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Published: Thursday, March 6 2014 7:00 a.m. MST

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Ernest T. Bass
Bountiful, UT

Satan doesn't exist.

Jamescmeyer
Midwest City, USA, OK

Thank you for sharing this article. It's really nice to be able to see nice things like this while reading the news, and not just focusing on whatever big, gloomy stories will grab people's interest.

Meckofahess
Salt Lake City, UT

DN and author - thanks for publishing this insightful and inspirational article. It is a description of the real, true world and the real challenges faced by many mothers (from the perspecitve of the mother in this case). Thank God for our precious wives and mothers and for all their goodness!

Uncle Rico
Sandy, UT

Great article!

B ob
Richmond, CA

I needed this today! Thanks for printing it.

The Deuce
Livermore, CA

To: Ernest T. Bass, Bountiful, UT - tell me, do you really want to take that bet?

LadyGrace
Rexburg, ID

Thank you so much for sharing this.
I have been really struggling a lot lately (not a mother, just a student), but this is exactly what I needed is see in my life right now.

csprat
Salt Lake City, UT

This is such a weird article. I appreciate the point that the struggles of a stay-at-home parent can be overwhelming and that in those times people can react by doing things they'd rather not do (moments of weakness, getting frustrated, becoming angry, whatever). It's often nice to read about people overcoming struggles, learning from mistakes, and finding hope. But the whole "satan stealing motherhood" thing is distracting and odd. Plus, I'd bet that motherhood is something the author equates with her womanhood...in that perspective is womanhood and femininity so easily taken? And is that why she's afraid of doing something that makes her appear taller than her husband?

Dennis
Harwich, MA

@The Deuce....I'll take that bet with Ernest T.....He doesn't exist. You only believe it because you've been told it your entire life.

Karen R.
Houston, TX

@ The Deuce

I'll take that bet with Ernest T. Bass and will add that I think it's a cop-out to blame things on "the devil." Not that I don't empathize with the author of this article. I just don't believe that a being outside of herself is responsible for what she describes and I think framing it in this way robs a person of the opportunity to address the real issue(s). For instance, parenting is incredibly hard and requires enormous reserves of energy every day. Maintaining these reserves requires ensuring that one's own needs are met. When they're not, meltdowns are almost inevitably going to occur.

In short, everything the author describes here can be explained by one thing: Being human. This may not be as thrilling as seeing yourself in a courageous battle of Good v. Evil, but it is real. My bet's with reality.

1aggie
SALT LAKE CITY, UT

I've got to come down on the side of reality too. It's actually a little disturbing to read somebody blaming satan for her own insecurities and issues. What if some of her issues require outside help (or medication) and she is blaming satan rather than seeking the help she (and her family) really needs?

The Caravan Moves On
Enid, OK

@ Ernest T. Bass - Bountiful, UT - "Satan doesn't exist."

That's the funniest thing I've heard in days.

Funny, that is, if it wasn't so incredibly dangerous.....

kla795
Salt Lake City, Utah

This is the kind of guilt-ridden motherhood I am happy to leave behind. Once I started to understand gender roles and cultural constructs, my husband and I began to work together as a team to raise our 4 kids. I now recognize that 'mother' is an important part of my life, but not the entirety of it. I am still a human being with needs myself. As I have begun to take better care of those needs ( I am back in school part-time for one thing), I have seen the depression I experienced as a stay-at-home mom lift. We share the home responsibilities among the entire family (things are actually cleaner now!) and we treat each member of the family as a human being with needs for fulfillment. I am happier, the kids are happier, my husband is happier (albeit he has more responsibilities around the house - and performing them very well, I might add) and I certainly no longer think it was "satan" trying to thwart me from some God-given assignment. Rather, it is a by-product of a male-dominated society. Love your children: yes. Become the "giving-tree" stump: no.

Sneaky Jimmy
Bay Area, CA

@Earnest Why you got to dis people for blaming Satan for their own shortcomings?

theidma
New York City, NY

@ kla795, Thank you! I could not have said it any better.

RedWings
CLEARFIELD, UT

@ Ernest, Dennis, & Jimmy:

One of Satan's greatest tools is to convince us that he does not exist. Looks like it is working on some....

Ernest T. Bass
Bountiful, UT

The sooner you guys realize this reality, the sooner you can come to terms with just being good people for the sake of being good.
It's liberating.
Just be kind and considerate, no need to blame some invisible 'entity' for not being kind.

Araanna
Farmington, NM

This is not Satan stealing your motherhood. This is just motherhood and learning to deal with children and their own personalities. And learning that you can't have a happy mother if the mother is running on empty.

Satan stealing your motherhood consists of a husband abandoning you and your kids. Receiving zero help because you are deemed a bad woman because you are not a widow but a divorcee. Having your kids made fun because they don't have two parents. Having to work full time to make the house payment, heating payment and putting food on the table....all while having more than one pair of soaking wet underwear on the floor (and not caring because underwear on the floor is the least of your worries). Listening to your kids and having to be both mom and dad in every single situation. All the while being told, repeatedly, that you are a second class citizen. You learn to hold your temper when you are in this situation, because there is no. other. option.

ChemistryIsMyGame
Springtown, CA

It seems from the article you're a pretty good mom. Seems you're just a typical first world stay-at-home mother who has real emotions and real reactions to her situation. Nobody wants a brainless smile with dinner and a drink. Someone like that doesn't ever show their kids the art and reality of emotional processing. You're not less of a person for not smiling through the whole thing. That's not even realistic to expect from anyone, especially yourself. You shouldn't confuse this for weakness, because it isn't. The fact that you soldier on, still get up and do your mom-thing day in and out is proof of strength.

When you shout at your kids, just apologize for not handling it the best.
When the house isn't clean, recruit the kids to help, and make it a game if they're younger. If they're older make appropriate incentives (Movies are usually good).

Blaming someone else for your shortcomings is bull. Imaginary friends os one thing, but imaginary enemies is... well... kind of crazy.

bradleyc
Layton, UT

Great article! Thank you for sharing. I will certainly share it with my wonderful wife.
Now... off to fish for Bass.

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