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Published: Tuesday, June 25 2013 12:00 a.m. MDT

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lost in DC
West Jordan, UT

1st, be responsible sexually.

If he wants to be more than a bed-partner or sperm donor, MARRY her. Otherwise, his only right is to adopt the child to prevent her from aborting it.

Any beast of the field can be a sperm donor, it takes a man to be a father. Unfortunately there are fewer men nowadays.

The Real Maverick
Orem, UT

I thought we were tired of big brother government?

Now we want another registry?

What do Utahns want?

Bountiful, UT

We know that traditional marriage is losing ground in our society. More and more couples cohabit without getting married. More and more babies are conceived without married parents. More and more judges, legislatures, and voters are ready to redefine marriage. More and more children are growing up without the beneficial influence of a father . . . or, occasionally, a mother. Society is damaged in the process.

Well, the answer lies in a tough-love approach to parental rights. Government should officially deny any and every parental right to a man who hasn't secured his rights by marriage to his offspring's mother. Marriage, with its responsibilities and obligations, should be the avenue through which a man secures his right to a place in a child's life, or in the decisions made for the child's welfare. An unmarried father should be considered irresponsible because he has already proven himself to be irresponsible.

This would strengthen marriage, families, and children immeasurably.

Cedar Hills, UT

Marriage is the preferred governmental organization. The void of marriage is filled with all kinds of secondarily-preferred governmental organizations (both private and public). An unwed mother is a good example. She and her child live in that void. The child's father lives in that void.

John C. C.
Payson, UT

An unmarried father has already shown his lack of commitment and fitness to be a parent, especially if he doesn't marry the mother later, or doesn't at least help in some way in raising the child. But, he may be better than than no father at all. I agree with the proposed legislation. Some take longer than others to grow past their problems.

Some don't like the father being shut out completely if he fails to register in a timely manner. Perhaps their might be a rare case where some father has legitimate reason for not doing so. If so, let the burden of proof be on him.

From Ted's Head
Orem, UT

In the real world--not the idealistic one where everyone is either a saint or a sinner--good people make mistakes. Life is messy. Merely condemning a guy for having sex (there were likely at least two people involved) and saying "too bad, you had your chance", a national registry provides some solutions to some of messy situations we find ourselves in.

I'm wondering just what level of confidentiality exists for these registries? Imagine a guy listing himself on the registry for every girl he's had (or wished he'd had) sex with? What kind of proof does it take to be included on the registry? Are there penalties for spurious listings?

I can agree that the vast majority of those men who father children out of wedlock WITHOUT any long-term commitment to the mothers aren't likely going to sign the registry. However, for those few who have been deceived by the mothers into thinking there is no issue, or in some cases these poor saps being used unwittingly as sperm donors, a national registry might be a good thing.

Salt Lake City, UT

It is past time to talk about responsibly parenting, but "responsible fathers" is a novel and long ignored concept. We usually focus on bad mothers.

the old switcharoo
mesa, AZ

This is a nice idea, I hope it works.

Canada, 00

@lost in DC
West Jordan, UT

"his only right is to adopt the child to prevent her from aborting it."
Prevent her from aborting? Care to explain?

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