Tiger5 - my sister-in-law could have written your comment. Relationships are not
destroyed by one person if there is a relationship and not just a loyalty bond
because of the closed family system. I think it is offensive to accuse one
person when it really takes a family to destroy relationships. My in-laws have
never supported us as a couple. They supported their son/brother/uncle but never
us as a couple. He was always supposed to be loyal to them even if that meant
destroying our relationship. You sound just the same as his family. I am certain
you and your family have not been supportive to them as a couple. Sounds like
you have a closed family unit that is dysfunctional but one has to be loyal and
keep the unspoken rules or you are kicked out of the family, especially as an
in-law.I applaud this father for making memories for his daughter. That
shows the love and care he has for her and his family. I hope his wife and
daughter have both sides of the family supporting them without judgement. That
usually happens in solid families.
The last paragraph says it all.I wish my family could just get along.My sister in law has destroyed my brothers relationship with all of us.Remember how funerals put us all in perspective?I can only imagine the
clarity this disease would bring to many people.Good luck Emerson!You're lucky to have those parents.
What an uplifting article and what wonderful and caring comments. That is what
this ole world is about, thinking of others, loving and supporting even those
who are strangers. Just made my day.
Wonderful story, and the it should be an inspriation to of us, no matter how
different our own challenges may be. My prayers are for all with these really
I'm teared up!Best article I've read all week.I'm going for a walk before anyone notices me crying!!
What a wonderful attitude to life this courageous young man has. Truly
inspiring. This story reminds me so much of a wonderful book that I
read some time ago. It was called "Tuesdays with Morrie," by Mitch
Alborn. The true story of a college professor stricken with this same
illness.Whilst this illness may take his life early, this little
girl will one day meet with her Daddy again, this time never to be separated
This is what the Apostle Paul meant when he said, "...O death, where is thy
sting? O grave, where is thy victory..." (1 Corinthians 15:55)
Very inspiring story.
I agree with Utah Girl. Videos will give the daughter not only the words of her
father, but visuals of him talking to her.
My gosh...need to proofread my posts. I meant to say "when she gets
older" not "old". I have a friend whose husband is deployed to
Afghanistan. They do nightly devotionals as a family, so he recorded about 3
months' worth of devotionals before he left, and his family has really
treasured hearing those while he's been gone. I have some cassette tapes of
my father playing his harmonica. He's been gone for 18 years, and it was
several years before he died that he could no longer play due to
Parkinson's disease. I treasure the letters I still have that he wrote to
me, as well as ones from my dear mother. Those things are priceless. If we ever
have a fire in our home, my first thing to grab, if I could, would be my
journals, then pictures, then my computer which has so many pictures of my
family on it, and my scriptures. Tucked into the pockets of my journals are
letters from my mom and dad, poems by my children, their patriarchal blessings,
and much more. Some things are just not replaceable.
Letters are wonderful. And maybe even more important, if you can, make some
videos for her. Tell her about yourself, about her and what she's doing,
maybe video the two of you together for her to see later. Make videos reading a
book to her, telling her a story, anything that you think she would love to hear
when she gets old. Advice about her first day of school, first date, so on. And
make extra copies!My daughter-in-law's father died from this
awful disease just a few months before she and my son got married. That was 6
1/2 years ago. Their first son they named after his two grandpas.So
sorry you have to deal with this, but you are taking something very difficult
and turning it into something memorable instead. God bless...