I found dating humiliating and expensive. Even when I was dating seriously, many
of the people I met simply didn't get me for who I was. We learn that God
loves us for whom we are, but when it comes to dating, so many singles
don't want their dates for whom they are. Instead, there's this,
"I'll tolerate you until I can change you." For me,
that was a huge turn-off. I remember when I first started dating
seriously, I remember making a godly commitment that if I found the right
person, I would not screw it up, or avoid pursuing her for marriage. I prayed
desperately every night for over a year. Eventually, I met a girl that laughed
and took me in stride. I knew on the first date she was the one. No excuses. I just had to convince her of it. A few months later, I
proposed. We were both older than typical singles of our peers, still, it's
been the best adventure since we committed to walk it together. MY
advice is constant courage, stay close to the Spirit, keep trying no matter the
humiliation. Marriage is worth it.
The name reminded me of something that happened about 20 years ago. One fellow
employee was hansom and had a good looking car. During a break he said that he
had a date with a new girl every evening. At this point another employee, a
female, spoke up. I hope these are the words but they are the correct concept.
"Let me get this right. You have a date and she sees how you are. Then she
never accepts another date with you. So you find another girl for the next
evening." The room was a mixture of laughter and silence till the subject
Tamara is great! We had her speak on this very subject at the Orange County
California Singles + Midsingles Conference receiving rave reviews.
That's a nice story, for sure. But one statement made me go,
"whaaaat?" "Johnson is now a certified dating coach." What
board or organization out there produces "certified dating coaches,"
might I ask (with a bit of a snicker)? Jokes aside, I'm happy for Mrs.
Johnson and the happy end to her 31 in 31 experiment.
I really enjoyed this article. I wish there was more like this to help LDS
single adults. To many in the church just assume everyone has a spouse.