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Published: Thursday, Aug. 2 2012 7:25 p.m. MDT

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rightascension
Provo, UT

"launch into adulthood" is not quite the right wording. The adult children ARE adults -- what they need a launch into is larger salaries and private real estate.

Howard Beal
Provo, UT

In reality the concept or reality of the nuclear family has been around a very short time in human history. For most of human history multi-generational households were the norm. The nuclear family was really a creation of the economy, perhaps good economic conditions and perhaps shorter life spans. It makes sense that economic conditions will change family structure greatly. Those living in their 40's perhaps even in their early 70's will have that challenge of being in the "sandwich" generation, supporting their elderly parents and their adult children. However, isn't this what family is ultimately for. If the couple in this story can avoid going on the dole so to speak with some family support, isn't it better for them and the rest of us? Think about it...

Howard Beal
Provo, UT

I will also add this caveat of RedShirt's assertion about this couple having a child. Certainly, common sense might indicate a delay in that decision but considering the faith the couple, where many of their ecclesiastical leaders and even religious dogma have encouraged not postponing having children because of schooling or other economic conditions, this perhaps enhances this condition among many of Utah's younger adults. This decision to live up to expectations of the predominant religious culture and what might make more economic sense, is indeed a challenging one...

anti-liar
Salt Lake City, UT

Mukkake and utahboni have it right. The retirees and near-retirees clucking about how they did it all by themselves were living in LA-LA LAND back in the 60's and 70's! They have ZERO room to talk about the situation today's young adults find themselves in.

And yes, I'll say it, and no one is going to shame me from doing so: a substantial part of the reason for the sharp increase in the cost of housing today is the flood of illegal immigrants who have robbed America's young people of their birthrights -- by taking their jobs, driving down wages across the board, and saturating the housing market which has made renting, much less owning, almost impossible anymore, for many. Californians escaping to Utah for the same reason has exacerbated the problem in Utah.

USAlover
Salt Lake City, UT

If you're old enough to sleep with my daughter and make a baby with her, you better as heck be ready to be a man and take care of her/them.

These young kids want the benefits of marriage without paying for them.

Man up, Gen Y!!!

awsomeron1
Oahu, HI

I live in Hawaii and it is very common for grown kids to live with their parents. Some Married and Some Not. I have two kids 24 and 21 still living at home. The Boy went to College flunked out after two years, at least he tried and he is Special Needs. He is now working part to full time and is paying rent based on a % of his paycheck 30%. The Daughter worked for 2 years 10hrs a week for a mental health none profit never paid rent and volunteered to give up her job when funding got tight. She has never really looked for other employment, as a Mental Health Rep for Youth she one year got to go to Chicago and another year to D.C. and has been in PSA's for youth mental health. Right now she is on a Mini Mission for 3 weeks after 2 week end Missions when she gets back she is going to find a job, as I have had enough. Two of my Foster Kids have stayed on as Tenants and they work and pay Rent one goes to College. as well. You handle things as you need to.

awsomeron1
Oahu, HI

I believe in being as Helpful as Possible as long as they are Not Loafing Around. Is the Education Really being finished. Is the job really being looked for. My kids are unslected Singles, Who will Not use Mormon Singles.Com. The are not going to meet any one in the Ward or Stake. As for the Married ones. RM's need to be Married and parents just have to help out. There is a time when enough is enough but they need to get through school. A few years with them will not kill you, as long a progress it being made, and everyone is civil. Living at home with your parents prevents the ability to scream in either Anger or Delight and you can't exactly leave the Baby to Scream and Cry it out. Also kids catch on quick and will play 4 ends against the middle instead of both ends against the middle. However as a means to an end and not an end in itself with a goal in sight, then I see No harm. Parents get out of this by Selling Their House and Down Sizing so there is No Room.

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