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Published: Wednesday, Sept. 12 2012 5:00 a.m. MDT

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raybies
Layton, UT

I really like how this article focuses on the power behind the ARP. It isn't the program, but the Savior's Atonement and the faith we exercise in him that brings about forgiveness and real healing change. We were never intended to face our weaknesses alone. Our good God has given us his Son, a God who Gave His life, to walk with us and lift us when we fall. His yoke is light. The ARP is an inspired program that inspires hope, trust in God, and replaces feelings of shame with feelings of optimism.

There is nothing the Savior cannot heal. Sometimes I think we think we should be able to handle it on our own. We delay doing what is right because we want to prove we're right on our own.

Start by wanting to change. Don't do it alone. The Savior can even help us to WANT help, if we ask him for the desire. He saves. He kindles the faintest sparks of belief into glowing testimony. The path back is filled with challenge, but there is nothing better out there. The Savior Jesus Christ leads the way.

jmason
San Diego, CA

I am a recovering drug addict and I have attended LDS recovery meetings. They are preferable in some ways to the other 12-step meetings I was used to attending, except for two things: (1) people who have addictions often come from pretty gnarly backgrounds, and the meetings can become intense. People let everything out, they speak frankly and sometimes this speech is not...church acceptable. Well, obviously you can't do this in a LDS recovery meeting, i.e., let it all out, unvarnished and unedited; so some people just hold it in and don't let it all out. I know I did.

And the other thing (2)...one of the primary rules of AA and 12-step is, NO VISITORS. In other words, addicts only. But in these LDS group meetings you have service missionaries superintending the meetings who have no direct experience with addiction. For my part, I found this discouraging. Having been sidelined and living on the margins of church activity for two decades, I said to myself, "The church does not even trust me, or other recovering addicts--they don't even trust us enough to run our own recovery meetings."

This is my two-bits worth.

New to Utah
PAYSON, UT

This is a beautiful article about a very real problem. It is mind boogling to see
the statistics. ARP is inspired and always lifts people. The article was sensitive to the extreme pain that comes from addiction.

RedWings
CLEARFIELD, UT

jmason:

I am sorry that your experience in ARP meetings was not as good as it could have been. I have been in recovery for several years, and served for a time as a Facilitator in the Program. Compared to the other 12-step meetings I attended, I found great strength in the LDS program.

I firmly believe that the 12-step program is inspired by God. I believe He inspired Bill W. is forming the original AA program, as well as LDS leaders with this program. The 12-steps lead us through the Atonement, regardless of our religious denomination or affiliation. I have seen some respond very well to ARP, and others who do better in other meetings. We each find our own doorway into recovery, but once inside there is one path - Christ.

God loves ALL His children, and He will provide a way for us to overcome our trials.
jmason (and anyone else who reads this), I hope you know this and that you have found His help and peace....

FindingHope
Medina, OH

I am the wife of a recovering pornography addict. I have only known for 6 months of his more than 30 year addiction. I had opportunity in Utah to attend ARP meetings which were also referred to as PASG (passage) meetings. The first time is the hardest to walk through that door. If you are even contemplating it, GO! Please GO! They have been a lifeline for me. They cannot replace personal commitment or professional help, but they are necessary and so helpful in your own recovery. For my husband and I it is one day at a time. If a group that you are attending isn't working for you, attend a different one. Each group has its own personality. But this is an inspired program and will work if you go prayerfully, follow it and allow the help to come. Thank you to Brother Hilton. My husband wished that he'd had your book "He Restoreth My Soul" years ago. He said it would have helped him to come to terms of where he really was and gave him the tools to come forward. Pornography addiction is progressive. Get out as soon as you can! It is possible.

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