Comments about ‘Effective fatherhood plays out in tiny scenes and fleeting moments’

Fatehrs are sn integral part of a child's life. Too bad divorced fathers still have to fight for time with their kids.

Income wise, we are probably at the bottom of the food chain, and yet, the thing I hear from my children the most often is "Please, play with us", and not "Go make more money".

The media and Hollywood have been trying to tell us for so long that single parenting is where it is at and that in most scenarios, you can get by just fine without a father. The research just doesn't support it, however.

More and more I think we need to accept the fact that family life it critical and having two parents is essential.

@ulvegaard

"More and more I think we need to accept the fact that family life it critical and having two parents is essential."

Is ideal. There are plenty of parents who raise great kids by themselves. It's not ideal. But it's not essential either.

Men don't generally sign up for things that take more time commitment than a weekend. So Fatherhood's a hard sale to a lot of guys. While I appreciate the female perspective on fatherhood, it's often doesn't connect with the intended audience, because women approach family and fatherhood from a completely different direction than men do.

Re: yuvgot2bkidding Salt Lake, Utah
"Too bad divorced fathers still have to fight for time with their kids."

It is too bad that children have to suffer through the trauma of seeing their families torn apart.

It is too bad that some children have immature parents who are too selfish to make their marriages work.

Lucky is the child that can grow up in a secure traditional family with parents that not only teach them concepts of morality but then set an example their children can follow.

I give single parents - who are really trying - loads of credit for the hurculean efforts they make in behalf of their children. It is hard raising children with two parents, but with one, it is a tremendous challenge. Those who do it well are to be praised and respected. And they often do it through no choice of their own. I would guess that most dedicated single mothers would prefer to have a suppostive, loving, dedicated husband, and vice versa for a single dad.

But that does not change the fact that an intact family with a committed man and woman in marriage should be the goal whenever possible. Those lucky enough to have such should be humble and grateful.