This is really great advice, not just for singles either. How many marrieds
could do better to focus their worship and service in their wards, without
thinking about the social aspect and how it will benefit them? How many of us
marrieds can benefit from Dinner Parties to make and keep friends? I think this
advice is especially good in areas where there is a high concentration of LDS
people, because we get too focused on the 4 square blocks that make up our ward
boundaries and forget the people who live beyond those boundaries (including our
non-LDS neighbors and co-workers who would probably like to make more friends
To Doctor: No where in the article say that you are only to date within the
Ward/Branch. In fact, what it says is to become involved in it. There is a
huge difference in dating and becoming involved in the Ward/Branch. Many
singles are intimidated in a family ward where they aren't in a singles ward.
However, they do date outside of the ward because they met someone at an
activity and dated. This person could live in a completely different area of
the state or in another ward.Your comment I believe simply misleads
In my opinion, feeling that you have a place and role in a ward (should) have no
correlation to your outlook on potential marriage partners.The real
friends you have - the ones that don't change when ward boundaries change - are
the ones with whom you can and should identify. They are the ones that share
your hobbies, perspective, and worries. If this seems to lack, because people do
marry and move away, consider setting goals of spending time with people you
usually don't or going where you haven't been before or joining a class to
develop yet another talent.Church can stay reserved as your haven
where you learn to follow the teachings of Christ through service and worship.
You've been through the rough years of school, of first interviews, of failed
first loves. Help those in your ward who are rookies.PS. Newly-weds
have a plethora of single friends they are trying to hook up. ;)
If church leadership restricted you to dating within your ward would you obey?
Why is this a point mentioned more then once?
I'd also recommend looking into mid-singles wards and groups, created for
singles in their 30's and early 40's. You might not be eligible to be an
official member of a mid-singles ward until you're 31, but they might allow you
to participate in activities anyway.