec. 14, 2012 12:59 p.m.

    Without taking away from the seriousness of the crime I fully agree with MapleDon's point 1. I think we give too much of what does not help and expect too little of our teenage boys. When the times were harder and we were not so prosperous we economically could not afford to let teenagers drift. They had to take responsibility early. They married at 15 and raised families taking care of them better, considering their circumstances, than their 25-30 year old counterparts today who half the time cannot even stay married after 5 years or less. We need to raise our boys with the same resilience, work ethic, sense of responsibility and strength of character that allowed young men of the past to do what they did. You cannot do that with video games. You can if you teach values by precept and example, and give them real responsibilities.

  • Lindy-Lou San Antonio, TX
    Dec. 14, 2012 11:59 a.m.

    Soapbox time: I keep wondering about the CONSTANT misuse of the word "mistake" ~ both in and out of my chosen faith, which happens to be LDS. Click on your dictionary and you will see that a "mistake" is an INVOLUNTARY act. Like taking the wrong exit off the freeway. Like forgetting what time that appointment was. Like calling Carol "Barbara." If you peek at your neighbor's algebra paper during a test, that's a BAD CHOICE. If you shoplift, that's a BAD CHOICE. If you cheat on your spouse, that's a BAD CHOICE. If you lure young people to your porn filth, that's a BAD CHOICE. NONE of those acts are MISTAKES, darn you folks! I cringe every time I hear a Church leader say "You must repent of your mistakes" or, "She then repented for her mistakes." NO! NO! NO! We don't repent for missing appointments, we repent for being involved with cheating, lying, porn, etc. The YW department of the Church is the only entity that gets it right: The orange value is "CHOICE and accountability" not "MISTAKES and accountability." There. I'll get down off my soapbox now.

  • Just a voice Layton, UT
    Dec. 14, 2012 11:19 a.m.

    MapleDon, I agree with your #3, not sure about #2. I have problems with #1. Do you think it is easier to tempt, persuade, direct, lead... a 12 year old than it is to influence a 20 year old? I do. I can talk my kids into a lot of things that are wrong, because they are still young and innocent. They are still victims even if they do something stupid or immature, because they are not yet fully mature. That doesn't mean they take responsibility for their actions, but the weight of responsibility we place on them has to be age appropriate.

  • JSB Sugar City, ID
    Dec. 14, 2012 11:19 a.m.

    I'm always a little suspicious of people who, with tear-filled eyes admit to their horrible crimes and then ask for a lighter sentence. If he felt as sorry as he says he is then he would acknowledge that he has done some horrible things and that he doesn't deserve to live in society with other people. He would acknowledge that for the protection of society, spending the rest of his life in prison is the best place for him and people like him.

  • Owl Salt Lake City, UT
    Dec. 14, 2012 10:27 a.m.

    Conscious decisions to pursue sexual predation are not simply "mistakes." If there are scientific evidences that rehabilitation is effective, please present them to the court.

  • MapleDon Springville, UT
    Dec. 14, 2012 10:12 a.m.

    This is clearly a sad story and an interesting reflection of a degraded society. There are a few items from this case that I found worthy of further questioning.

    1. The term "robbing someone's innocence" is used frequently as an effort to clarify the "perpetrator" and "victim" in a case. The rape of a girl walking to school clearly delineates the "victim" and the "perp". However, a girl looking for sex and finding it with a man makes the classification of "victim" or "innocence" not as effective. Likewise, in this case, several boys were looking for sex and continued to act on that urge, sexting with the hope of eventually having sex. Had they been photographed without their consent, it would be easy to refer to them as "victims" and "innocent", which is further diluted by the fact that they were never physically abused. "Disappointed" would be a more appropriate term.

    2. The law seems to weigh more heavily on transmission of sexually explicit material of a minor, rather than on actual sexual abuse of a minor. That seems backwards.

    3. Sexual predators don't have a history of successful rehabilitation. For the protection of society, they need confinement.

  • Open Minded Mormon Everett, 00
    Dec. 14, 2012 9:11 a.m.

    In Zion?!

    Nah - All's well in Zion!

  • slgs5aggie Cedar City, UT
    Dec. 14, 2012 8:49 a.m.

