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Published: Saturday, April 6 2013 10:45 a.m. MDT

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JayTee
Sandy, UT

When you wonder what people are thinking about you, know this: They usually AREN'T thinking about you; they're more often wondering what YOU'RE thinking about THEM. I always tell people that if there's anything they don't like about me, then just go ahead and find something else to think about. It's a big world with lots of things to ponder and be involved in, so don't waste the time evaluating everyone you happen to see.

Jackuepru
Lehi, UT

@ the caravan moves on.

The comment directed at her about the irony of her holding a LDS book was not a simple observation like observing the color of the sky. That is very silly.
There is nothing ironic about it. That was a very closed minded comment. It makes me wonder about the persons testimony.
As a convert with tattoos, I totally get her feeling like an outsider to a very exclusive club.
I really give her a lot of credit for how she reacted. She is an example to us all about not allowing others to control us. It is very scary having to adjust to a whole new lifestyle. We need love and support. I don't think there's anything wrong with a person thinking that the sight is ironic, but I don't understand actually saying that to a person at all.

It reminded me of President Uchtdorf's comment about not judging someone bc they sin differently than you.

LetsDebate
PLEASANT GROVE, UT

@JoeBlow - I believe sin is generally known to be rebellion against God and his servants, so being rebellious is not a good thing. That being said, I don't think nonmembers, and especially those who don't even know about God's servants, commit sin by doing many things contrary to our unique beliefs, such as disobedience to our Word of Wisdom code or getting tattoos. When members do so, who have covenanted to follow the counsel of our prophets, then it certainly reflects a rebelliousness that probably calls for repentance. I doubt Al Fox had to "repent" of getting tattoos in order to get baptized, and none of us should hold it against her even in the slightest degree.

What a beautiful woman, inside and out, with a beautiful story and the courage to share it.

AZDZRTFOX
Hucahuca City, AZ

My beautiful convert wife is a 'tattooed Mormon'. After nearly 13 years after being baptized she still gets those odd looks, and still has some reservations about what she wears; some people still get the wrong idea and pass unspoken judgement on her for her tats. I'm sure Al Fox and my wife have much in common.

PACoug
Warwick, RI

Most comments reveal far more about the commenter than anything else.

I'm a Mormon in an aggressively secular state (RI). So I face judgmental people all day long and the funny thing is many of them seem to have gotten it into their heads that I'M judging THEM. There's no need to feel judged or defensive around me. Got tattoos? I don't have any idea where or when you got them. Safe to say when you got that tattoo, you wanted to send out the messages the tat sends effortlessly without you having to do anything.

A tattoo separates people neatly. You can tell who is really uncomfortable with it from how they act, and it serves the additional purpose of pushing those people away. If you are a Mormon, there's no better way to say "get off my back" to your fellow LDS than a big, visible tat.

Here in RI, you can accomplish a similar feat by wearing a white shirt and tie on Sunday. It brings the haters right out of the woodwork.

bw00ds
Tucson, AZ

What an inspirational attitude and outlook on life. Power to you, Al Fox!

nturtypicalsaint
Lehi, UT

I, also have added some beautiful art to my beautiful body. It is a reminder of who I was and who I always will be, a daughter of God. For some, it's ink. For others, it's piercings or implants. We put cream on our faces to reverse the agony process. We color our gray. We all have insecurities and imperfections but the one thing that remains the same...our Heavenly Father loves us. I, for one, think my tattoos look beautiful in temple white and I know I set an example to the youth in my ward, that we can be different and still belong. I will raise my children to have compassion and tolerance for those who look different because I am NOT your typical mormon.

Spikey
Layton, UT

Beautiful on the inside AND the outside!

I would have noticed you too, but would have beamed with pride watching you clutch that book! I, too, am a convert (though I have no tattoos), and I can say I would NEVER go back to my pre-church days. My life is so rich, and so blessed now. I am happy! :)

gypsie
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I have a tattoo, I got when I was 19. I met the Church at 27. I am now a Temple worthy woman of faith. My past doesn't make who I am today. So long as I don't 'go there' again.

amigaryj
TOOELE, UT

It is sad when people judge, but I think that many times we jump to the conclusion that people are judging us, when maybe they are just curious. Perhaps the man in the line just wanted to know more about this unusual girl in the line, and that was the way he decided to start the conversation. I have experienced the opposite side of judging. I am a Utah girl through and through. For 6 months during military training my husband, myself, and my daughter moved to Oklahoma. My first Sunday in this new place I met a woman in Relief Society who, once I told her where I was from, went on and on about how awful Utah is and that she would never live there. That really hurt my feelings because I love Utah and have many wonderful experiences here. So, I guess what I'm saying is that while Utah has problems, it is also full of wonderful people who just are just curious and want to get to know you!

