I love statistical science, but I shutter everytime I read the
"statistics" that are put forth as real research. Does this data account
for all the other variables that are often associated with children raised in
fatherless homes, to account for it's conclusions? Does it account for
poverty, the difficulty of supervision and adult interaction in single-parent
homes, children born as result of teen-pregnancies, etc?
That's a lot of stats about single parent families in an article trying to
be persuasive about the downfalls of genderless parenting. Where are the stats
about same-sex parent families to compare? I think it's safe to assume they
are not nearly as negative as the the single parent, impoverished family
HutteriteAmerican Fork, UT"There's obviously all kinds of
evidence for the support of the church defined model of a family. It seems to
look like the american family of the fifties. Trouble is, it doesn't exist.
I don't know if it ever did. I doubt it will again. We need a new paradigm
to deal with reality."Yes, it did exist. Yes, it still exists.
No, we don't need a 'new paradigm' to deal with reality. Reality
is that there exists a 'model' that has proven to be successful--what
you call "the church defined model", also known as a nuclear or
Re: Hutterite American Fork, UT"I don't know if it ever did. I
doubt it will again."There are successful traditional families
all over my neighborhood. They are the norm, the children in these homes are
well adjusted, really like the concept of having their bio-dads living under the
same roof with their bio-moms.Why is it that that some folks see
"the church defined model of a family" as such a threat or such a bad
thing when they have so much to offer?
The fact that such a study is necessary shows that many believe fathers do not
matter. How sad. While some fathers do abandon their responsibilities, many
women decide they no longer want to be married or need their husband in their
life. Problem is, such decisions lead to divorce and rarely do men get custody
even when there is no reason for the divorce. So the state and the wife push dad
out the door making it difficult for him to be in their the lives of their
children. The women are also automatically supported by their churches. There
needs to be a serious look at laws and the rights of fathers in such
circumstances. If a woman chooses to get a divorce based on anything outside of
abuse or infidelity, custody should not be just handed over to such woman. If
she wants to leave, go...but let dad and the kids remain intact.
Fathers and mothers are important. Any who want to have another system simply
because they say today it doesn't work are wrong. We need to try to do all
that we can to have families that have fathers and mothers. It is the best way.
Any who believe that a father or mother, or that marraige between those two, is
optional, has a serious deficit in the understanding of history, as well as
Families with a Father and Mother did exist in the fifties, but they still
exist. Fathers and Mothers are still very much alive. Children who have a Father
and Mother who are engaged in their lives will do well. The evidence is clear.
The presence of a Father and Mother who are engaged in the lives of their
children will have a positive outcome.
I am a firm believer that fathers in the home are vital and provide a role for
our children. As a former girl scout leader, we are no longer allowed to call
the daddy/daughter dance by that name. It is now the parent/daughter dance
because of all the girls growing up without dads. I was fortunate/blessed to
have my own father in the home while I was growing up. My children have also
had that blessing. I am concerned for those children growing up in homes where
dad isn't around and doesn't come around unless it is in the best
interest of the child/children (i.e., abusive father, drunkard, druggie dad,
etc.). It concerns me even more as there are now women purposely getting
pregnant so they can have a child without regard to a father. I see this more
and more these days. I wonder what these children will be like in about 10
There's obviously all kinds of evidence for the support of the church
defined model of a family. It seems to look like the american family of the
fifties. Trouble is, it doesn't exist. I don't know if it ever did. I
doubt it will again. We need a new paradigm to deal with reality.