I too had experience a miscarriage with my first pregnancy. Oh the valuable
lessons I learned . It was a comfort to me talking with a friend & sister
in-law who had both experienced miscarriages themselves. I was able to read a
few books that helped & brought a whole new perspective on life. For those
that are struggling out there, I'd recommend what I've shared &
get a priesthood blessing. Remember you're not alone.
My wife and I have gone through this same experience.I taught Divine
Lessons, and political ones as well.It changed my mind and my heart
about 2 things:1. The LDS allows for aborations under these
cicumstances "viability of the fetus", and "health and well being of
the woman". What to do was between her, her Doctor, her family and God - no
one else needed to get involved.2. The Republican Party does not,
and would strip away choice. or She and her Doctor would be Criminals.My wife would be dead, and I'd still have no child - or future children
as a result.I learned alot.It broke my bleeding heart, and
gave me a more contrite spirit.
Jason, thanks so much for your thoughts on the subject. If I could add one
thing: if the doctor recommends a D&C, please strongly consider getting one.
My wife and I decided not to, and have been infertile ever since. We stopped
trying to get pregnant not because we don’t want more children, but
because we couldn’t bear to spend 45 or 50 months trying to get pregnant,
only to watch yet another baby die, anyway.LDS Liberal, I definitely
feel your pain, but I’m not sure why you felt the need to politicize this
article. We can debate elsewhere whether your assertions are even accurate, but
to display them in this particular venue is pretty classless. Bad show, LDSL.
theOtterLafayette, INWhy?Because rather than being
met and supported with kindness, compassion, sympathy -- we were met with scorn,
ridicule and dispesement by MEMBERS.Some people put their political
ideology ahead of our Christian values, and following the brethren --
THAT'S why.I was in the room, my Sister-in-Law, my Mother and
my Father prayed and had life-support pulled on my 32 year old brother following
a motorcycle accident.Life and Death decisions are to be between a
Family, Docotr and God -- NOT the Govenrment, not other members of the Churhc,
and definetly NOT some bogus Political Party. For the last 17 years,
it's all I can do to attend Church, and listen to lessons about Life and
Death and hear the hash words about a Families decisions, while those same
people Cheer a public exicusion by the State or rally for another Foreign War
for oil.Bitter?I suppose so -- but I can't wait for the
day when Christ's Atonement rectifies and makes ALL things right -- and
heals my soul, since the members of his Church are so calloused.
We've all had experiences in life wherein someone reacted in a
"caloused, or scornful, or sarcastic" manner when we were in deep sorrow
or distress. This is life. Not everyone is going to be sympathetic or
understanding when it is needed. I had a miscarriage once too, and reaction was
varied. That doesn't matter. I'm not perfect, and I'm sure
someone is correct that I have reacted in an inappropriate manner. What I and
others need to focus on is learning from our adverse experiences, whether they
be something along the lines of a miscarriage, or someone hurting our feelings
with an inappropriate reaction. We can only progress if he move forward and
don't let adversity mire us in bitterness or self-pity.
LDS Liberal,It appears to me that we are living in two different worlds.
My experiences in life and in the church seem to be very different than yours.
Isn't it great that each of us can have our individual points of view. You
can do whatever you feel is right and it does not matter what anyone else
thinks. It only matters what God thinks. The less time we spend worrying about
what others think about us, the better off we will be.
As a husband of over 22 years of marriage and some great son's. My wife and
I have had nine miscarriages each one was hard and had us on our knees praying
for understanding. We cherish each of our five sons as miracles that The Lord
has blessed us with over the greater part of twenty plus years of parenting. No
matter how many times this happened each was a trial and a lesson if we chose to
learn and grow from it. Thanks for sharing.
RE: LDS Liberal; What to do was between her, her Doctor, her family and *God -
no one else needed to get involved?In The U.S. We have “The Right
to LIFE” Liberty and the pursuit of Happiness"If you could ask
the child, would he say abort me?For you (*God)created my inmost being;
you knit me together in my mother's womb.(Psalm 139:13 NIV).LDS
Liberal, I have Orthodox(Temple) Mormon family and neighbors and I pretty much
understand what they believe(we agree to disagree on the BoM). But talking a
liberal Mormon would be like trying to nail Jello to the wall.