This is a much needed article. I am a man who never married, single without
children. I paid for educating many children who are not mine, paid into SSI,
my church, and my bills. Now at age 56, I am unemployed, broke, and in failing
health. It is indeed, a less than desirable outcome for someone who wanted to
save the world.
Just because a person is not married by the time they are in their 50s or 60s
does not mean that they never will be married! Likewise while women are limited
by menopause as to when they can still have their own biological children a lot
of men like NeilT can still be fathers! My advice is go the gym, get out their
and meet other people just don't give up!
I am L.D.S. and single. I live away from my family who is in another state. I
feel like I'm just a bother to members of my ward. I singles wards are few
in the area and I hate being labeled in both the family ward or a singles ward.
I worry all of the time about what would happen if I fell or slipped. They
would miss me at work before anybody at church would miss me. There are times I
have missed church for several weeks in a row and nobody noticed or they contact
me on Facebook. I just have to keep going if something happens or not. I feel
like like I'm invisible to most people being single. I am alone for all
holidays, but I've gotten use to it.
I am LDS and single. I will be 57 in November. I never dreamed I would go
through a divorce not once but twice. I have always wanted children of my own,
it just didn't work out. I feel fortunate to have been blessed with
supportive siblings and a few close friends I can count on. Being single is a
trial. I have always strived to be independent. I feel that many LDS
don't understand the trials of being single in a church where marriage and
family are everything. If it wasn't for a singles ward I would probably
stop attending church.
Every caregiver's worry -- Who Will Be Me, For Me?
Do we as a society should assume responsibility for the well being of the old,
the sick,the enfant who doesn't have anothet form fo support?I
think Cain's question resonate through the ages. "Am I the keeper of my
brother?"The moral answer I think should be a resounding yes.Too bad that the moral fabric of our society it gets tangled with the
politics and the price tag of doing what is correct.
From my experience it doesn't matter if you are an orphan boomer or have a
large family when it comes to receiving care when needed. If you belong to a
church, it is easy to become dependent on the care of the members. If everyone
in a family is working full time, they complain it is difficult to provide
care. Some families do take responsibility, many do not. Many elderly/sick
refuse to move closer to their families who can help. Then, when they move they
refuse to sell/donate their belongings. It is very difficult working with many
of the elderly/sick no matter what their situation is. Convincing the elderly to
fill out paperwork such as power of attorney, etc. is also difficult. When to
stop driving is another issue. Our family has had hands on experience with this
one. Also, when the elderly have no money to help defray costs such as even pay
for transportation or even help with gasoline costs, the caregiver sometimes
does not have the money to do much.