Comments about ‘In which I promise not to call myself fat’

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Published: Thursday, Aug. 1 2013 10:00 a.m. MDT

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Susan C.
Orangevale, CA

Leave it to men to misinterpret this article. It is about recognizing that the weight gain and stretch marks from having children are not devaluing as a person. It is about working to become healthy for the right reasons, and not because society (men like you) says you have look a certain way or you cannot be loved. It is about teaching little girls that their true value doesn't come from how much they weigh or how small their measurements are. It is about women valuing and accepting themselves while they are on their way to better health. There is nothing in this article that suggests that a woman sit back and accept "being out of shape." Rather, it is about not accepting the world's judgements of women who are not "skinny," especially while they are in their own process of self-inprovement. I will wager that neither Chris nor Robin are married, nor have they any children. Hopefully, they will never treat their future wives in this manner. I've been there...my husband married "the showpiece," and later complained and ridiculed that his wife no longer weighed 112 (my marriage weight at 26) after bearing children.

Larceny
Rural Hall, USA, NC

Yes, Susan C., you are probably correct, but that is not what men want to see nor what is truly interesting when one comments.

Emily K.
Salt Lake, UT

Chris B. and Sir Robin, did you even read the article? if you did, then you completely missed the point. Sarah is encouraging women to embrace the body they have right now, as well as striving to be strong and healthy. Most women were not built to be a size zero, and that's the way it should be. As women, we should not have to wait until we have the "perfect" body to be happy and love ourselves. We are all beautiful just the way we are and anything extra we do just enhances that beauty. How dare you try to tell us that the opposite is true? It's attitudes like yours that continue to feed this attack on women that Sarah talked about.

Third try screen name
Mapleton, UT

I don't appreciate the preemptive strike against men expressed in the comments. How does anyone know what another is thinking? A huge societal problem is the assumption of the thoughts of others that governs our actions.
I learned long ago that my body image was of the latest screen star, but reality was of a 6 foot tall George Costanza. I got over it and exercise to control my weight and BP, not sculpt my abs.
I worry more about the growing gut on my 33-year-old son than whether my 37-year-old daughter has put on a few pounds.
My wife will never be on a fashion mag cover. Nor will I. Our emotional bank account is filled with memories of who we are and what we've done. Appearance is scarcely an afterthought.
I hope I haven't shattered your image of what men think.

Emily K.
Salt Lake, UT

Third try, the comments to which we are referring have since been deleted. If you had seen them you would understand our frustration. My comment is not directed at men in general, only the men who made those offensive comments earlier.

jeanie
orem, UT

Third try - Chris B. and Sir Robin's comments were posted and then removed. The comments were reaction to real posts, not preemptive to anything.

Women do need to be kinder to themselves. A good man will be attracted to you even with a few extra pounds on.

george of the jungle
goshen, UT

Some things are just understood, nothing needs to be said. She's got the look, I sure I have mine.

Anonyme
Orem, UT

You had me until "I will prove to you that you can be a size 12 and still be sexy." Do you also say, “Even women can be good drivers”? Why on earth would you imply that a size 12 is not ordinarily considered sexy? Or that size has anything at all to do with sexiness? I'm glad you told your daughter you were exercising for health and energy. Why not connect size to wellness also? If your tall girls grow up to be tall women, chances are that at size 12 they will have a healthy BMI. That number may have more to do with health, happiness, and productivity than any other.

Two nitpicky suggestions: “your Dad” should be “your dad.” Also, it makes me sad to see a perfectly good verb become a verb phrase, as in “hug on my soft bits.” I'm not loving on that. But then any sentence which includes “soft bits” is a little off-putting . . .

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