Comments about ‘BYU study shows young adults, parents differ on best age to marry’

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Published: Friday, Nov. 30 2012 5:00 a.m. MST

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Harwich, MA

30+....school's out of the way, career is on track and maturity level is much higher.

Bountiful, UT

Nature intends for young people to begin coming together at puberty. This is not our culture anymore, but it is natures intent.

Layton, UT

Did anyone see the photo in the article? Take a look at the mother of the (groom?). In that photo, you can see that she doesn't look like she appreciates, another woman taking her son! LOL With her position in the photo, I wonder if she plans on being between them the rest of their lives... LOL

The father at the same time, looks like he is glad that it is done! LOL

Just one perspective, and I was entertained.

Farmington, UT

I got married at 24 and I love being married. It's so great to find that one special person you want to annoy for the rest of your life.

sandy, UT

It's not definitive about age. . .Really about 2 people commit level towards The relationship. Major benefits and major draw backs to both. I'd still go with what prophet says dnews. . .

Sandy, UT

If parents expected chastity out of their unmarried children, feelings might be different.

Danbury, CT

I bet most fathers want their daughters to wait and their sons not to. btw - the bride in that photo has huge biceps. That young man has no chance with the death grip...

Kearns, UT

As a parent, I don't think it matters when they get married, even in high school. Finances will always be an issue until they learn to set goals and follow through with a budget. The give and take of chores, raising children, health issues, employment is a challenge no matter when they marry. As a parent, I would rather the girls have babies young while they still have the energy to enjoy the experience. Then they have the time when their children are older to finish college, if they choose, then have a career.

Ernest T. Bass
Bountiful, UT

Look at those arms, she must work out.

Diligent Dave
Logan, UT

cjb's comment essentially on nature vs nurture on this subject should well be noted. The fact that 'young people' are delaying marrige, doesn't necessarily mean they're not having sex. And that is bad!

The greatest prosperity in this nation was both accompanied and followed by young couples getting married earlier. In fact, I would argue, the so-called "baby boom" (1946-1964) was what really ended the Great Depression, and, for decades, prevented it again!

However, most people don't know that the US has had subreplacement birth levels since the early 1970's! Both the Great Depression, and our current 'Greater Depression?' have been preceded by major birth dearths. From 1910 to 1945, US birth rates were subpar. Same is true for this Recession/Depression!

Yes, I understand, that the correlation between age and personal economic circumstances seems to be geared toward higher ages. But what may appear to be better at a micro-economic level is bad macro-economically.

Why have so many 'young people' at universities, preparing for jobs that won't be there, because too many of them have failed to self-reproduce sufficiently because they married too late & had too few children, preventing sufficient consumer demand?

BYU Track Star
Los Angeles, CA

I'm thinking of the term "Elephant in the room". The Urban dictionary defines it as such:

A very large issue that everyone is acutely aware of, but nobody wants to talk about. Perhaps a sore spot, perhaps politically incorrect, or perhaps a political hot potato, it's something that no one wants to touch with a ten foot pole.

Young people in our culture have to deal with Elephant in the room as best as they can. Earlier marriage than their American peers is a solution. Their parents on the other hand are in denial such an Elephant exists at all.

Two For Flinching
Salt Lake City, UT

These types of studies are the reason BYU is not a member of the PAC-12.

Danbury, CT

Two Flinching,

BYU is not in the PAC 12 because they don't win the big games and there is some bias vs. Mormons. They do about as much serious research as the PAC 12's sociology departments which is...not much.

Central, UT

Look at the arms on that girl!! Wow

Bountiful, UT

Hey mommy and daddy, your children are adults and it is THEIR decisions on who and when to marry. Back off and live YOUR life and them them live THEIR lives. My advice to people who have parents such as this: Move away from them...far away! I have a son who is just shy of his 24th birthday and he is married and they are expecting their first child. They are in school, working hard and enjoying this part of their lives. I couldn't be more proud of them.

Farmington, UT

At what age to marry is one of the least important considerations. It is more conincidental than anything else. Persons who make age the primary focus of when they should marry might bring some baggage into their life for many years to come. What a silly criteria.

Layton, UT


LOL. You are correct! Besides the looks on the parents' faces, body position..., her guns also make the photo funny! Mom is concerned her son won't be the man of the family! LOL. You kill me.

Why would I?
Farmington, UT

Why would I take the photo seriously when it's obviously posed? Sheesh.

Kevin J. Kirkham
Salt Lake City, UT

We know that RMs are more mature and have more experience living day to day with someone (not just a roommate you may see now and then). With more girls going on missions now, they too will gain this. They understand the blessings and joy from serving others and working for a greater thing than themselves. This gives devout LDS kids a huge advantage over others their own age. Having the same values and morals is also a big plus. Being surrounded by others who share those values and cherish marriage and who help teach them to be better spouses (RS and EQ lessons) also help them. Having beliefs about the eternal benefits also incents couples to work hard on their marriage rather than just giving up when times get tough. Men may work/study harder knowing that their wives (and children?) are counting on them. They'll forego more time wasting activities. The bottom line is that devout LDS kids have a HUGE advantage over others in having a successful marriage. We old geezers shouldn't fear them marrying young.

Dallas, TX

My parents told me they would stop paying for college unless I waited to get married until I finished--so I waited until I graduated and got married at age 23. Interestingly, In Utah most people seem to think that age is about right. Outside of Utah (Texas, for example) most people think I got married at an insanely young age. Frankly, I would have been fine doing it even earlier--but I wanted to get out of school without undergraduate debt. I haven't decided whether I'll do the same thing with my kids.

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