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Published: Tuesday, Oct. 2 2012 12:00 a.m. MDT

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ECR
Burke, VA

And if was just at the restaurants it might be tolerable. But it's everywhere. I have a five block walk from my office to the subway. I'm not exaggerating when I say that once I step on the street more than 80% of the people I see are either on the phone or texting a message to someone. Morning and afternoon - it doesn't make any difference. And when I see people walking down the street with their head buried in their smart phone screen I purposely walk directly in front of them to see if they'll snap out of their trance. Most of them do but some don't.

And don't get me started on the new spelling and grammer we have come to accept. The author mentions the loss of cursive writing but what about the common English language? The short, cryptic langauage of the text message usually ends up being the standard used for general emails as well. It's a sad commentery on modern living - either that or I;m just getting old and unwilling to accept change...at least this kind of change.

Midvaliean
MIDVALE, UT

Yep, humans will evolve along with the tools we create. Hand held computers are everywhere. How we use these tools are how they will evolve to be used.
Somehow I doubt that the writer used to have meaningful conversations with all the other people in the restaurant, so the art of conversation never really left, just the authors perception of how it should be. After all, people are having conversations with people they care for on their smart phones.

Hutterite
American Fork, UT

I don't mind that people communicate with these gadgets. What makes me wonder, as you see someone at a restaurant or walking down the street or on the train is what is so important that they need to be communicating with someone else right then? How is it that the person on the machine is more important than the live human in front of you, or your safety when crossing the street, or whatever? When twitter came out (twit is a great word...) I wondered why anyone would want to know what someone else was doing or watching or eating at that moment. What I'm doing most moments of my life is no one elses' business, and I worry about the sanity of someone who says they would care about it. We need to regain introspection and thoughtfulness. And stop believing someone else cares that much about the minutae of your life. We need to start the conversation with ourselves again.

Melanna
Salt Lake City, Utah

@EeCR

"I purposely walk directly in front of them to see if they'll snap out of their trance."

While I understand your frustration your behavior in response is plane boorish. Be the change you want to see instead of just engaging in another problem behavior.

NedGrimley
Brigham City, UT

ECR: I'm guessing when driving you hold your ground in the left lane, also, even though car after car has to pass you on the right..

I recall my mom carrying on about repetitive rock and roll music, long hair and "slang" words that just weren't "proper". The world is always falling apart around us when things change. But all the indignation in the world won't slow it down. Text on...

I mean, look at us...the posters on this board. More important to write something - text something - than to have a real conversation with someone about the topic at hand...

ECR
Burke, VA

NedGrimley - Since you asked - I am adamant about the left lane rule - If no one is in front of you get out of the lane. I practice it with obsession when driving up the New Jersey turnpike to visit my grandkids in Brooklyn, NY. I wish everyone was a perfect driver like me. And in case you didn't realize it, that was sarcasm.

Melanna is right; my behavior is boorish and doesn't necessarily help the situation. And I do have a problems with so many folks, whether texting, talking or something else, who seem to be so tuned out about what's going on around them, right within their sight. So I'm sure I'll continue to be frustrated in that regard because I don't see it getting any better. But I think that's my problem.

And by the way NedGrimley, since you're in Brigham city (the city of my birth) and I am in Virginia, I'm thinking this message board is as close as we can get to having a real conversation, unless you want to leave your telephone number.

George
Bronx, NY

@ecr

I too understand your frustration and have been their my self especially on a busy subway platform. How you decide to deal with the situation does sound like it is making you frustrated but it is something you can decide to not let ruin your day. not always easy but worth trying.

NedGrimley
Brigham City, UT

Ah, for the want of a sarcasm font...

NedGrimley
Brigham City, UT

ECR. Sounds like you need to come home. Too much stress on the left coast. Thanks for the response. A big grin needs to accompany many of my posts but the moderators won't let them through...

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