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Published: Monday, Dec. 26 2011 7:13 p.m. MST

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The Rock
Federal Way, WA

Wonderful outcome to a very dangerous situation.
Hats off to those who followed up and saved a life.

Interesting fact: Most cases of domestic violence are between unmarried couples. One of the most dangerous things a woman can do is to live with a man she is not married to.

Perhaps the safest women are those who are at home with their husbands after 9:00 PM. There are exceptions of course.

There is a reason that marriage has survived for more than 5,000 years.

Nana Sid
West Jordan, UT

Someone help me understand why she was still with him if he did this before. I'm glad so many tried so hard to help her. Now, could people try just as hard to help her find other options in her life?

Californian#1@94131
San Francisco, CA

* "A year ago, Critchfield was arrested by a Salt Lake City SWAT team in a similar kidnapping incident INVOLVING THE SAME VICTIM. He pleaded guilty to aggravated assault and obstruction of justice charges." *

Lady, you got a new lease on life thanks to Facebook. Make better use of the coming year than you did of the last.

Rifleman
Salt Lake City, Utah

"A year ago, Critchfield was arrested by a Salt Lake City SWAT team in a similar kidnapping incident involving the same victim"

Ladies - a word of advice: If your boyfriend hits you once he will hit you again just a sure as the sun comes up in the east every morning. No decent man hits a woman, and no woman I know would put up with that kind of behavior for much more than about 1/2 second.

Critchfield needs to stay in jail until his trial, and his girlfriend needs to move on while he is still in prison.

hapticz
New York, NY

wow, lets HOPE the lady get's over this control freak thug.

he's trying to CENSOR all her expression!

xert
Santa Monica, CA

Instead of lecturing women about abuse and how they can be more like me (CAT)--I'd like to thank the people who stepped up and did something to help. This is an amazing use of community and you should be incredibly proud of your efforts.

Jennifer
sandy, utah

I want to know why Mrs. Carver hates Christmas; perhaps she is not at all religious. I am not a big fan of the commercial end of it and could understand an aversion to that aspect of it.

So glad for the "happy" ending, or perhaps "beginning", for the victom.

CTR Stan
PROVO, UT

@xert: Thank you for not judging abused women!

Understanding abuse is a difficult thing and most people do not comprehend how anyone can get caught in its snares. Abuse is often multi-generational and perpetrators of abuse easily target shackled abuse victims. Breaking the chains of abuse can require great effort. This article about a woman using Facebook to reach out for help is a good example of how a support network can help stop abuse. Hopefully others will reach out to this woman and help her break the cycles of abuse. A support network can include: family, friends, law enforcement, teachers, doctors, mental health professionals, church leaders, and in this case social networking (Facebook).

Abuse can be stopped, but it often requires the love and support of others to help the abused break the chains that hold them.

RN4moms
Bountiful, UT

This is a wonderful story. In most cases it takes abuse victims quite a while to break free for a myriad of reasons - often financial and psychological. She has been treated badly for so long she loses confidence in herself and her ability to break free.

The one snag in this rescue was the difficulty in finding the real information. While we try to stay safe on the internet in social networking, obviously the lack of information can backfire.

So glad she got help and I hope the help will continue so she can heal and find a way to take care of herself for the future.

Butch70
Spokane, WA

It seems to me that these jokers never learn while on probation to keep their nose clean.

ClarkKent
Bountiful, Utah

Rifleman | 6:37 a.m. Dec. 27, 2011
Salt Lake City, Utah
"Ladies - a word of advice: If your boyfriend hits you once he will hit you again just a sure as the sun comes up in the east every morning. No decent man hits a woman."

I second that advice, and I'll add another piece of advice. Ladies, if your boyfriend has cheated on another woman, don't think he won't cheat on you. Abusers and cheaters are a personality type that all women should steer clear of.

gramma b
Orem, UT

If this woman lets him back the home again -- like she did the last time he abused her -- the police should simply refuse to respond to the next domestic violence call.

Taylor
Orem, UT

I'm just a little puzzled. Since I'm not a face book fan, I don't know why she couldn't post her address there, delaying her rescue--probably some restriction.

Why didn't she also use email, and easily post her address, and send it as an urgent message to everyone in her address book? Has the current generation given up on email? And if they have, how do they ever expect to find a job? (Actual employment requires constant use of email, not facebook, in my experience.)

Facebook has a lot of security issues, potential for bullying and badmouthing, and really cranks up the danger of identity theft. But at least this once, it helped someone in need, although email sure would have been appropriate and perhaps saved a lot of time.

Rifleman
Salt Lake City, Utah

Re: xert | 8:45 a.m. Dec. 27, 2011
"Instead of lecturing women about abuse and how they can be more like me ...."

This victim had a child that was also in danger and who witness the suspect repeatedly assaulting his mother. This woman had a duty (responsibility) to protect her child even if she herself was willing to put herself in harm's way.

ClarkKent
Bountiful, Utah

Rifleman | 2:44 p.m. Dec. 27, 2011
Salt Lake City, Utah
Re: xert | 8:45 a.m. Dec. 27, 2011
"This victim had a child that was also in danger and who witness the suspect repeatedly assaulting his mother. This woman had a duty (responsibility) to protect her child even if she herself was willing to put herself in harm's way. "

@Rifleman, although we don't know all the facts here, you are right about a parent's duty. Sometimes it takes the State to temporarily remove the children from a woman who is staying in an abusive relationship to give her a wakeup call.

Roy Fan
Roy, UT

Rich and Erika...you guys are amazing! I've always thought the world of you! Scott and Alicia

tigger
AMERICAN FORK, UT

Someone help me understand this: why the cryptic facebook message? Why not be direct and say I need help--send police. Why didn't she email anyone? Sincerely, I get the cycle of abuse stuff. Just don't get the mysteriousness.

George Hilbert
POUGHKEEPSIE, NY

Man this guy is in real trouble now. He's probably facing 60 days in jail and two years probation.

Noodlekaboodle
Salt Lake City, UT

I wish the judge would mandate that the suspect pays for conseling for the victim. In this case or any case where someone is convicted of domestic abuse. The above posters that say it is difficult for someone to break the cycle of abuse are correct. But since we know that victims often go back to their abusers why don't get them help to realize that their is a better way. Also although they are wrong I understand why some people are so confused why a victim would go back, a person in a healthy mental state wouldn't go back. Although it is not entirely their fault, there is something wrong with you if someone kidnaps you and holds you hostage and you agree to let them live with you again. I think it would be ultimate justice to have the abuser pay to have someone help their victim break free from their grasp.

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