    This is indeed a great cautionary story for parents and children alike. Parents must work hard at monitoring what their children do online. Stop providing them such easy access to devices without having a watchful eye. On the other hand I have to mention my disgust as I read this article and the attempt to minimize this mans actions, and the audacity and enabling of his own mother family to try to blame away what he had done on the death of his father, and his previous emotional difficulties. Love and support your family, please do not try to excuse away their behavior. Behaviors, the actions that we do are a choice. Those choices are based upon our reactions to life, but still are a choice. I had close family member pass away recently, that in no way gives me permission or an excuse to go out and ruin the life of somebody else.

  • Itsme2 SLC, UT
    Dec. 14, 2012 8:40 a.m.

    Oh, and plus he's blaming his crimes on his father's death? Well, that's rich. How sickening! And when I say he's a "monster," I mean it!

  • Just a voice Layton, UT
    Dec. 14, 2012 8:39 a.m.

    Biggest take away: Do not trust any relatives or friends with your children. It happens way too often and is not worth the risk! Protect your children!

  • Sneaky Jimmy Bay Area, CA
    Dec. 14, 2012 8:34 a.m.

    Very sad story. Maybe two lessons to be learned:

    1) The internet is a cesspool, stop being addicted to Facebook (this includes probably every woman in Utah)
    2) Take a look around and see if you can "not" bully someone today. I see it everywhere. Is it human nature to try and place yourself above someone else so you feel secure?

    Yes, people that hurt other people need to be separated from society.

  • RanchHand Huntsville, UT
    Dec. 14, 2012 8:27 a.m.

    He seems like a "monster" to me, and prison is where he will do best.

  • Mom of 8 Hyrum, UT
    Dec. 14, 2012 8:17 a.m.

    There's mercy--"Give me a second chance"-- and then there's justice, for all those kids who are now as scarred as he is, or other kids who he may prey upon in the future.

    Mercy cannot rob justice.

    Yes, he suffered. But does it make it right for him to make others suffer? He was at this for two years, and no point in that time did he think, "Hey, this isn't right. What am I doing? I should get help"?

    Yes, that's extremely difficult to do. But if he had stopped himself and sought help, then his plea for "Give me a second chance" would seem more sincere.

    The fact that he was caught and forced into stopping suggests he would have continued damaging children. He's not ready for a second chance, and neither are our children.

  • SLC gal Salt Lake City, UT
    Dec. 14, 2012 7:45 a.m.

    At what point do you have to take responsibility for your actions? So life hands you some bad deals. Get over yourself! We all have scars!

    Hopefully, while serving the prison sentance he so richly deserves (yes, he says he's sorry, but so do most murderers), he gets the counseling he obviously needs.

  • comment Rawlins, WY
    Dec. 14, 2012 7:09 a.m.

    His "second chance" is in jail, rather than dead.

  • bribri86 Phoenix, AZ
    Dec. 14, 2012 7:08 a.m.

    "It were better for him that a millstone were hanged about his neck, and he cast into the sea, than that he should offend one of these little ones." - Luke 17:2

  • mountain man Salt Lake City, UT
    Dec. 14, 2012 6:45 a.m.

    Thank goodness he has a supportive wife and mother.
    They say some sexual predators cannot be rehabilitated.
    In this case there seems to be a lack of acknowledgement of the crimes.
    He will get the psychological therapy he needs in prison but he also will be prohibited from
    Abusing more boys.
    Who knows the cause. Who knows the cure.
    I feel very bad for him and for his victims.

  • indycrimson Franklin, IN
    Dec. 14, 2012 3:59 a.m.

    Thought provoking article. I will be asking myself the presumptuous question possed by the accused..."does everyone deserve a second chance"??

    Not sure I like either side of that question in the case of child abuse. Failing that second chance is extremely expensive for the next victim.

  • Pragmatic Salt Lake City, UT
    Dec. 13, 2012 9:46 p.m.

    very sad on many many levels. bless the victims, the victims family and the predators family. I feel sorry for all of them; as well as the predator. The fact that he was molested and bullied as a young man and never had the opportunity to recover is tragic for all..