Comments about ‘Helping marriages progress is the greatest Valentine's Day gift’

This article is a pure delight. The ideas suggested for couples who want to take their relationships to the next higher level are based on solid and sound reasoning. Each one makes perfect sense and so simple that it's surprising someone hasn't capitalized on it and made millions. Thank you to the Eyres for their high=mindedness and brilliant solutions in presenting the world with the best ideas ever to be shared.

I too liked this article as it sounds awesome... but at the same time, it is unfortunate seeing as how my marriage is pretty much on the skids. My wife spends way too much time with her friend and all she does is text and text and text and we barely spend any quality time together. It's almost as if she's having an affair, but I trust she is not. It's just that her friend is single and I think she lives vicariously through her. She kinda wishes she was her friend. That's the sense I get, anyway. Yes, I am definitely jealous--but only because I wish that was me getting to spend all that time with my wife. They are even going on a trip together in the spring. It's becoming ever more distant and I feel too meek to try and save it. This article gives me great ideas--wishful thinking is more like it--but all I see is her saying how silly it would be to have a sit down pow-wow every Sunday. Hence the reason I feel like this is going to be over at some point in the future. Anyway, Happy Valentine's Day to all the happy people out there. Wish that was me!

Lawrence maybe you have nothing to lose, so why not go for it? Invite her on a dinner date, and do it formally with a written invitation - like a card and ask for an rsvp commitment ("will you join me for dinner Friday at 7 p.m.?"). Then pick a place where you can talk (most restaurants are noisy and not very private so pick a good place - we like a particular Thai and an Indian restaurant for their ambience).

In your discussion focus on what you like/love about her and tell her your dream is to become more of what she wants in a husband. You can keep it light, but at least putting her on notice that you are serious about creating a happy marriage may get her thinking and she may begin to pay attention to what she is bringing (or taking) to the relationship.

Don't give up! Don't nag! Just pray every morning to know how to help her be happy, and follow through. You might be amazed and have a turnaround - and even if you don't (she doesn't respond and your marriage does end) you will feel FABULOUS about the way you responded to the difficulties, which will help you move on.

'Helping marriages progress is the greatest Valentine's Day gift' - title

**'LDS Church's in-kind donations to Prop. 8 total $190K' - By Lynn Arave - By Dsnews - 02/03/09

"Proposition 8 was a ballot measure in California last November that changed the state constitution to restrict the definition of marriage to opposite-sex couples and eliminated same-sex couples' right to marry." article

But only if you are straight.

Right?

The thing that is great about this article, and it seems about most of what the Eyres write, is that it is direct, simple, proactive, and can be implemented right NOW!
I am always amazed at how people say their spousal relationship is the most important thing in their lives, but they don't actually schedule or think through a strategy to make it better and to cause romance and synergy to continue to grow.
Bottom line: We all need to put more THOUGHT and more EFFORT into our marriages. Thanks Eyres, not only for the tips, but for the ongoing reminder!

I have a job such that I can take scheduled lunch breaks at home. Once a week I try to meet my wife somewhere for lunch. It's been a great thing. I find I want to spend more time with her. I also find that with the kids at school there are fewer distractions and we actually get some time to communicate.

Well, Eyres, I think you do more harm than good here for those whose marriages are doing their very best to be on level 3, with no hope of going higher.