Leave it to men to misinterpret this article. It is about recognizing that the
weight gain and stretch marks from having children are not devaluing as a
person. It is about working to become healthy for the right reasons, and not
because society (men like you) says you have look a certain way or you cannot be
loved. It is about teaching little girls that their true value doesn't come
from how much they weigh or how small their measurements are. It is about women
valuing and accepting themselves while they are on their way to better health.
There is nothing in this article that suggests that a woman sit back and accept
"being out of shape." Rather, it is about not accepting the world's
judgements of women who are not "skinny," especially while they are in
their own process of self-inprovement. I will wager that neither Chris nor Robin
are married, nor have they any children. Hopefully, they will never treat their
future wives in this manner. I've been there...my husband married "the
showpiece," and later complained and ridiculed that his wife no longer
weighed 112 (my marriage weight at 26) after bearing children.
Yes, Susan C., you are probably correct, but that is not what men want to see
nor what is truly interesting when one comments.
Chris B. and Sir Robin, did you even read the article? if you did, then you
completely missed the point. Sarah is encouraging women to embrace the body they
have right now, as well as striving to be strong and healthy. Most women were
not built to be a size zero, and that's the way it should be. As women, we
should not have to wait until we have the "perfect" body to be happy and
love ourselves. We are all beautiful just the way we are and anything extra we
do just enhances that beauty. How dare you try to tell us that the opposite is
true? It's attitudes like yours that continue to feed this attack on women
that Sarah talked about.
I don't appreciate the preemptive strike against men expressed in the
comments. How does anyone know what another is thinking? A huge societal problem
is the assumption of the thoughts of others that governs our actions.I
learned long ago that my body image was of the latest screen star, but reality
was of a 6 foot tall George Costanza. I got over it and exercise to control my
weight and BP, not sculpt my abs.I worry more about the growing gut on my
33-year-old son than whether my 37-year-old daughter has put on a few pounds.My wife will never be on a fashion mag cover. Nor will I. Our emotional bank
account is filled with memories of who we are and what we've done.
Appearance is scarcely an afterthought.I hope I haven't shattered
your image of what men think.
Third try, the comments to which we are referring have since been deleted. If
you had seen them you would understand our frustration. My comment is not
directed at men in general, only the men who made those offensive comments
Third try - Chris B. and Sir Robin's comments were posted and then removed.
The comments were reaction to real posts, not preemptive to anything.Women do need to be kinder to themselves. A good man will be attracted to you
even with a few extra pounds on.
Some things are just understood, nothing needs to be said. She's got the
look, I sure I have mine.
You had me until "I will prove to you that you can be a size 12 and still be
sexy." Do you also say, “Even women can be good drivers”? Why on
earth would you imply that a size 12 is not ordinarily considered sexy? Or that
size has anything at all to do with sexiness? I'm glad you told your
daughter you were exercising for health and energy. Why not connect size to
wellness also? If your tall girls grow up to be tall women, chances are that at
size 12 they will have a healthy BMI. That number may have more to do with
health, happiness, and productivity than any other.Two nitpicky
suggestions: “your Dad” should be “your dad.” Also, it
makes me sad to see a perfectly good verb become a verb phrase, as in “hug
on my soft bits.” I'm not loving on that. But then any sentence which
includes “soft bits” is a little off-putting . . .