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Published: Wednesday, Dec. 19 2012 3:00 p.m. MST

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Ricardo Carvalho
Provo, UT

As a member of the same faith, I am pleased to see the progress being made in accepting our gay and lesbian brothers and sisters. We know at least two families like the Weeds and have been impressed with their faith in the face of a church and its membership that have to date not always been understanding of the challenge and, in may cases, even hostile. To be able to look beyond that response and stay with that which you believe to be true is an extremely difficulty challenge I imagine. May God bless you and others in similar circumstances. Equally important, may God bless the rest of us to act with Christ-like love to those who have not always felt welcome under the umbrella of the LDS church.

John Brown 1000
Laketown, UT

Thanks for this article!

American Fork, UT

I bet you can find some gay folks that are singularly unimpressed...

Chris B
Salt Lake City, UT

Why I like it.. It reminds us to be nice to all but reminds us that at the end of the day wrong is wrong. And homosexual relations are wrong. And I am not even a Mormon!

Lincoln City, OR

I'm sorry, but I don't get it... The math doesn't work for me...

I don't beieve that being gay is genetic and until someone can prove that it is to me, all of this just adds up to being a "show" or an exercise in "Political Correctness"... All God's children deserve love and respect but that doesn't mean it's "okay"... How are their kids being raised? What are they being taught? The Bible seems pretty clear to me on this issue... I don't even want to get into the detail of how this managed everyday...

It's wrong and the Church needs to hold to that position unless they want to discount scritural teachings or put a spin on it that probably would make little sense to me... Again, someone show me irrefutable evidence that it is genetic and then I'll be quiet but until then, it's not alright in my book... I will teach my children and grandchildren tollerance, but I will not teach them that it is an acceptable practice.

Selah, WA

To Joshua and your wife, thank you for your bravery and for being in tune with the Spirit. My experience with homosexuality has been limited and the one close friend I have that is gay won't talk to me about it and has left the church. It does my heart good to know there are people like you, living heterosexual lifestyles and not giving up the fight to live the gospel. Thank you for your example!

Far East USA, SC

These mormonsandgays articles all seem to be about homosexuals who decided to marry and have children and lived happily ever after.

I don't know the numbers, but I would bet that they are focusing on the minority.

Here, UT

To each his own. The LDS church needs to let other people live their lives without interference. That includes marrying the person you love, whether the opposite sex or the same.

provo, UT

While I respect Mr. Weed, and even support him in doing what he chooses to do, I would like to point out that when I had been married ten years, I was 100% committed to living a heterosexual lifestyle, living as an active Latter-Day-Saint for the rest of my life, and never giving in to my homosexual feelings. However, there came a point in life, where I simply could not pretend anymore, and after 20 years of marriage I finallly accepted my sexuality. I am now living what I feel is a genuine lifestyle, and for the first time in my life I am truly content and happy with who I am. For the first time ever, I can honestly say that I know God loves me. I sincerely hope that Joshua will be able to maintain his chosen lifestyle as he says he intends to. Good luck to him, and also to his lovely wife.

SLC gal
Salt Lake City, UT

I'm glad to see the church get a little louder with the message that LDS people DO NOT hate gay/homosexuals! Props to the Weeds. I think you are an incredibly brave family, as are the people who are sharing their stories on the new website. I admire your strength!

Born that Way
Layton, UT

The church website serves many people:

1. It fosters understanding between the membership and those who experience same-gender attraction.

2. It encourages members of the church to empathy even when those who experience same gender attraction choose not to follow church covenants.

3. It provides an alternative voice to the world's position that the only happy gay is one that is openly gay living the openly gay lifestyle in all its most cliche'd and stereotypical ways. In a way the church's alternative offers gays more freedom.

4. It enables them to know they are not alone if they choose to do something other than what the world tells them to do.

5. It heals families that have been divided on this issue or don't know how to show love without the fear they will somehow corrupt their other family members. It pleads for patience and connection.

6. It has real testimonials of those who have endured and still have testimonies.

7. It does a lot more than just represent one perspective. It's a needed resource to those walking a path of faith and feel forces that could pull them off that path.

Utes Fan
Salt Lake City, UT

Keep talking and posting, Joshua. The world needs your message. Though there are people who will deliberately choose to hate you, the Church, church members, etc. you are helping the good roll forward, and you have plenty of supporters.