Sunnymae
Salt Lake City, UT

I think everyone can relate to the social stigma here in Utah but this is such a refreshing point of view! I found her inspiring because she was proactive! Instead of wallowing in her feelings, she became an example and is now a blogger and inspirational speaker! It's good to hear a POSTIIVE role of social media for once!

tigger
AMERICAN FORK, UT

Crud, I need to learn from this story. However, I am more likely to judge a woman who looks like a soccer mom as being superficial. It's a lesson for all of us.

I hope the commenter meant the statement as an "ice-breaker" not a judgement.

Joneb
Bountiful, UT

A beautiful daughter of our Heavenly Father who is not afraid to let her light shine. Would that we all could be for faithful and forgiving.

Iancook
Nevada, MO

Of course, not all who live in Utah are judgemental, but that was my experience. I'm an active member of the church and an RM with 3 kids. We lived in Utah for all of four months and attended our ward every week we were there. We had planned on living in Utah for at least a year, but we we never felt welcome at our ward. No one welcomed us or spoke to us, and I'd say we tried pretty hard. We weren't treated different because we were non-lds, I wish I could tell you why we never felt welcome. On top of that, I worked for a company who was owned by a Scientologist, and most of my direct co-workers were decidedly non-LDS. I was never welcomed there either. We left after 4 months because of this. It was a bad experience. I can definitely relate to anyone who didn't do well in Utah.

sid 6.7
Holladay, UT

Patriot;

I don't agree with you often but I couldn't have said it better myself. Judge Ye Not.

I am a non practicing Mormon and I have several tattoos all of which are concealed. My work doesn't allow any visible tattoos or piercings but if given the opportunity I would have sleeves just like the girl in this article. My tattoos all have individual meaning to me, my wife and my son. I'm not sorry for having them nor do I feel I have sinned for getting them. In my opinion, the tattoos and the piercings are just a part of the bigger picture. What about Breast Implants, Face Lifts, Tattooed Mascara, Fake Nails? Are all of the obedient Mormons who partake in those activities sinners as well? I think not.

I wish this young sister all the best in her journey with the LDS religion. May it give her peace and tranquility for the rest of her days. I also ask those who judge others to pray for the courage and strength to accept all of their Brothers and Sisters as they are.

Fiche
Bountiful / Davis, UT

Wow. I really appreciate the bit explaining how to teach those who don't want to listen. It's nice to see that there's someone who'd have as much an excuse as anyone to be offended and turn away, but decide instead to be an example to those have strayed.

Thank you

bbuie
Louisville, CO

The thing I love most about this story is the one thing that many members never find out, that coming to church is just as much about the lessons you can teach as the lessons you are taught.

Thank you for sharing your story and reminding us of a very important lesson, that we are all children of God.

Mike in Cedar City
Cedar City, Utah

How unfortunate for someone to move to Utah with skin markings just when the LDS church comes out publicly advising (same as commanding) against them. The culture in Utah likes to see itself as tolerant and fair, but the sad truth is that it is neither. Take it from someone who has lived all over the country, in at least 10 different states in all sections. This is easily the most intolerant and mean spirited state that I have ever lived in, and I was raised here.

Blackws
Logan, UT

I note a few try to defend themselves saying we don't treat people like that - but I know that people do get stares from us, even if they are just out of curiosity. The thing to do is look at our own hearts. Are we hypocrites? Are we thinking something about someone else when what we are thinking we have internally (whole mote and beam stuff). Another thing I remind people when this happens is - look at your hand as you point at someone. You are pointing a finger at them, but there are 3 pointing back at you...

als Atheist
Provo, UT

If my wife and I could work it out to move out of Utah, we would do it in a heartbeat. The righteousness competition and judgmentalism is stifling.

It is a shame when people are effectively driven from their homes by self-righteous intolerance. But it is happening a lot.

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