Vai noted, "Pro sports is unforgiving. It doesn't honor birthdays,
piano or dance recitals, baptisms, weddings or anniversaries." Danny Ainge
famously stepped down from his head coaching job with the Phoenix Suns a few
years ago to re-direct his time more toward his family. He noted that he was
fortunate to be able to make that choice, where many people are not. I know that Andy Reid took some time off when his older boys' problems
became public a few years ago, and I suspect he would have made the same
decision as Danny Ainge if he thought it would have been the difference needed
in his sons' lives. But this is a cautionary tale for all of us in
whatever line of work we are in. Any career or pursuit that takes away our
focus from our children has to be examined very seriously indeed.
Been there and done that with our eldest child who wasted his youth and young
adult years with drug abuse and associated criminal behavior. He's finally
turned around - we went to the temple together last week. During those dark
years we did everything we could to help him see the need to turn to the light,
to no avail until he realized the need himself. Kids can reject the gospel
teachings and love of their parents - their agency gives them that right - and
when they do the parental pain can be all but overwhelming. My wife
and I know the heartbreak the Reid's have experienced and are experiencing
and we're terribly sorry at the loss of their son.At the same
time, it's important to remember that the fat lady hasn't sung for
Garrett - the power of the atonement extends into the post-mortal world. If he
so chooses, Garrett can use it's redemptive power where he is, even as he
could have used it here.
Vai,You have a great way with words. Your love and empathy are
apparent. God bless the Reid family.
My sympathy and empathy are mirrored in those messages already expressed.What pain it is to lose a child - no matter the age - no matter the reason!
Already been there. Thank you Vai for giving us the opportunity to
extend comfort and support to the Reid family and an unbelievable number of
others just like them. The "great and terrible battle" did not end - it
only changed venue. We are all subject to loss and grief. There will be a
greater day to come.
I've witnessed the gradual decline of several freinds, as the ways of the
world slowly overtook them. Despite attempts to warn them, and prayers, and
tears, they choose nevertheless to continue on the path of self-destruction. A
few of them have found their way back, thank God, but one - my own brother -
ended up dead due to decades of heavy smoking and alchohol abuse. I hope and
pray that Garret's siblings may use this tragedy as a means to re-confirm
their own faith in God, and commit to higher purposes in life My sympathies and
prayers go to Mr. Reid and his family.
My thoughts and prayers are with the Reid family. This kind of thing happens to
the best and worst of us. We truly need each other at times like this. I
appreciate the candor of the Reids even though I'm sure it hurts to say it.
Hopefully it will help others who have lost their way in life.
Thank you, Vai, for your kind discussion of Garrett and the Reid family. My
heart breaks for them as they mourn this loss.
I was hoping that Vai would have something to say that would help put this into
perspective. I was not disappointed.I have an acquaintance who works
in law enforcement and he has frequently told me that the biggest problems with
educating adults in this area about drug addiction is that they are totally
convinced it only happens to kids in bad neighborhoods with bad parents.
I've always been grateful for his blunt advice and education about warning
signs of substance abuse. It helped me save one of my own sons. It really is a
disease that requires early detection and treatment. No family is immune.
Tough article (well done) about a tragic situation. Please let the Reids know of
so many here that wish him and his wife well. Our thoughts and prayers go to
them. What a tough load to carry. I hope Garrett's challenges are
remembered by every man, woman and child who even think momentarily of ingesting
any illicit drug. Once you've tasted the poison it is tough to overcome.
I am glad that the Reid family chose to acknowledge their son's battle with
addiction rather than to pretend otherwise. Great families struggle everyday
with addiction and some battles are won, and many are lost. Addicts are not
weak. They are not immoral. They are afflicted with a terrible disease that
takes a lifetime of work to overcome. I hope that before anyone judges an
addict for their "choices" they will realize that it takes a lot more
than better "choices" to beat the disease of addiction. Trust me, I
Vai, Great thoughts. I wish the Reids well during this tragic time.
Thanks Vai.Condolences to the Reid family at this very sad time.
Condolences to Andy and Tammy Reid. No doubt they have done their best, yet
children must and do make their own choices. Nut he is theirs and will be...the
end is not yet. Keep the faith, brother.