I know it must require tremendous courage to come forward with your message. It sometimes takes courage to just post an opinion anonymously on a message board like this. I can't imagine the courage it took to post your blog. I admire that.

Tooele, UT

Re: "The LDS church needs to let other people live their lives without interference."

So does the LGBT community.

Chris B
Salt Lake City, UT

Why I like the website:

1. It reminds us all to be kind to others.

2. It stands firm on right being right and wrong being wrong. And marriage and sexual relationships are only right between one man and one woman.

And I'm not even a Mormon

Saint George, UT

A good article and a Christlike approach to a controversial issue. Wish I could have been at the meeting. However, I still believe there is a lot of misinformation and dishonesty by the gay lobby. First is the coopted term "gay", which is non-descriptor coined to make homosexuality more palatable to the public. What doesit really mean? A same-sex attraction? The homosexual community is diverse group of people, some of whom their whole identity is tied up in their sexuality and flaunt it, others who have attraction to those of their same gender, but perhaps attraction to the opposite as well. Many homosexuals are so adamant that their attraction is purely genetic so as to eliminate any role of volition in our sexuality...a position that is scientifically untenable, yet it is rarely challenged. I will be interested to see the responses to my comments from the more rabid part of the spectrum. But if we are to have an honest discussion about homosexuality let's be honest, and discuss the several ways homosexuality has a negative influence on traditional marriage and society.

bountiful, ut

Go Josh! I hope he and his family, and all the LGBT community, know how much love there is for them within the church - the same as we have for all people. Everyone is a Child of God. We all have our struggles and challenges we must face in this life. I admire those who choose not to lose their faith and values in the face of challenges, whatever they may be.

And I love the Church's official statement, "The experience of same-sex attraction is a complex reality for many people. The attraction itself is not a sin, but acting on it is. Even though individuals do not choose to have such attractions, they do choose how to respond to them. With love and understanding, the Church reaches out to all God’s children, including our gay and lesbian brothers and sisters."

Redding, CA

I am LDS, and I am happily married to a man who is gay. This website is a god sent, and I think it reaches out to a population that has suffered so much and struggles. I know that he felt loved and accepted by this website.

It is possible for someone who has same gender attraction, or someone who is bi sexual to be in a heterosexual relationship, and be happy, but it requires work, prayer, love and understanding.

Kudos to you Joshua for sharing your story, and know that you are not alone! I think as a church we need to talk about this!

New York City, NY

Wow! Why would any woman know that a man is gay, and then proceed with the marriage? If she found out later in the marriage, why would she not work with him to change that lifestyle, and identify as a HETEROSEXUAL married man?! If he can't change his homosexual lifestyle or thought process, because 'he was born like that' should his significant other not be a man?
Seems like the LDS church has made marriage almost become an idol for some, that they would do anything, and marry just anyone, just be called married! In my opinion, so that they can have children, mostly for LDS bragging rights! Just to put things in perspective, I am an LDS woman, who is married to a wonderful, loving man. I know marriage is ordained of God.

I have several gay friends, and I know that they should be treated with love and respect. However, my understanding is that being a gay man means you are sexually attracted to men. How do these 'wives' handle that? Why would they say they are 'happily married'?

Well, kudos to the church for creating a platform where ALL members of the church can feel welcomed.

Kaysville, UT

@Utes Fan,

You amusingly forgot to mention that the homosexual community will also hate Joshua for his message.

Leesburg, VA

I support the Weed family and I wish them the best.

However, I agree with "Wendell's comment", I worry and claim confusion about the church position and question the wisdom of a homosexual person entering into a heterosexual relationship.

As a boy,I always knew I was different, I prayed to God every night to change me or to take me with him.I served my mission and I dedicated every second of those two years hoping for God to cure me. I dated girls. I wanted to get married because that I thought "God" expected of me.

I promised to myself I wouldn't marry until I knew I was cured.I couldn't bear the thougt of deceiving my wife and future children.

I talked to church leaders,went through reparative therapy to no avail.

Many years ago I kneeled and I told God that I was giving up my search for a cure. God answered my prayer with love and the understanding that he didn't expect for me to change, I was his son and he loved me just the way I was.

My partner of 30 years, our daughter and God, form my happy family.

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