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Published: Sunday, Aug. 5 2012 2:00 p.m. MDT

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JayTee
Sandy, UT

Between the taxpayers and the grandparents there to pick up the ball nearly every time, why in the world put a child up for adoption? It's enormously expensive and often nearly impossible to adopt a child in the U. S. these days, particularly if you're not wealthy--despite all the unwanted pregnancies and unequipped biological parents. A lot of this has to do with people handing off to others rather than being responsible for their actions and then allowing someone else to step in and do the right thing. Many grandparents don't live long enough or have enough energy or other resources to do the job well, so it's back to the taxpayers, usually. But that's life in American now, and I guess we're all supposed to just adapt.

My2Cents
Taylorsville, UT

I have to give these grandparents a lot of respect and admiration for their active involvement in their grand childrens lives. Now add on 3 more children born out of wed lock and inherited drug addictions the state won't help with. In many cases I know of the mother or parents are drug addicts who can't care for children.

No, these grandparents or children are not a tax burden and cannot get financial or welfare aid in any form from the state of Utah. The grandparents are complete care givers without expecting for or asking for state help which the can't get anyway.

Many grandparents face criminal charges for caring for their own grand children because the state of Utah wants possession for the federal money they get for each child in foster care. Grandparent care out of love, the state does it for the money, and lots of it.

If children have family or white parents at home with income (SSA) Utah denies them food stamps, financial assistance, or medical care. If grand parents can't be legal guardians or adopt grand children they get harassed, the state loses money if grand parents raise grand children.

ute alumni
Tengoku, UT

I am thankful my daughter-in-law was raised by terrific grandparents. No they did not take public funds to do so. They gave her a great upbringing and she is the best wife, daughter-in-law and mother that anyone could want. I am sure it was tough, but they did the right thing. I love all the expert posters on this site.

Farmintown
Salt Lake City, Utah

It is interesting to note, but one of the best kinship care programs in the country, called Grandfamilies, is sponsored by the Children's Service Society of Utah (CSSU). CSSU is one of the oldest non-profit groups in Utah, I believe 128 or 129 years old at this point. Their program is nationally recognized and is a public service.

Having adopted our grandchild assures that inheritance rights are preserved and unencumbered parental rights (often drug laden parents use their offspring as pawns to manipulate). I even know of Great-grandparents raising and having legal custody. Those in Foster care in Utah number about 2800, but kinship care is 50,000 plus. Most get no government assistance as Foster care does.

Biological relationships, if healthy, provide children with a positive sense of family even if a generation is skipped. Yes there is sacrifice, but boy are there rewards too. Thanks to all those who have picked up the pieces to the betterment of society.

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