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Published: Sunday, Sept. 2 2012 4:34 p.m. MDT

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Utah Native
Farmington, UT

Having gone away to college for the first time over two decades ago, I can appreciate how things have changed for the better. Although I relished my first taste of independence, especially without email or texting to tie me to home (and when long-distance calling was cost-prohibitive on a tight budget), I also made more mistakes than I would like to admit and wasted a lot more money than I should have - not on frivolous items, but in taking too many unnecessary courses (I didn't even realize I had an academic adviser until I was well into my sophomore year). My mom dropped me off and wished me well, and that was it; I think we had less than one phone call per month, too. Glad there are more resources to help acclimate first-year students who, no matter how they view themselves, are generally a long way away from being mature adults.

Brian
Wasilla, AK

As a parent I have a message for the college. Focus on your job. Give accurate information through you counselors. Improve the quality of your teaching. Don't feel like you need to increase tuition every time more student loan money becomes available. Try and remember that it's called a "four year degree".

Lasvegaspam
Henderson, NV

Utah Native: "...first-year students who, no matter how they view themselves, are generally a long way away from being mature adults." Bingo. Yet they are allowed to vote for our nation's elected officials. I worked for an attorney who, when he drew up wills for clients, recommended NEVER leaving any large sums of money to “children” until at least age 25, or it would be utterly wasted. The voting age must be changed back to 21, if not older.

J-TX
Allen, TX

"When a child leaves for college: Parents must learn to let go"

The very title defines the problem. The time for parents to let go is far, far before they are in College.

Don't coddle them in middle school, teach them to get a job and be independent in High School. Let them take a short road trip. Let them stay overnight with trusted friends.

Send them off to scout camp without sending Dad along. Send them to EFY and don't text them 15 times a day.

Parents create the problem themselves. If they didn't, there would not be a need to spend resources in trying to cure their "johnny addiction".

Howard Beal
Provo, UT

Sorry lasvegaspam, but IMO if these young people can go off to fight and die for our country, they should get the right to vote.

worf
Mcallen, TX

Lasvegaspam,

IMO, people without a HS degree, or who are on the dole, should not be able to vote. The dole creates a conflict of interest.

We'd have more competent leadership.

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