Comments about ‘Letter: Parents should be teaching kids to have Respect for others’

Return to article »

Published: Thursday, Dec. 27 2012 12:00 a.m. MST

Comments
  • Oldest first
  • Newest first
  • Most recommended
one old man
Ogden, UT

It's very easy to pontificate endlessly about whether parents are good or bad. But the problems facing parents, schools, and the rest of our society are much more complex than just "parenting."

How many American parents have had the economic skids yanked out from under them? How many parents have been faced with the need for both parents to work if they are to have any chance of reaching the American dream?

Could some of this have been caused by the rising economic canyon between the middle and upper economic classes of our society?

How much is due to increased drug use?

How much comes from a society in which the acquisition of expensive toys required both parents to be employed?

There are thousands upon thousands of complex reasons for our mess. It's too easy to try to cast blame on only one small segment of our society. But it's much more difficult to look inward and ask, "What have I done myself to make things either better -- or worse?"

John Charity Spring
Back Home in Davis County, UT

This letter is absolutely correct about the fact that one of the causes of the increasing level of violence in our society is the failure of parents to teach their children to respect others. Indeed, today's younger parents have completely abrogated their responsibility in this area.

Today's parents have largely turned the responsibility of parenting over to the television and the video game box. Instead of teaching solid values such as having respect for others, these insidious forms of entertainment teach that violence and hate are desirable things to have in one's life.

In order to solve this problem, parents must return to the job of actually parenting. It is time to put selfishness aside.

higv
Dietrich, ID

What kind of parents were Adam and Eve, Lehi and Saraih? What vidoes and video games did Ghenghis Kahn, Napolean Bonaparte, Hilter and Stalin play and see? Thing is there are bad parents and media that desencalizes, However there was evil before any of these things took place and good parents do have bad chidren. They are not totaly to blame. One true blame is person that chooses to engage in evil.

pragmatistferlife
salt lake city, utah

You know I don't disagree with the premise of the letter that parents need to teach children respect for others..it's a basic tenet of society..however, the details are important and just wrong here. JCS..the increasing level of violence in our society..sorry, but violence in society is down way down..including school shootings. Todays younger parents have "completely" abrogated their responsibility..seriously. Yet, guns are neutral tools doing no harm by themselves but tv and video games are insidious? My, my, my.

RanchHand
Huntsville, UT

"Parents need to teach their children respect for others"...

@JCC; Did you teach your children respect for others when you voted to prevent those "others" from being able to marry the person of their own choice?

Parents, did you teach your children respect for others when you regularly called candidate Obama the anti-Christ or candidate Romney the evil capitalist (I'm guilty of this too)?

How about the "respect" shown Sandra Fluke over her views on women's rights? Do women not deserve the "respect" of making their own decisions?

Did our legislature show respect for the citizens of this state when they chose to gerrymander the districts instead of listening to the voices of the people, largely expressed on the State's own website for it?

One's actions are far more powerful than words when teaching respect for others. Children can see that you either follow or don't follow your own words.

Respect of others entails all of the above examples. You teach respect by example.

atl134
Salt Lake City, UT

@JCS
Actually violence (or at least rates of violence, technically the number of crimes can go up along with population while the per person rates decrease if population grows faster than crime) is down over the past 30 years.

Pops
NORTH SALT LAKE, UT

Has anyone analyzed the environment in which mass shooters were raised? Are there any patterns? I think most would agree that all suffered from some form of mental illness, psychosis, or dysfunction. What is the source? Is it nurture or nature? Could any of the shootings been avoided by a change in parenting?

A good point was made that good parenting cannot prevent all evil. However, it seems probable that poor parenting might result in more evil than might otherwise occur.

Screwdriver
Casa Grande, AZ

People often think the past was better than the present. They also assume the future will be bleak.

It's a common error in logic and a well known bias. The fact is that despite the US's falling behing the rest of the developed world we are still getting better as far as homicide rates are concerned. Whenever the writer grew up was probably full of all kinds of violence. WW2,Korean War, Vietnam ? Riots, accidental shootings, hunting "accidents" to be sure. People being buried in concrete ect. When was this perfect time? Sure, a small town in Utah maybe she had little to hear about. Kids don't read newspapers....

Rosy retrospection refers to the finding that subjects later rate past events more positively than they had actually rated them when the event occurred, reminiscent of the Latin phrase memoria praeteritorum bonorum ("The past is always recalled to be good").

The effect appears to be stronger with moderately pleasant events and is usually explained as a result of minor annoyances and dislikes "fading" from memory dramatically faster than positive situations.

higv
Dietrich, ID

To ranchhand anyone can marry any person of the opposite sex that is of age of consent and consents? Fluke wanted someone else to pay for her reproductive descisions and many people people bc is a sin and most anything out of marriage is. There is some extremism there. We elect legislators to vote on legislation

RanchHand
Huntsville, UT

@higv;

Another example of "respect": NOT.

The Balloonatic
Taylorsville, UT

The letter makes an excellent point. In my opinion, as the public schools have gradually taken over the role of parents (feeding them, teaching values, even clothing them), practically raising them; parents have become conditioned to leave a lot of responsibilities up to the schools.

I don't think that parents should get offended by this letter. It's a wake up call for parents to become more involved and disallow the public schools and daycares, etc., to take over their sacred rights and responsibilities as parents.

We've always had violence and wars throughout our history. Anything can become a weapon, even water which has killed more people than anything else. But water won't be banned, will it? What really matters is taking the time to raise children with love. And even when we do that, there's no guarantee. Sometimes the best parents have troubled kids. Maybe the kids are bullied at school despite having a good home life. Lots of things to consider.

The Real Maverick
Orem, UT

How are children supposed to show respect for anyone when their adult parents either are too busy serving mammon, listening to loud mouths on AM radio, or bashing even the President of this great country?

to comment

DeseretNews.com encourages a civil dialogue among its readers. We welcome your thoughtful comments.
About comments