Published: Tuesday, June 25 2013 12:00 a.m. MDT
1st, be responsible sexually.If he wants to be more than a
bed-partner or sperm donor, MARRY her. Otherwise, his only right is to adopt the
child to prevent her from aborting it.Any beast of the field can be
a sperm donor, it takes a man to be a father. Unfortunately there are fewer
I thought we were tired of big brother government?Now we want
another registry?What do Utahns want?
We know that traditional marriage is losing ground in our society. More and
more couples cohabit without getting married. More and more babies are
conceived without married parents. More and more judges, legislatures, and
voters are ready to redefine marriage. More and more children are growing up
without the beneficial influence of a father . . . or, occasionally, a mother.
Society is damaged in the process.Well, the answer lies in a
tough-love approach to parental rights. Government should officially deny any
and every parental right to a man who hasn't secured his rights by marriage
to his offspring's mother. Marriage, with its responsibilities and
obligations, should be the avenue through which a man secures his right to a
place in a child's life, or in the decisions made for the child's
welfare. An unmarried father should be considered irresponsible because he has
already proven himself to be irresponsible. This would strengthen
marriage, families, and children immeasurably.
Marriage is the preferred governmental organization. The void of marriage is
filled with all kinds of secondarily-preferred governmental organizations (both
private and public). An unwed mother is a good example. She and her child live
in that void. The child's father lives in that void.
An unmarried father has already shown his lack of commitment and fitness to be a
parent, especially if he doesn't marry the mother later, or doesn't at
least help in some way in raising the child. But, he may be better than than no
father at all. I agree with the proposed legislation. Some take longer than
others to grow past their problems.Some don't like the father
being shut out completely if he fails to register in a timely manner. Perhaps
their might be a rare case where some father has legitimate reason for not doing
so. If so, let the burden of proof be on him.
In the real world--not the idealistic one where everyone is either a saint or a
sinner--good people make mistakes. Life is messy. Merely condemning a guy for
having sex (there were likely at least two people involved) and saying "too
bad, you had your chance", a national registry provides some solutions to
some of messy situations we find ourselves in. I'm wondering
just what level of confidentiality exists for these registries? Imagine a guy
listing himself on the registry for every girl he's had (or wished
he'd had) sex with? What kind of proof does it take to be included on the
registry? Are there penalties for spurious listings? I can agree
that the vast majority of those men who father children out of wedlock WITHOUT
any long-term commitment to the mothers aren't likely going to sign the
registry. However, for those few who have been deceived by the mothers into
thinking there is no issue, or in some cases these poor saps being used
unwittingly as sperm donors, a national registry might be a good thing.
It is past time to talk about responsibly parenting, but "responsible
fathers" is a novel and long ignored concept. We usually focus on bad
This is a nice idea, I hope it works.
@lost in DCWest Jordan, UT"his only right is to adopt the
child to prevent her from aborting it."Prevent her from aborting? Care
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