Published: Thursday, Dec. 27 2012 12:00 a.m. MST
It's very easy to pontificate endlessly about whether parents are good or
bad. But the problems facing parents, schools, and the rest of our society are
much more complex than just "parenting."How many American
parents have had the economic skids yanked out from under them? How many
parents have been faced with the need for both parents to work if they are to
have any chance of reaching the American dream?Could some of this
have been caused by the rising economic canyon between the middle and upper
economic classes of our society?How much is due to increased drug
use?How much comes from a society in which the acquisition of
expensive toys required both parents to be employed?There are
thousands upon thousands of complex reasons for our mess. It's too easy to
try to cast blame on only one small segment of our society. But it's much
more difficult to look inward and ask, "What have I done myself to make
things either better -- or worse?"
This letter is absolutely correct about the fact that one of the causes of the
increasing level of violence in our society is the failure of parents to teach
their children to respect others. Indeed, today's younger parents have
completely abrogated their responsibility in this area.Today's
parents have largely turned the responsibility of parenting over to the
television and the video game box. Instead of teaching solid values such as
having respect for others, these insidious forms of entertainment teach that
violence and hate are desirable things to have in one's life.In
order to solve this problem, parents must return to the job of actually
parenting. It is time to put selfishness aside.
What kind of parents were Adam and Eve, Lehi and Saraih? What vidoes and video
games did Ghenghis Kahn, Napolean Bonaparte, Hilter and Stalin play and see?
Thing is there are bad parents and media that desencalizes, However there was
evil before any of these things took place and good parents do have bad chidren.
They are not totaly to blame. One true blame is person that chooses to engage
You know I don't disagree with the premise of the letter that parents need
to teach children respect for others..it's a basic tenet of
society..however, the details are important and just wrong here. JCS..the
increasing level of violence in our society..sorry, but violence in society is
down way down..including school shootings. Todays younger parents have
"completely" abrogated their responsibility..seriously. Yet, guns are
neutral tools doing no harm by themselves but tv and video games are insidious?
My, my, my.
"Parents need to teach their children respect for others"... @JCC; Did you teach your children respect for others when you voted to
prevent those "others" from being able to marry the person of their own
choice?Parents, did you teach your children respect for others when
you regularly called candidate Obama the anti-Christ or candidate Romney the
evil capitalist (I'm guilty of this too)? How about the
"respect" shown Sandra Fluke over her views on women's rights? Do
women not deserve the "respect" of making their own decisions?Did our legislature show respect for the citizens of this state when they
chose to gerrymander the districts instead of listening to the voices of the
people, largely expressed on the State's own website for it?One's actions are far more powerful than words when teaching respect for
others. Children can see that you either follow or don't follow your own
words.Respect of others entails all of the above examples. You
teach respect by example.
@JCSActually violence (or at least rates of violence, technically the
number of crimes can go up along with population while the per person rates
decrease if population grows faster than crime) is down over the past 30 years.
Has anyone analyzed the environment in which mass shooters were raised? Are
there any patterns? I think most would agree that all suffered from some form of
mental illness, psychosis, or dysfunction. What is the source? Is it nurture or
nature? Could any of the shootings been avoided by a change in parenting?A good point was made that good parenting cannot prevent all evil.
However, it seems probable that poor parenting might result in more evil than
might otherwise occur.
People often think the past was better than the present. They also assume the
future will be bleak. It's a common error in logic and a well
known bias. The fact is that despite the US's falling behing the rest of
the developed world we are still getting better as far as homicide rates are
concerned. Whenever the writer grew up was probably full of all kinds of
violence. WW2,Korean War, Vietnam ? Riots, accidental shootings, hunting
"accidents" to be sure. People being buried in concrete ect. When was
this perfect time? Sure, a small town in Utah maybe she had little to hear
about. Kids don't read newspapers....Rosy retrospection refers
to the finding that subjects later rate past events more positively than they
had actually rated them when the event occurred, reminiscent of the Latin phrase
memoria praeteritorum bonorum ("The past is always recalled to be
good").The effect appears to be stronger with moderately
pleasant events and is usually explained as a result of minor annoyances and
dislikes "fading" from memory dramatically faster than positive
To ranchhand anyone can marry any person of the opposite sex that is of age of
consent and consents? Fluke wanted someone else to pay for her reproductive
descisions and many people people bc is a sin and most anything out of marriage
is. There is some extremism there. We elect legislators to vote on legislation
@higv;Another example of "respect": NOT.
The letter makes an excellent point. In my opinion, as the public schools have
gradually taken over the role of parents (feeding them, teaching values, even
clothing them), practically raising them; parents have become conditioned to
leave a lot of responsibilities up to the schools. I don't
think that parents should get offended by this letter. It's a wake up call
for parents to become more involved and disallow the public schools and
daycares, etc., to take over their sacred rights and responsibilities as
parents.We've always had violence and wars throughout our
history. Anything can become a weapon, even water which has killed more people
than anything else. But water won't be banned, will it? What really
matters is taking the time to raise children with love. And even when we do
that, there's no guarantee. Sometimes the best parents have troubled kids.
Maybe the kids are bullied at school despite having a good home life. Lots of
things to consider.
How are children supposed to show respect for anyone when their adult parents
either are too busy serving mammon, listening to loud mouths on AM radio, or
bashing even the President of this great country?
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