I am not going to make a strong defense of Alan Thicke and Gloria Loring's
son, Robin. Most DN readers would be offended by the uncensored version of his
big hit, "Blurred Lines." However, if you actually saw the
"performance," he was dressed modestly and hardly into Miley's
outrageous behavior. She is obviously troubled and seeking whatever kind of
attention and fame she can get. I'm not sure if he had rehearsed the song
the way it came out. He isn't talking about it, but after the show,he and
his wife took their three-year-old on vacation. Actually, none of the young
people I know are talking about it or bringing attention to it. It's the
outraged adults who won't let it go. That said, when I complain to my
grandchildren about song lyrics, they say, "Oh Grandma, we hear worse than
that many times a day at school." The skunk is so out of the bag among our
youth! My daughter is a YW president with a teenager of her own, and she tells
me stories that keep me up at night.
Bro Ben.You are seriously NOT getting the point. Do you
truly think that since "We cannot protect our kids from themselves.
Eventually, they are going to make their own decisions and make their own way
irrespective of us." that we should just throw in the towel, without at
least trying to teach them right from wrong?Do you REALLY think that
teaching your kids is "getting in your children's way"? There we have the perfect example of derelict parenting. Thanks for that.And Scientist...sadly, none of those important things will be brought to
our attention in any mainstream medium, because far too many people are paying
far too much money to use up every available bit of bandwidth and time with this
type of trash.Sorry, if you think the decay of our society is
unimportant...you missed a few classes, you may need to study some social
sciences and get a better concept of the reality we all live in.
Isn't this ironic (or there is another word for it) - LDS people who insist
that ALL Mormons are not tainted by the actions of a few, are now characterizing
and condemning ALL entertainers and Hollywood because of the actions of a
few...What Miley did was an embarrassment, but it is hypocritical
(oh, there is that word) for this letter to dismiss ALL of Hollywood as
worthless and meaningless, especially in a letter that is clearly obsessing with
the Miley incident. If Hollywood is so worthless, why are you all making such a
big deal about this?Move on already! There are truly important
things going on in the world.
Am I supposed to be impressed buy a father who says he'll kick his sons but
up and down the street?
A letter is good but there is nothing better than a good example for a child to
follow. We can write books, teach lessons, send letters, discipline, etc. all
we want. But the single most important determinant of how a child will act is
whether they have a good example in their lives, preferable their parents.
Children with good examples at home will realize the VMAs, movies, tv, radio,
internet, etc. are all just entertainment and nothing to emulate, without us
writing a long winded note to pin to their clothes when they get older, although
I do agree with the content.
I have three kids, a teen age son, and a grade school daughter and younger son.
None of them are talking about the raunchy VMA show on the MTV. You want to
know why? We didn't watch it. Not on the TV, not on the interwebs,
nothing. So... no conversation about what's her name's get up or the
middle aged dude grinding up against the 20 year old. Instead we were having
fun as a family, perhaps watching the discover channel, or the science channel,
my kids love that one. Point is, don't let your tv be a baby sitter, if you
see something you don't want your kids, to see, turn the channel.
Don't let the tv be a baby sitter, but don't go getting all "Think
of the Children" when you hear about something raunchy on the TV. Personal
Are you kidding me? One no-talent girl makes a spectacle of herself and
that's a reflection on ALL of Hollywood? I don't think so. Justin
Timberlake gave a classy, very talented performance. So did Bruno Mars and
Is that Alan thickes son?
Seriously. This entire letter is nothing more than the pent up frustration of a
"man" who will realize fortune and fame. Thus he feels justified in
throwing around ridiculous assumptions and stereotypes. "All alone, in his
big, empty, lonely house"? Please. Last time I checked, Robin Thicke can
be found going off about how gorgeous his WIFE is, and the fact that they are so
involved in show business together. This dad has no clue how they interact, or
manage their relationship. Not the slightest. The snap judgement and assuming
going on by outsiders who will always be looking in, is the real problem with
society. Everyone should handle the skeletons in their own closets, before
esteeming themselves and attempting to teach their children how wrong the whole
of successful entertainers and artists lives are (based primarily on envy and
disdain for their own boring, uneventful, meaningless lives) - when a person has
zero personal experience with any of it. 50% of married couples decide to part
ways. Being married (his prescription for a fulfilling life) can be just as
tough as all the money and fame, if not more so. Don't kid yourself, dad.
I think you all need to reread this letter and pay more attention to the fact
that bad parenting is contributing to this problem. When you have parents that
completely disregard social norms and routine parenting styles, it is no wonder
we produce Miley Cyrus and Robin Thicke. If you ask most Religious
leaders, child development experts, and higher education researchers, they will
all concur that derelict parenting contributed to the major problem children
that are now adults today. The problem is that our children never grew up
because of extreme parenting tactics and vain attempts to protect them from a
world that was going to corrupt them anyway.We cannot protect our
kids from themselves. Eventually, they are going to make their own decisions
and make their own way irrespective of us. Stop getting in your
children's way. Allow them to grow up at their pace and see the world for
themselves. Parents can be like government sometimes if they are not
careful--they cause a lot of problems as a result of getting in the way and not
allowing people to just live their lives.
@Brother BenI don't think I read the same letter as you. I
think this man is correct in his assessment of the natural man in this world. I
am happy he wrote this. I will forward it to my teenager.
I am concerned by the harsh, extreme, and untrusting tone of this letter. Have
you the audacity to write a letter in such a way that sends the message that you
do not have the ability to entrust your son with women and reponsibility is
troubling to me. We need to teach these things, but I fear parents
nowadays are resorting to extreme and emotionally hurtful methods of teaching
these things to their sons and daughters.People know that the reason
kids end up messed up are because of derelict parents who resorted to scare
tactics and threats. The motto of such irresponsible parenting is "Do as I
say, not as I do". I personally think if sons and daughters are
getting letters, then we need to write a letter to uncompromising parents who
are the same way so they don't get off the hook either. For
that matter, why not include grandparents, aunts and uncles, in-laws, cousins,
friends, religious leaders, teachers, counselors, principals, the local school
board, the dog, the cat, the fish, and on and on? After all, they are all libel
to be corrupted too, These letters mischaracterize fathers, mothers,
sons, daughters, and pop culture.
By all means... let's keep beating this dead horse! Miley and Robin are
laughing all the way to the bank as this has stayed in the news all week...
ridiculous, get over it, move on people.
Great article! Thanks for taking a stand and letting the world know
that TV, Hollywood, and any other poor excuse for entertainment is creating a
false image of women.Sad that everyone is going along with it just
so they can make some money and giggle like they are the smartest people
around.We are all going to stand accountable someday. Let's try to learn how to Stand Up Tall while we still can.Or
why don't you go hide under a rock now and stop your negative influence,
because that is where you are going to want to hide later.Do us all
a favor and do the right thing!
Great letter!I've been wondering when someone was finally going
to put some of the blame for this Miley Cyrus fiasco onto Robin Thicke, her
dancing partner!! He's been getting away totally unscathed, when his
slimey song and dance routine was the basis for this whole incident.And then, the blame should also be partially shifted to Miley's agent,
the show producers, etc. who ALL had a hand in this piece of filth.
Love it! Well said.
Nicely said. There are many things that could be said about the people who seem
to dominate the entertainment industry, but unmanly, disloyal, manipulative and
lustful sums it up perfectly. The more we turn them off, the happier we will
Excellent column! The number one thing we can do to make our daughters'
future brighter is to raise our sons well. (and vice versa.)
Well said! Hollywood is full of nothing.... really nothing, just emptiness
wrapped up with a bright ribbon and loud music.