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Published: Saturday, Nov. 24 2012 1:00 p.m. MST

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Provo, UT

Due to the recent economic downturn, I wanted to put off marriage... but my wife of 25 years wasn't interested in that.


My fiance is an ex-mormon and is almost 30. While still an active member I can't tell you the pressure and guilt she felt (internally from the culture more so than people pushing it on her) to hurry up and marry and have kids. She's wanted kids for years but hasn't found a man willing to wait till marriage for sex until she met me. This includes a few missionaries who burned her.

Not everyone wants to wait but circumstances happen. Some want to wait (like me) because I don't want to raise a family when I'm still becoming a man myself. If you can't take care of yourself yet don't bring in dependents. It's irresponsible.

Maricopa, AZ

I feel badly for those who really believe that life is better alone, or living with someone, married or otherwise, who think that putting off kids till later in life is a good plan.
As someone whose had ups and downs financially, I find the constance of happiness, joy and pleasure in my 4 kids, their spouses and the 10 beautiful grandkids to be the ultimate source of true happiness.
I'm still young enough, because we didn't wait until our 30's or 40's to have children.
So I am able to enjoy doing active adult things with my kids and also wrestle and play with my grand kids.
I wouldn't take a million dollars right now in exchange for the experiences I've already had with my family.
And I expect to be able to enjoy many more years of being an active part of their lives.

To me, that is the truest form of happiness in this life. But hey, maybe that's just me ;)


I think that many young people who graduate from college or university are getting poor advice about how to find a job. In days gone by, one could wait till the end of senior year to do job-seeking - but the rules have changed. A successful student still can find good work at a good salary that will support an adult, married life- but they must begin searching one year before they graduate.

My two daughters graduated magna cum laude from their respective undergraduate programs. Many of their peers with similar academic records did not find work- but my daughters did. Here is why: they began their search, in earnest, in September of their final year of undergraduate study. They went to a lot of interviews, sent a lot of emails, and sent a pile of resumes and cover letters out during the entire year. They both had excellent, well-paying jobs waiting for them just a week after graduation. They were positioned to start a family right away, if they so chose.

If couples want to marry after graduating from college, they should do well in school and make sure that they start the job search early.

American Fork, UT

Life, delayed only occurs when they're living in my basement. My son and his girlfriend are shacked up, not in my basement. I don't care if they get married or not; it doesn't make their relationship any less special. At least they're learning and growing as people. About half the time now marriage is a mistake. I can't blame the kids for staying away from it.

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