"'I'm so fond of Jared because we talk together, we talk the same
language. He is a very good student, he's learning and learning, learning
and that means everything to me,' Winship said."================================There is a tragic kind of poignant
symmetry to see the former educator receiving so much joy from his forgetting as
it helps his friend learn so much.Great story about some great
people. I wish them all the very best.
Every morning I went to see him the words were the same... "where are you
from?" ... "oh, I've been there." was the answer.Ralph
was a retired professor ... Ralph really helped me - not the other way - to
understand people, especially dementia. BUT moreso he helped me to see how much
FEELINGS control our behaviour, especially how much feeling memory means!
Ralph's answer to a question my first morning ... When his wife asked him
"Do you remember who sat next to you in priesthood meeting yesterday?"
Without hesitation he answered:" I cannot remember, but he was a nice
man." Ralph had forgotten everything else, except the feeling! What a
complement! Because that man had been me. That was the first lesson Ralph taught
me. I am forever thankful to Ralph, my teacher. I wish that everybody
would have an opportunity to help - and learn.
I wonder if this kind of a partnership could be developed between others with
psychoemotional problems and "normal" people. Could students be
"assigned" to assist or mentor or look out for the interests of students
with autism and other social or learning problems? It might be a great learning
experience for the "helper" and a great help to people who have
difficulty helping themselves.