Comments about ‘Woman who had lived lesbian lifestyle brings hope to Mormons with same-sex attraction through LDS Church's new website’

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Published: Saturday, Dec. 8 2012 8:00 p.m. MST

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Rawlins, WY

I like that the website, one of the persons on it, made the comment, We all have thorns. We don't need to examine each other's thorn to find out what variety it is, but to help others and have compassion.

Semper Fidelis
Apo, AP

I love Laurie's courage and honesty. I hope that as a Church we embrace this message. I have. There are many in our faith who feel conflicted in reconciling their attractions and feelings with their faith. We absolutely need to reach out to them and welcome them, listen to them and help them. Great message.
It's great to have the voices of those who have been there leading the charge.
Wonderful.

fowersjl
Farmington, Utah

May God bless you, Sister Campbell.

Cinci Man
FT MITCHELL, KY

What an incredible and moving story. And the website is truly done with sensitivity and love. Thank you to our Church leaders who brought this wonderful message to those who are in search for hope and peace through much turmoil and suffering. Thank you so much Sister Campbell for sharing your story.

Little Andy
Tremonton, UT

You have a lot of courage young lady. You will help make a lot of difference in peoples lives for good. Every one is different and for us that have never felt a different attraction is hard for us to accept it. Thanks to your entire family for being strong and helping make that difference. I think most people will take you for that loving daughter of our Father in Heaven and accept you. Thank you again and may the Lord bless..

NeilT
Clearfield, UT

Where is the support system or outreach for single adults. Those of us who are divorced or never married. Everything in the church revolves around marriage and family. Many of us feel just as alienated as those struggling with same sex attraction.

Cats
Somewhere in Time, UT

This woman is very couragious and I applaud her. I've never had this problem, but we all have problems we struggle with. We need to support those who are trying to do what's right while facing difficult challenges.

Lander
Bonduel, WI

What a wonderful, eye-opening article. I really admire the message and spirit of Ms. Campbell her heroic willingness to share it with us. She is right. We have always considered it an either/or situation and she has opened the door to new possibilities. I think this is one of the most inspirational articles I have ever read. Thanks to all involved.

Millsap fan
Taylorsville, UT

Joseph Smith said that all of us will eventually have to go through a trial as difficult as Abraham being asked to sacrifice Isaac. Maybe being a Latter-Day Saint trying to change their very nature to follow what they feel God wants for them is their ultimate sacrifice. Surely they will be blessed beyond their wildest imagination like Abraham is.

RockOn
Spanish Fork, UT

Well written article, Joseph. And Laurie, you are a class act. God bless you and may you continue to find joy in life.

Free Agency
Salt Lake City, UT

As a gay male, I respect this woman's testimony, and I appreciate her emphasis that it's meant for Mormons with *unwanted* same-sex attractions. I also appreciate her saying that her experience might not be the same for everyone.

But as for the Church's reaching out to gays with its new website, how about the website also featuring at least one true story where a gay Mormon found happiness, love and fulfillment as an active (not chaste) gay.

This would give the website a balance I found lacking in it. And until there is that balance, I don't feel the love and compassion the website intends for me to feel. Rather, I honestly feel like I'm watching a commercial.

MoJules
Florissant, MO

Millsap, Right now I am reading the Work and the Glory and am at the period of time when Polygamy was starting to come to the surface. This was very difficult for the church leaders to embrace as well as the members. I remember when the Blacks didn't have the priesthood and how difficult that was, yet when they did receive it, there were some who had a hard time with that. I honestly believe that same sex attraction is todays "Abraham challenge". Do we have the courage to love and serve the Lord? But there is another challenge, and that is with members who do not understand this, we need to love those with this challenge. I have a dear friend who never strayed from the gospel standards, but because members shunned him, his children left the church, he followed and is now in a same sex marriage. He was so steadfast for so many years, but the people in his ward lacked the strength he had. A loving marriage should not be based only on the physical, having been married before to a wheelchair bound man, service and courage was our foundation.

nightbeacon
Taylorsville , UT

Ms. Campbell's not identifying herself as straight or gay, and her teenage daughter being unfazed by her "revelation" is a good thing. I left Mormonism in 1982 because I knew my sexual preference was never going to be reconciled to LDS dogma. I don't need it to be. And I strongly disagree with the stance that it's OK to struggle as long as you don't act. I ask aloud whether Ms. Campbell (or anyone) would struggle if what we all do in bed is truly our own business. I allow no organization or religion to judge me and I am pleased I learned to stop judging myself. I don't believe god will judge me either. I look forward to a conversation where the message is "you found your way, and your path is beautiful and true for you. Congratulations!" If there is any judgement in that scenario, then I'll be pleased to have a very long conversation as to "why?" How can one grant free agency and then judge? At most, I expect to hear "let me help you see where your choices didn't serve you". And that's enough.

atl134
Salt Lake City, UT

@Lander
"We have always considered it an either/or situation and she has opened the door to new possibilities."

Like bisexuality... I'm not sure why people aren't realizing that when it comes to stories that involve someone claiming homosexuality and then having kids with an opposite gender spouse.

Way of the Warrior
ANACORTES, WA

I've never liked the phrase "experiences same-sex/gender attraction" when describing someone who's sexual orientation is homosexual. Are we to refer to those with a heterosexual orientation as someone who "experiences opposite-sex/gender attraction?" That phrasing makes it sound like a condition, even a sickness. It fails to acknowledge the gravity and reality of a persons's real sexual orientation. It's almost as to say "this person is really a heterosexual who just happens to experience the temptation of an attraction to the same gender." No, that's not the case at all. A person who has a homosexual sexual orientation experiences all the same emotions, attractions, feelings, etc. for the same gender as a heterosexual feels for the opposite gender.

RanchHand
Huntsville, UT

Now how about including some stories from those of us who have found love and acceptance living "the gay lifestyle"?

I'll lay odds (oops, betting is another grave sin) that you won't include any of those stories will you. A one-sided article with a one-sided agenda. That's what I read.

Blue
Salt Lake City, UT

I have a member of my family who is now middle-aged and has had the same female "friend" live with her for decades. Both women are wonderful, generous, devout church members. Both are deeply in the closet. They think the rest of the family doesn't know. Everyone does know, but everyone pretends to not know.

The message of this website seems to be, "Sisters, you can choose to not be lesbian, and we'd be happier with you and you'll be happier, too, if you changed you orientation." I can only image the anguish and feelings of shame this website is dumping on her.

If you _genuinely_ want to love and respect church members who are gay and lesbian, then _genuinely_ respect that they are who they are and fully accept them as such, and treat them no differently than you yourself expect to be treated.

The fact that this website even exists is proof that the church doesn't really accept its homosexual members as equals.

Red Headed Stranger
Billy Bobs, TX

RanchHand

Well, please start yourself. How about including some posts from you for those who have found love and acceptance living "the Mormon lifestyle"?

I'll lay predict that you won't post any of those statements will you. A one-sided post with a one-sided agenda. That's what I read.

RanchHand
Huntsville, UT

@Red Headed Stranger;

The DN is full of those stories. Every day, all you have to do is read the "faith" section and the "opinion" section.

We weren't talking about the comments from individual readers on the articles, we're talking about the articles AND the LDS Churches on-sided web page.

But, nice try.

JoCo Ute
Grants Pass, OR

It's not simply a matter of being lesbian or not. There are also strongly bisexual issues involved here. Being married and having children is a totally legitimate side of a long life of bisexuality. I am happy to see that Campbell has been able to experience both aspects of her sexuality and find peace in the process.

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