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Published: Monday, July 30 2012 11:17 p.m. MDT

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yarrlydarb
Ogden, UT

Read up and listen up, all you scolders and spankers!

Lasvegaspam
Henderson, NV

"If we as parents cannot convince our children with words, then we shall never convince them with violence," said a member of the Swedish Parliament.

No wonder there’s such confusion on this topic, when a so-called expert can make such an illogical statement.

First, one does not have to spank to act “violently”. Throwing things, yelling, and making threats are all ways of acting “violently” without laying a hand on a child. Have those things also been banned in Sweden??

Second, words themselves can be violent, as well as the way they’re delivered. Will talking to our children be banned next??

Fern RL
LAYTON, UT

"Brown found that when she stopped using physical discipline as a means of discipline and instead let her son know he was loved and deserving of her respect, his conduct changed."

I loved this article and agree with everything except legislating "good parental behavior." Anytime anyone is forced to do something, or not to do it, there is something either lost or replaced by rebellion.

I didn't like to give my children "time-outs" either, because I thought it was too much like putting them in prison. I would give myself time-outs, and relish the positive effect it had on me, but I am glad to hear how I could have given them the option of a positive time-out, and I hope my grandchildren will be raised better than their parents were.

Oatmeal
Woods Cross, UT

"The study found that the odds of a child being more aggressive — defiant, physically violent, prone to temper tantrums — at age 5 increased by 50 percent if he had been spanked more than twice a month."

I don't see the data as proving causation. Could we not also read the data to suggest that frazzled parents spank children who are more defiant and act out more? What if certain children are more defiant and physically violent and tend to end up getting spanked more than other children? The spanking simplify identifies this subgroup within the population and then assumes that spanking is the cause.

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