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Published: Tuesday, Jan. 31 2012 7:44 p.m. MST

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best friend
ogden, 00

Here is one comment submitted to the committee in support of the bill:
I support HB 88 to ensure that mothers and fathers get equal consideration during custody proceedings. The courts should listen to both sides equally and not discriminate on the basis of gender. However, I have seen gender bias during my friendâs custody battle, which has stretched on for one and a half years. Because of the ongoing nature of the litigation, I am not able to share all the details of his harrowing story at this point.
My friend sought a divorce because he feared for the safety of his children while in the care of their mother, who has personally revealed to me that she is bipolar. Despite my friendâs best efforts, his children were harmed irreparably during the custody battle while in the care of their mother. It was exactly what my friend had been trying so long to prevent. The event resulted in a temporary restraining order between the children and their maternal uncle, a registered sex offender.
I do believe that the childrenâs best interest should be at heart when custody is determined in Utah courts. Contrary to what seems to be common belief, sometimes fathers are the best caregivers for their children. Although some men can be deadbeats, courts should not overlook hardworking, honest men who have their childrenâs best interests at heart.

gmak
Spanish Fork, UT

As the article says, this should be a no-brainer. Seems like the law shouldn't even be necessary, because common sense should prevail. But maybe the bias of some judges requires a law like this.

spring street
SALT LAKE CITY, UT

how refereshing to have the Utah leg. take up a common sense bill instead of just tilting at windmills.

TheWalker
Saratoga Springs, UT

This bill is long overdue. I spent 5 years and $30,000 to get custody of my children, even when it was apparent from day one that I was always the more responsible parent. However, even then, the damage had been done and now two of my children have become addicted to drugs and alcohol, with a bleak future ahead of them.

There is no evidence to indicate that women make any better parents than men, and significant research shows that both girls and boys benefit immensely from having a father. This is especially true during the teenage years when youth start making important lifestyle choices and both girls and boys look to their father as a role model.

The act of taking children from their fathers because of their gender is discrimination at it's worst, and unless you have been through it, it is difficult to describe the feelings of sorrow, anger, and depression that result.

Canuk
SALT LAKE CITY, UT

I fought for so long with another dedicated grandmother to try and move something like this along. It has been a disgrace that mothers are the only one considered and the damage that has been done to many children over the years because of it. I know the agony and grief with a step father who was abusive and you could not get the courts to listen to the children or change the decree. I can just imagine the heart break of this father and the paternal family who had an idea of how things were going to turn out, and the judge would not listen.
Good for the legislature finally listening.

Pagan
Salt Lake City, UT

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