Benjamin McLane Spock will be rolling over in his grave now.
I was thinking the same thing as "A Voice of Reason". Then I thought,
there is so much that is true.I was raised by an uninvolved father,
and a fierce, authoritarian, negative-reinforcement mother. I did not fare well
in my life until the last few years. Worse, I became my mother to my
children.I hope that as I moved forward in the new path I have
chosen, I will be bale either restore or create better relationships with them;
and that this terrible cycle be broken.My mother acted the way she
did because of things that happened in her life. I did the same. I
wish I'd had the guidance and wisdom of someone who knew better than I how
to raise my own.What was said yesterday - give your child
responsibility; let them make their own decisions (depending on age); hold them
accountable; raise them so they can make good decisions...the best parenting
advice I've ever heard.To all the wounded...things can change.
"here was never any discussion... That was just how it had to be."This article seems to say the exact opposite of what a great conference
talk today suggested. Giving people responsibility step by step is appropriate.