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Published: Wednesday, Aug. 21 2013 2:00 p.m. MDT

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FreedomFighter41
Provo, UT

This is such a sad story. However, it is a valuable lesson. Parents can no longer just sit on the couch or stay in their officers all day and night long expecting Facebook, Playstation, and friends to raise their children. No matter what presents or vacations you take, nothing will substitute for good parenting.

fowersjl
Farmington, Utah

To state in this article that the girl is a runaway, but not in "imminent danger" is ludicrous. If, she was lured away by somebody she met online, I would wager she is in tremendous danger. Poor parents, how frightening and heartbreaking. How do we closely monitor our children's use of social media? Either by standing over them every minute they are on the computer, or denying them access to it. It is literally impossible, like making sure they don't breathe unless you give them permission. Warning, talking, teaching, lecturing, etc., etc. will only go so far with certain kids, cause there are always those kids who want to make all their own mistakes, and usually suffer awful consequences because of their poor choices.

Rational
Salt Lake City, UT

"The best ways to protect kids is simply to talk to them, Call said."

A gate is only as good as the fence it is attached to. Talking with them isn't enough. You need to form genuine relationships, and yes, you need to supervise. A teenager with a smartphone is a problem waiting to happen.

athought
Salt Lake City, UT

I work in a position where I have, at times, had to go into these kids' facebook page. You would be appalled at the things I see in them and the language they use. I would hope they don't use it at home, or pose the way they do for pics they post. If they do, then I'm not surprised by the trouble they get in. Most parents have no clue what their kids are doing, they don't know who their friends are, they have no clue as to what to tell police because they are totally clueless when it comes to their kids. I guess I'm a horrible person when I demand to know who my kids associate with and where they live and what activities they are involved in, but then, I'm usually involved also. My kids haven't complained, but if they ever came up missing, I would have a whole list of contacts and places my kids go to when the police ask. How many of you have your list? Get involved with your kids so their BFF's aren't 27 - 30 year old men trolling for young kids.

gigi_gorgeous
New York, NY

Actually, the best way to protect one's children would be to remove all access to social media sites, in addition to complete removal of television....more supervision by adults and less supervision by one's peers.

t702
Las Vegas, NV

who is she trying to impress with that much makeup at 16?

dlw7
LOGAN, UT

Parents need to parent...not try to be their child's best friend. The old rules that I grew up with - "where are you going, who are you going with and when will you be home" still work. A young person needs limits and it is up to parents to provide them...even tho it gets you mean looks from time to time.

NeilT
Clearfield, UT

I drive for UTA. I see a lot of juveniles out late at night unsupervised. Usually with their peers. Other drivers tell me they have seen teenagers sneak to the back of bus and then change clothes, usually something immodest. Children needs rules and supervision. Someday they will thank you for being a parent instead of their best friend.

The Real Maverick
Orem, UT

Parents?

Hello?

Where are you?

Have any of her brothers or sisters had issues like this too?

I have dealt with many of these types of cases before in my profession and 99.9 % of the time this:

A. Isn't the first time this sort of thing has happened. Teens typically just don't go from being great students and obedient loving children to runaways overnight.
B. The Parents have been completely disengaged for years.

This is clearly a sign of a bigger issue. Where are the parents? For how long have you folks been having a degrading relationship with your daughter? My guess is she will come back from Vegas in a few days, after getting his fill of thrills. But what happens after ward? That is the question.

Mugabe
ACWORTH, GA

Just because a child decides to do something stupid doesn't mean that it's the parent's fault. If this was the case, then, our Heavenly Parent's were awful because they lost one third of their sons and daughters.

People who always blame the parent's either don't have children or they think that their children have never done any wrong.

secondly, it isn't always the "kind of people" with whom your children associate that is the cause of their bad behavior. Maybe it is your child that is the bad influence on their peers.

All parent's, that I have met, want to think that it is their child that is being influenced by someone else's child, but that isn't always the case.

The best we can do is to teach our children correct principles, and pray that those principles sink in, but if they don't, we shouldn't go around blaming some other kid.

JWB
Kaysville, UT

Sitting in a car service waiting room and seeing pictures of this young teenager on the screen in the various media forms, she appeared to be older than a 15-year old due to her makeup and poses. This is sad that she was in a visual image for the world to see and others that would entice her to leave the protection of a home in a good community.

Having had a child run away in high school, it is sad to have happen. Fortunately, someone good returned him to us. It appears to be different for a young woman but it is still heart wrenching to have one's child missing.

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