Comments about ‘Infidelity: Women catching up in terms of cheating’

@A Voice of reason - You are kidding yourself if you think that faithful LDS don't cheat. I have had many faithful LDS friends (and some family) who have dealt with cheating in their marriage. If being faithful in a marriage is so easy for church members who "listen to the prophet", why are subscriptions to pornographic websites so high in Utah? By the way, I agree with the person who said they don't listen to "God" or "Satan". For me, I listen to my conscience. My conscience is based on what I have learned and experienced throughout my life.

A lot of marriages fail because someone is having an affair with another person. But we rarely discuss all those that fail because someone is having an affair with the TV, the refrigerator, or a credit card.

We will ALWAYS have thoughts come into our minds. I no longer feel guilty for when a bad thought comes into my mind. Our brain is just a computer that sends information to our conscious for reasons we can't always know. I'm frankly tired of Church lessons that make us feel guilty for dirty thoughts. They're normal. They're random. They're innocent, unless we let them linger.

I continue to see LDS people deal with guilt and unnecessary suffering due to the method of teaching that demonizes sex and sexual thoughts. President Packer teaches that the male sex drive is as strong as it is because otherwise a percentage of men would "not take on the responsibility of marriage and child raising".

Let's re-word our teaching to "entertaining thoughts". I remember a very righteous and well-known Church leader sharing that "dirty thoughts" still come and always will, but the frequency and intensity can diminish with righteous choices.