Long Lost, your criticism is lost on me! Didn't you get the point that the
asthma attack was grossly overplayed by the son; that the Mom knew he
wasn't in imminent danger? In reality, he was delaying making a fearsome
choice and difficult activity.And while I don't personally use
the single colloquial word the mom used, I can appreciate that often we need to
simplify terms to levels children will understand. I'd say overall, she
used a rational understandable approach in her conversation with her child.You might consider that this was in many ways a more hard thing to do
for the mother than it was for the child. But both will be better off in the
long run if the child learns to overcome fears and face difficult challenges.
This is actually a really good metaphor to explain why The Lord allows us to go
through trials and opposition in this life, instead of shielding us from all
pain, as a parent instinctively would want to do. Without opposition and trials,
it is impossible for us to grow and progress. It also shows us how by becoming
and serving as earthly parents, we are preparing ourselves for becoming
spiritual parents ourselves at some point in the future after our exaltation.
Everything in this life is part of being in a preparatory state, in one way or
Please stop teaching trashy language to children. Don't push children to do
things when they are really sick, it could damage their health.
A high school graduate child of ours procrastinated getting a summer job and
ended up not having their share of money for college tuition previously agreed
upon (well before summer started). This child missed the first semester of
their college experience, lost their dorm contract, missed rooming with a good
friend, stayed home and worked that first semester, very unhappily, while their
peers began college. Like this wise mom, we could not give our
child the easy way out. This child has since thanked us for being a wall they
could not get around and now takes responsibility for the successful management
of their own lives. I loved this article. What a beautiful
comparison to how our Heavenly Father works with us and what a strong mom to be
willing to break her own heart so her child could learn. Excellent.
Beautiful! My wife and I often say, "if it's not hard
(parenting), we're not doing it right."
Very wise Mother and woman. We want to be popular with our children,
grandchildren, etc. but it doesn't help those children grow into strong,
kind and forgiving adults. Tough things make us strong, force us to reflect on
what is the most important. She is a good example.
Now that is a good mom. She is not worried about her child 'liking'
her or being her 'friend'. She is concerned about the skills her child
will need as he grows to manhood. She knows that overcoming 'hard
things' helps us all to grow, to become confident, to build real
self-esteem. Drops of Awesome, Mom.